Maybe you have been following all the steps of "The Secret" or "The Law of Attraction" for a long time and you still have not been able to achieve what you wanted, to have the partner you are looking for, the successful business, the perfect job, the money What would you like, optimal health, and this stresses you, frustrates and impatient, you feel that you are doing something wrong. If this is your case, I invite you to continue reading. In this article, I will share 4 key principles for dealing with this frustration and enjoying your life more here and now.
At the beginning of 2007, in Barcelona, I saw the documentary El Secreto for the first time and it really struck me. At that time the Spanish subtitled version only appeared and as soon as I had it, I began to share it with many people. I remember having meetings to watch the documentary in a center where we filled the room with about 50 people each time. At that time, the film opened my eyes to a more positive way of seeing life, in which I felt less victim of circumstances and of what was happening around me, and I am grateful for this, that has happened 3 years.
Lately I have received messages asking me my opinion about The Law of Attraction and commenting on their frustration at not getting what they want so much. My answer is that I still think that it is a first step to see life in a more open and positive way and also, that today, I cannot corroborate from my own experience that the secret or the law of attraction works or not… Some Things turned out for me and others did not, and I know of people who did not manage to attract what they were looking for and this made them feel frustrated, or guilty for having created negative situations in their lives, without knowing how they did it or how to change it. Of course, if what you are looking for is to be happy and have a pleasant life, this frustration and guilt does not give you happiness, it takes it away from you… And therefore I will share some concepts offered by Byron Katie,author of the Bestsellers "Loving What Is" and "A Thousand Names for Joy" that serve me and many other people to live a more peaceful life.
Principle 1:
The Secret: You can have what you want. The secret teaches you how to get money, achievements, partner, health, to be happy, and that when you have it you will have the life you want and you will be happy. And the reality for me is that the mere fact of "needing something you don't have now" to be happy, leads you to be unhappy now… it makes you feel that you are missing something and perceive life from scarcity.
Enjoy what you have now: Instead of pushing yourself to get a partner, enjoy life, with or without a partner, instead of forcing yourself to get money or the perfect job, enjoy life with or without money, enjoy employment that you have, until you have another… Because when you are focused on what you don't have and what you should have, you lose your life and the present moment in the search for a better future…
Principle 2:
The secret: I know what is best for me. We think we know what we need to be happy, that we need external things, or the approval of others, and we work hard to get it. And now I ask you, has it ever happened to you that you have achieved what you wanted so much and soon after, you were looking for something new and you have not enjoyed what you have achieved? I remember when I moved into a beautiful apartment, it was just furnished and it was like the dream place. I sat down shortly after the move, I started looking around and realized with surprise that being in that place did not make me happier or less… And that my inner state did not depend on what was around me…
What is happening is the best for me, although our thoughts tell us otherwise and are constantly looking for a problem in the present moment. If it weren't for our mind telling us that we need this or that or labeling this moment as good or bad, we could be happy here and now… Even simple thoughts like "it should have been sunny" prevents us from enjoying this wonderful cloudy day…
Principle 3:
The secret: You can control your thoughts. Perhaps you have noticed how difficult this is. Can you get up in the morning and tell yourself today I'm not going to think? Or will I only have positive thoughts today?… Difficult, right? As Byron Katie says, thoughts are like rain, they just appear.
You cannot control your thoughts but when you question them they stop affecting you. When you question your stressful thoughts and see that what you consider negative or a problem is not, then your perception of life changes and the thoughts that appear in your mind no longer affect you. It is like the example of the snake and the rope, as long as you believe that the rope you see in the distance is a snake you will suffer and you will not want to advance but if you get a little closer and you can see that this snake is actually a rope then the belief of that it is a snake can no longer affect you, you have seen the truth and you are free to move forward and enjoy the journey…
Principle 4:
The secret: it teaches you to attract external things to create the desired life. If I believe that my happiness depends on money, the couple, recognition, health, then I have few opportunities to be happy, external people and things do not depend on me, and I will be constantly suffering for controlling them, for not having them or for fear to lose them…
Your happiness does not depend on anything external… Do not wait to have money, partner, health or recognition to be. Start to see how life gives you what you need in each moment, and how are your thoughts that you need something else or that your world or people should be different from what it is, what makes you unhappy and prevents you from seeing the perfection of this moment. If I'm enjoying watching a movie at home and suddenly think I should be accompanied, I immediately stop enjoying this perfect moment… Or if I tell myself that I need more money than I have, then I suffer, and I stop seeing that here and Now, not a day later, not a month later, but now I have everything I need… and that every moment of my life has been like this… That money, couples, success and health are an additional plus to your peace and happiness, not a condition.
My invitation is that you can see that you have the capacity and the right to be happy here and now. And that nothing external can condition your peace since this is "an inner feeling", which does not depend on anything external… for me that is the secret…
