On countless occasions we receive invitations from friends, family, business or institutions. I have observed that the attendees avoid complying with elementary guidelines of courtesy and common sense. Once again, we are facing a situation that exposes the fragile urbanity of our environment, without differences of sex, status, origin or age.
Next, I suggest some brief precepts focused on a better relationship with those who are kind enough to summon us. Within this context, I reiterate what has been so often stated: it is essential to assume good education as a culture of life in force at all times, events and venues.
Do not start eating until the host does, turn off your cell phone and avoid getting up to go to the services. Also, don't make the offense of pouring yourself huge portions, putting your elbows on the table, answering the phone, reaching out, proposing toasts if you are not induced by the host to do so and remember: "Eat as if you are not hungry, drink as if you were not thirst".
It is important to note our appearance and proceed when entering, during the day and when we retire. Refuse to stay to the end, consume excessive liquor and food, have heated and wild talk. Avoid high-sounding attitudes as a result of heavy alcohol intake. Her favorable image may be affected due to her tactless development.
Give back. It is important to reciprocate as far as circumstances allow. In order to enrich our human relationship, they must be roundtrip. That is, if you want to always be included in the anniversary of your friends and family, also take the initiative to entertain as a manifestation of your desire to maintain the relationship forged.
To conclude, I have a few additional guidelines. Refrain from asking indiscreet questions or observations; do not propose that they bring you a drink of your choice; be careful in the period of stay (in a dinner or lunch the maximum time is four hours); If an incident happens, do not explain and avoid making that a gathering; If you are served an unknown or unpleasant snack, take a small amount. You are not required to consume what you do not want.
Take your personal cards with you; Don't come complaining about how difficult it was to find the address. Everyone lives where she can and opening her home is extending her heart. Therefore, develop a dialog for attendee access; do not ask for anything special or different from what is offered, avoid asking homeowners about the list of participants and the reasons why they have omitted to invite this or that person.
In “perulandia”, a medium saturated with indelications and nonsense, last minute calls are daily. On countless occasions we have been called a few days or hours in advance to attend a social gathering. I recommend showing your self-esteem and declining a scant invitation. Well, this shows that you were never on the list of event headlines; but as a replacement. Nothing so far from looking. Let us contribute to banishing that reckless and creole tradition.
Show adaptability with peers to be alternated. The culture, the handling of information on current affairs and the empathetic disposition will make a pleasant evening viable. Each invitation is a great event to expand your network of contacts and have a more expanded look. These offer possibilities to enrich our disposition of coexistence, tolerance and assertiveness. What Euripides, thinker and poet of ancient Greece and member of the third generation of the triad who managed to exalt the Greek tragedy, come to mind: “It is nature that gives the nobility in conduct; but education, nevertheless, teaches the rules ”.
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(*) Teacher, consultant in event organization, protocol, professional image and social etiquette.
