The basis of growth and development in all areas of our lives is based on the quality of the relationship or bond that we develop with everyone around us. It all depends on the way we relate, how we act and manage our relationships.
We are social beings by nature and therefore we must optimize this nature with purpose. It is a condition that God gave us to grow based on the help of our neighbor, but unfortunately we are making mistakes when practicing it day by day.
I want to link this article with the field of teaching-learning, a task that teachers, trainers, facilitators or teachers carry out; however we call the person in charge of training others as men of good.
Reflecting as always on our work and in the effort to make it more productive and satisfying, I have come to the conclusion that all human practice, including educational practice, requires proper direction and government of people that start with oneself and need fertile ground. as a strategy to purposefully develop what we seek.
Precisely this terrain is that of assertive relationships or ties that we have the obligation to develop, if we want to grow and help others to grow.
The question then arises : how to create successful relationships or bonds with our students?
It is a question that we must answer seriously even more when many of us develop our educational practice, which must be an example and paradigm in the formation of good men and that we do wrong by simply complying with the routine of the development of our classes and that's it; forgetting that a successful relationship and with mystical teaching depends not only on what is transmitted to them but also on how a series of constructive actions are developed in light of the truth and foundations that I will develop below.
"This requires more effort and dedication," said a colleague. It will certainly be an attitude that we must learn to do, he replied.
"Dealing with complicated people is always a problem, especially if the complicated person is oneself."
Personal relationships are not difficult but they become complicated when we do not apply the Golden Rule: "Do to others what you would like them to do to you" or "Do not do to others what you would not like them to do to you. " Or better yet: "Treat others as they would like you to treat them."
Every day we interact with our students and it is probable that with some we get along very well, however with others it is difficult for us to develop a relationship and this can cost us a failure.
Leadership expert John C. Maxwell says: "All successes in life are the result of initiating relationships with the right people and then strengthening those relationships with good relational skills."
As a first step, it is important to treat others as we would like to be treated. Various problems attack the relationship and many times are not resolved due to selfishness, we seek to win when the ideal is for us to win both.
We must remember that what you do to the other you do to yourself.
If I cheat or do improper things in my work, I do not value relationships or friends and what I am looking for is my personal gain, I am deceiving myself. Don't think you're getting away with it. There is the law of sowing and harvesting that says: “We reap what we sow; more than we sow, then we reap. " So I must ask myself: What am I sowing in this relationship?
If I am sowing love, I will reap love. But, if I am sowing deception, I will reap deception. If I sow seeds of righteousness I will reap peace, integrity, charitable relationships of great quality and permanent value.
I think we all want healthy relationships, relationships that make us grow, relationships where we can feel loved; we should never propose to take advantage of the relationship, that would be manipulation and you're only fooling yourself in the end.
I must ask myself: What things should I get out of my life and routine that contaminates me?
Remember the great commandment given by God "love your neighbor as yourself" . You cannot love your neighbor until you first love yourself, you cannot value others until you value yourself. The point is that you have no advantages over others, you are not alone and you need good relationships to live.
We must make our students reach their maximum potential, this will improve results and generate loyalty.
Our students must know what their areas of opportunity are and this is done by constructively evaluating them.
With our instructions you have the opportunity to reach your full potential. This is accomplished with constant feedback, teaching, and learning.
Beyond relying solely on a list of precepts, support your students all the way to achieve their goals.
The basis of our work is based on trust, without which it cannot be realized. Let's build relationships of mutual trust.
It is important that we know how to express the purpose of the session, the purpose of the course or subject.
It is important to clarify the purpose of our joint work. The key is to set the goal or achievement amicably and clearly.
Agreements must be reached when there are inconveniences in the process and be aware of the consequences. To do this, it is recommended to specify which are the areas to work on.
Remember to make commitments when you act. Make sure you make a verbal commitment and most of all, when it will be taken.
Learn how to handle excuses. At any point in the process pretexts will arise. To process them, reframe the comment and focus in another way on the point to be treated, without this being accusatory, but rather a stimulus for your student to examine their performance. It is very important that you feel supported and understood at all times.
The best teachers understand the value and importance of continual feedback, both positively and correctively. To carry it out, the speech must observe some characteristics:
It is not the same to listen insistently: "let me do it", "it is not right", "I have told you a thousand times", "all my life the same", "it is wrong, you do not know how to solve problems"… living in an environment where words have another connotation: "you know, say it", "you are a champion", "you can do it", "I congratulate you for having done it alone and well", "with you we can champion", "you are moving forward ”,“ your work shows that you are improving yourself ”, etc.
In the end, positive feedback reinforces the student's reaching their full potential. People tend (by nature) to give a better effort when they are recognized and appreciated.
When feedback is corrective and not handled properly, it can be a major source of friction and conflict. In contrast, if done properly, you will most likely experience positive effects and much better performance.
I want to conclude this message with the clear conviction that this message will serve to be better and with the continuous practice of daily improvement we will make our work a work of excellence as our “disciples” will be excellent.
Remember that a successful relationship has three basic components: the attraction of the members, the maintenance or daily support and the development of all.
Today is the best time to start living under the Golden Rule, to start treating others as we would like to be treated, or better yet, as they would like to be treated. This will surely lead us to be happy, productive, to live in a better world and to make our task a task with purposes and where our educational practice under the leadership approach must be a privilege that is earned by serving.
A relationship based on love becomes an extraordinary link of pedagogical relationship; The word is not enough, but the action, the attitude.
The approach between educator and educating through affection and the reflective and understanding word potentiates, energizes and energizes the creative capacity of the student, produces efficient learning.
Teacher attitudes that are related to affective reactions are transmitted to students and influence their performance.
Attitudes of attachment and concern towards students are linked to better academic productivity.
Finally I want to quote Scheler's text: "you only learn what you sympathize with, love moves when you know."
