If you don't love yourself, you go begging for love.
All your relationships are a reflection of yourself, regardless of whether it is your boss, your partner, your friends, the supermarket employee, your child… They are all a reflection of yourself.
What you attract is a reflection of either your qualities or your beliefs regarding relationships.
It is important that you observe what you do not like about the people with whom you interact, perhaps you have a boss who you cannot bear, a son who does not obey you, your partner is cold and distant, or perhaps you have an employee who does not finish the tasks you entrust to them on time.
Before entering a spiral of criticism and bad thoughts, see yourself where do you behave in that way that you do not like in others?
It is not a matter of guilt, it is not a matter of feeling guilty, it is a matter of realizing, cleaning and changing what you can change in yourself.
You cannot change anyone, you can only change yourself. And that's the only way for others to change, start with you. Change your mental models and you will see how they also change.
Your relationship with yourself is influenced by the relationships you had with the adults around you when you were a child. Children learn by imitating the adults around them.
If they never praised you, now you don't know how to praise yourself or how to praise anyone else. If you are continually criticized, you will be an expert on this. If they never hugged you, now you will not know how to hug and you will feel strange when someone hugs you.
Look back and ask yourself how was the relationship with my parents, grandparents, uncles, teachers…? If you do, you will learn a lot and understand many things about your current relationships.
I tell you again that it is not a question of blaming anyone, because nobody can teach what they do not know. If you don't notice and don't clean up, you'll keep dragging those reflections.
Many people complain that they do not find the right partner for them, they always find fault with others and excuses that justify their "failures" in relationships.
It is time to discover the best relationship of your life: The one you have with yourself.
As for couple relationships, I can tell you that love appears when you least expect it. If you go hunting and capturing love you will never find the right partner for you, simply because you will beg for love, you will show yourself as the victim and emptiness of love therefore you will not be able to attract love.
If you don't have a partner and you are longing to have it, this is the key: love is never out; you carry it inside. So start by having a wonderful relationship with yourself.
Being happy with yourself is a very important key for the right person to approach you. Observe your level of self-esteem, do not settle for anyone just because they want someone to be there.
Don't be in a hurry, first be happy in your present moment and make your own demands: what qualities does the ideal person have for you? List them and think if that already exists in you.
On the other hand, you can find out why you still don't have that person by your side: do you feel unworthy? Are you looking for a movie star? Do you doubt that you can be loved? Are you afraid of intimacy?
Start by loving yourself, cultivate happiness with yourself, prepare the ground for that person to approach you and when he arrives, remember that love needs food, take care of it.
And remember the best relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself, if this goes well… you will find the best companion, travel companion.
