Many Venezuelans see our country as an insecure, dangerous and hostile place. Recently we also see how people have grasped or attached to the material with greater force than before. Many Venezuelans put aside their values or even stop developing into something for which they really have a vocation and talent because they prefer to dedicate themselves to something that they do not like but that is easier or will give them more money. I see people who sell to the highest bidder, who do things they don't like but are more profitable for them.
I have recently seen how Venezuelans who considered exemplary have separated themselves from their friends and family by a house, by a truck and even by a job, even knowing that they are not doing well. Unfortunately, our society has become, in most cases, a society full of attachments. Not from attachment to trinkets, or to Creole gastronomy, or to our beautiful geography, but to attachment to quick and easy material goods. The attachment to turning a blind eye to avoid getting into trouble and even worse to the attachment to getting used to what is obtained without effort or sacrifice.
Definition of Attachment.
For an engineer like me, attachment is nothing more than a fateful combination of Ego with the so-called aphrodisiac molecule of love: Oxytocin. However, after spending hours on the internet and reading about the matter, sociologists came to know that it is an intense and lasting affective bond that generally arises in childhood. It seeks to maintain proximity in times of threat and serves to facilitate empathy and coexistence between human beings. I also read that you do not learn but that you come out in moments of crisis and that it is an emotional dependency that sometimes causes enormous suffering in people.
In Venezuelans, I believe that attachment in many cases is due to the fact that it provides emotional security in the face of the anguish that we experience on a daily basis. for the lack of security, for the difficulty of obtaining food, medicine, for the difficulty of obtaining a home of one's own and even a vehicle according to our income or salary.
Types of Attachment:
In my opinion, the attachment seen under the magnifying glass of our recent Venezuelan society is divided into:
- Person-to-person attachment Person-to-object attachment People-to-ideals attachment
Attachment creates an internal model that will be strengthened or diminished by the beliefs of the person in himself and others. It establishes a series of judgments that will influence the dynamics and relationships throughout people's lives.
What is the good new?
There is "detachment" and the crises are excellent for them because during them the schemes and paradigms are broken and new bases for the values that we have are established. During crises we learn to let go of that affective link between People-objects and ideals. Detachment arises from the need that we Venezuelans have to overcome the unpleasant and uncomfortable, on the need to turn the switch and reset. Realizing that when you get out of the comfort zone and want to face adversities, you achieve durable and solid things.
Some tips to achieve detachment:
- Seek an approach to change despite moving away from the comfort zone. Recognize that change requires minimal effort. Promote tolerance of adversity, anguish and suffering as necessary steps to raise awareness of detachment. the others that the attachment enslaves and makes dependent on the people, objects and false ideals. Look more at our interior than our exterior. Practice more kindness, goodness, joy and forgiveness since our mind will become clearer and more willing to accept that easy things and without sacrifice do not bring the well-being we seek. Practice thanks to yourself, your abilities and your effort to allow yourself to enjoy the things you have earned.Seek to surround yourself with generous, experienced, capable, noble, and resentless people who make you feel free and not bound by false beliefs. Replace the word "I need" with the word "I prefer" in your vocabulary. Strive to understand that a person Attached to the easy will always tell you that what she is doing is "good" and will make you believe that the wrong person is you. Be true to your values and principles.
Finally and to finish I remind you that old age is coming and it is important that we live with dignity. We must detach ourselves from material and easy things. Stay away from corrupt people. You can be sure that merit and earning a good opinion of others towards you is the only way to create strong families and countries with prosperous and exemplary futures.
