Have you heard of 'atrophobia'? It is the extreme fear of not being good enough, of being imperfect in what we do both in work and in personal life. This fear that usually occurs in very intelligent people and that is more frequent in women, makes you 'your biggest critic' since, beyond seeking excellence, it leads you to obsession, creating problems even for relationships with the others lowering your self-esteem. If you recognize yourself in this kind of perfectionism, fight to get out of there until you can overcome the fear of not being enough.
How to overcome the fear of not being enough in your work life
Did you know that the greatest fear of women, which is unconscious, is to our own brightness? Yes dear friend, as you hear it. We are terrified at the idea of attracting attention, of standing out and of having our eyes fixed on us. We are scared by the idea of feeling judged, and for that reason we unconsciously try to go unnoticed, which leads us not to invest in our Training, in Mentoring… Naturally, that slows down professional success and leads us to blockade.
If we add to that the extreme perfectionism that prevents many women from having good self-esteem due to fierce self-criticism, there is a risk of falling into permanent fear of not being / doing / having enough. Work your self-esteem out of perfectionism and understanding that once you do something putting everything on your side, you must stay calm and understand that nobody is perfect and that you do not have the obligation to be.
How to overcome the fear of not being enough in your personal life
One of the usual characteristics of people with problems to overcome the fear of not being enough is the denial of what they are suffering. They act towards others as if everything were going well and they were happy. But they are not, in reality they suffer a high level of stress produced by the fear of not being perfect and the continuous self-reproach that leads them to always be tense.
Always keep in mind that neither your work as a mother, daughter, sister, friend, companion, nor your domestic tasks need your perfection. Relax, never demand more of yourself than you would demand of someone else, acknowledge what you do well and congratulate yourself. As I said in the previous section regarding your work life, your self-esteem also works in your personal life. Even if you were not aware of how your self-reproach lowers your self-esteem, strive to accept yourself as you are, you need to overcome the fear of not being enough to be happy.
Work to overcome the fear of not being enough that affects so many smart and very fit women. This fear affects both working life and personal life, producing a great block that prevents us from enjoying our achievements due to the high degree of self-demand, also lowering our self-esteem. Remember that you do not need to be the best in everything, nor compare yourself with anyone. It is much healthier and more comforting to compare yourself with yourself and to improve yourself 'at your own pace'.
"We must not be afraid of poverty or exile, or prison, or death. What you have to be afraid of is fear itself ”Epictetus of Phrygia.
