How many times have we all done our part to convince others that we are great? You too, right?
Maybe when you get to a new course where all people are new to you, or when you have to meet your partner's family, or you may have just moved to a new place, or you have changed jobs and you have a new team with you, or they just introduced you to a person you consider fantastic and would like to be their friend… the examples are countless.
In all cases we want to fit in the new environment, be great in the eyes of these new people, be loved, accepted, be part…
And the fact is that there is a great difference between proving your affection, your good intentions, your love, and simply sharing-you, sharing your love and your presence.
Think about how many times you have tried to impress someone, to show how valuable you are, to be accepted by someone, and perhaps you have felt rejected, judged, separated.
I have realized that the times this has happened to me, it was because I was not evaluating myself, I did not feel that I fit in, nor did I feel valuable enough. Sometimes the only reason I felt that way was that I was judging myself in the eyes of others.
I focused too much on what the other person would be thinking, feeling, judging… and considering that I am very sensitive and empathetic with others, I always felt the barriers… without realizing that it was a projection of my own barriers, my own judgments.
Has this ever happened to you? It is time to change things.
The first thing we always have to do is ask ourselves… of all the people around me, with whom do I feel comfortable, accepted, dear,…? Because the chances of these people being on the same page are numerous, and ideally, you should choose to spend your time with them, and not with those who make you feel uncomfortable, inadequate, or withdrawn.
I believe in union, and when I realize the barriers, or the judgments of others, I simply choose to stop putting my energy there. I believe that people add up, and of course I choose who I want to add up with. And if, for some reason, I choose someone who does not want to join me, as soon as I realize (that discomfort I was talking about) I loose, I surrender to a higher reality that everything is perfect, and the way is shown to me in many ways. ways, and I keep walking, without forcing anything, and without looking back.
Maybe the meeting will be later, maybe it doesn't have to be. Maybe that was the only contact necessary… time and life will tell me.
And I choose presence and share with whom I resonate harmoniously, with whom I grow and learn, with whom I laugh and enjoy, with whom I feel comfortable, with whom I choose to add with me, without caring at all what others will think of me, without trying to convince anyone of how wonderful I perceive the meeting can be.. because it is true that I don't really know anything !! the Universe knows much more, and shows me my vibration, my energy, through the energy of those around me… my mirrors. I just have to watch.
- Where am I? How do I feel? Am I honoring myself? Am I loving myself? Am I accepting myself?
I no longer need to understand, I no longer need to convince, I no longer need to be right… on the loose, I relax, I look around at who is, and I continue on my way, enjoying it with absolute presence, in the present moment. Because I know who I am, and I don't need others to know it to value me.
Life is much simpler like this, easier to let go, easier to forgive, easier to live the present intensely, with acceptance.
Remember, you don't need to prove to anyone that you are cool. You just have to know.
