Today the concept of living is different from what our ancestors lived. In the past, happiness was enjoyed, despite the difficulties you could see people smile despite the problems. They focused on making the future of their lives better, which gave them encouragement to move forward despite the circumstances. But today we can find countless people with problems and do not know how to handle them. Frustrations, anguish, anger, irritable behaviors lead people to think and act drastically. They experience so many feelings, except for HAPPINESS.
So I wonder where is the happiness? How and at what point do we stop feeling and enjoying it? Life is an endless number of situations that we experience day by day, which is full of feelings and as rational human beings that we are, we choose what to feel with each experience, although there are reactions that we will not be able to control at some point; but if we learn to live with happiness, we will be able to face each difficulty with enthusiasm so as not to allow ourselves to be subdued by our own feelings.
According to the author:
Mihaly in the book learn to flow:
"We must listen to the voices of the past and integrate their messages into the knowledge that science is slowly accumulating" (page 12).
How do we know if there is a solution for the present in the past?
When we remember the past, we also remember feelings. All the actions taken always give us a result, and from that we learn what is right and what is wrong. We also learn what we want to feel and the brain automatically assimilates what it is going to feel in the present. Therefore, each experience we live day by day and what we learn with it is what gives it meaning to live.
The meaning of living is given from the feelings that people can express and experience every day. Likewise, the external influences of the environment and the family give her the opportunity to experience each phase of her life.
In happiness psychology, it focuses on the value of a person's own being, which has the vision of finding meaning in life. Of facing difficulties, bad experiences and knowing your own being.
Living means experiencing through doing, feeling and thinking. Experience takes place in time, so time is the resource that we must use wisely. Over the years, the content of the experiences will determine the quality of life we want to live.
Mihaly, learn to flow.
"Emotions are to some degree the most subjective elements of science, since only you can tell yourself if you are really experiencing love, shame, gratitude or happiness. However an emotion is the most subjective content of the mind, because the viscerality of our feelings when we are in love, ashamed or happy is generally more real to us than what we observe in the external world or anything we learn from science or from the logic." (page 27).
Following the appointment; it can be said that we learn to live from the feelings we experience; because we keep in our minds the most meaningful experiences for us.
As human beings we have abilities and strengths; and depending on how we manage them, we will obtain the well-being that we seek. Many times what we want to feel does not go with what we think; it is the contradictory of life, it is what leads us to choose happiness with the way we think.
Caring for our creed, our ideals, is the key point of caring for the happiness we want to live. Likewise in our daily life we make many decisions; but the most important is to choose what we spend our time on.
My thoughts lead me to conclude that happiness is in the experiences that we keep in our minds and the logic that we give to our lives. Science teaches us many ways to manage feelings and learn to regulate our behaviors; but we as unique people choose to live the feeling of each experience throughout life.
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Written by LUNAY Quiel, psychology student, RIO SERENO sub-campus, UNIVERSIDAD AUTONOMA DE CHIRIQUÍ.
Course: family orientation. Psychology of happiness theme.
