Tell me how you observe and I will tell you who you are…
Our observation of world events depends on the type of observer we are. Specifically, there is no direct apprehension of what is observed that we can play in terms of: "this is the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth" and then rest easy.
Jokes aside, we do not see the things of the world as they are, rather that observation that we make "speaks of us" in terms of our way of perceiving.
Deep psychology establishes that we perceive what we already have in mind. Something like this: a pre-stimulus brand that would attract some of them, discarding others. A good translation of what was said would be: One sees, what one wants to see.
Then it is possible to think that: “The objectivity” that sometimes we try to have, is muddy terrain and can play tricks on us. Scientists are not spared from this. What has been said would also put your daily task, based on observation, in check.
The scientific method is more than strict and requires many experiments based on facts; It takes a long time and thousands of tests to affirm a hypothesis in the field of science.
What we get from our perception is, first of all, an interpretation and there are as many interpretations as there are people, about the same phenomenon in the world.
The interpretation that is given of a fact or phenomenon, is related to the action that can continue to that interpretation, we could say that the actions are going to be in line with it. Hence the great importance they have and why we say they can play tricks on us.
The interpretation that we give ourselves on an issue, directly affects the results that we want to achieve on something in life related to that issue.
If the interpretation hinders and does not "open" the way, the result is not as expected.
An example: if a friend betrays us and the pain we feel leads us to think "they are capable of betraying", we are interpreting a fact in such a way that all our actions will be oriented - without realizing it - away from people. Result: we felt alone and without a doubt that, was not in the plans.
The interpretations come from what is called: "mental model" the great machine of interpreting! and that without remedy we carry; It is not difficult then to think that according to our mental model, we will act in the world and we will have certain results as a result of our action.
Now, if we take a few minutes to reflect on those results that we are obtaining and think: do they coincide with what we expect? If they coincide, we are happy and continue in that direction. But if they don't, if the results of our actions bring us together with frustration, what can be done?
Anyone would say to change the actions, to carry out acts different from those of which we were taking hold with balance of discontent and low result.
But of course, it is not so clear, many times we are taken by the emotion of "I can't", "it doesn't work", "I'm useless", etc. In those moments the world disappears and we feel alone. Something is interrupted.
Perhaps it is time to think that someone can help us to have different actions, different processes and different thoughts, in short: challenge our mental model.
Although we can never “take off from our interpretations”, the best thing would be to be able to count on the ones that make it possible and not the ones that serve as sticks on the wheel.
Giving it a spin, it may be time for us to approach a professional coaching. Someone who is trustworthy and capable of training us in the difficult art of closing wounds and exploring possibilities, those that inadvertently and responding to our mental model, we continually close with interpretations to which we give the weight of: “It is the truth, I am objective".
Someone who can help us believe in our capabilities and cast doubt on those interpretations that move us further and further from our goals, to find others, that pave the way for results.
Someone of whom we can say later to a friend:
–You know, I talked to a coach…
