Failure teaches us, makes us wiser, stronger, and more resilient. It contains energy that can be managed. More importantly, it is probably through failure that we gain a little understanding of the nature of what is happening.
There is so much to learn from failure, if only we gave ourselves the chance…
Failure has different effects according to different personalities.
For some, failure is something that must be endured. These people consider that only by enduring it, they will be prepared for the later challenges of life.
For others, failure is the end. It closes them, and leaves them less capable, with less self-confidence, with fewer resources to manage in life and much less, to face adversities or to start again in some matter, be it from the workplace, love, study, etc.
However, contrary to popular belief, the greatest benefit that failure can bring is not that of tempering a spirit or building a temperament. Even this is not valid for a learning process.
Failure can be the only, magical, and most powerful part of someone's life. Failure contains the seeds of success, said a wise voice. This occurs when we allow the substantial part of failure to become a blessing, a hinge that opens that door unnoticed. Failure contains valuable information. Properly used, records derived from failure have the power to define the closure and end of a long-running event.
Seen from this perspective, it is not surprising that failure results in many stories of struggle and experimentation, that essential element that brought unforeseen fruits and pleasant surprises never imagined. Go through the history of any area of human interest: you will see that this much-feared monster called "failure" ended up many times becoming the best ally of a success not previously contemplated.
When we fail at something, we feel sad, broken, hopeless. What requires courage, work, determination, vigor is for many people reason enough to avoid. Otherwise, it must be stoically sustained. Pride appears, the cover-up that does not always lead to desired ports.
Faced with failure, there is often a need to apologize, to justify, and along with it, the need to find effective ways to get out of it as soon as possible.
There is no doubt that the experience of failure is demoralizing, uncomfortable and something that nobody wants to have. But there is no doubt that in a certain way and seen in a certain way, it brings valuable pain and indisputable benefits. Faced with experiences of failure, there is usually a pause, one is inclined to reflect because it is necessary to review what in no way should be repeated. Failure well spent leads to making adjustments with a view to improvement. When that improvement-oriented idea comes up, we find ourselves energized and hopeful again. But unfortunately this does not always happen.
Many people are left with the downside of the failure experience when they should stick with the teaching that all failure brings. The problem with failure is labeling it in a negative way when it is actually bringing in important observations, lessons worth learning. In this sense, it can be said that the “failed” is someone who has been reluctant or lazy when it comes to learning. He has behaved like a spoiled and stubborn child who wants the things of this world to work as he wants and to be as he wants.
But the truth is that the things of this world work as they work, and they are as they are.
Failure is a tough, severe, rigorous teacher. Of this there are no doubts. But I would like to spread the idea that failure is a full-fledged teacher. An inflexible, punctilious teacher who sets out to teach us valuable things for our good. It imposes challenges and sometimes very difficult tests to pass for which we are not always prepared. But if we discover something with him it is our incredible speed to learn. And we learn a lot, very fast, although sometimes we have to take the same exam over and over again.
It is that there are lessons that we find difficult to learn. There are things that we don't want to see and then when we cheat, when we turn a blind eye or without becoming smarties, life does not allow us to deceive ourselves. He quickly sends us to failure so that we can learn at once and the best thing that can happen to us in these cases is humbly accepting the slogan of reviewing, studying to approve and continuing.
In the face of these harsh observations of life, in the face of these resounding delays, many people tend to be left with demoralization, with the negativity of experiences and continue to go downhill, usually making the same mistakes or leaving the race. Instead of humbly accepting the instruction to study, they adopt an acidic attitude and expire, mistaking their steps and delaying or postponing their objectives.
It also happens that distance is taken from the perpetrator: these studies, these ventures, people, places that activate the painful memory of failure are avoided. This attitude, of course, prevents recomposing, eliminating, and redesigning what needs to be redesigned to get out of error and to obtain more accurate perceptions that lead to more accurate actions.
Failure is an episode in life. It is a brand with meaning. An episode that can leave a negative, self-destructive and demoralizing emotional charge of high caliber and duration. But, with a little cunning and with a clear awareness that the experience itself and the sensations are the direct result of acting energies, failure undoubtedly becomes a unique and expansive experience, perfectly suitable for the imaginative and daring mind, the one that concludes that it will never see the light of day if it were not for failure. Failure can be the prelude to greatness.
Excluding catastrophic situations of loss or war, in the face of failure, it is common to observe that people protest, regret, feel victimized or incapable and only wait for things to change. This is a reductionist, simplistic and, to top it all, useless desire.
Useless because the person facing a failure must realize that he has done something of importance to receive it. To fail someone had to have started something: a weight loss diet, a friendship; He may have had a love relationship and given his heart. You may have worked, studied, or trained for a long time. It is possible that you have made the wrong decision, that you have decided not to carry out any activity that would have been convenient for you. You may have invested your money, etc. etc.
An action prior to failure must have been. If you have known failure, it means that you have embarked on some action, have taken action and decisions about things to do and things not to do, and you are now in optimal conditions of “tuning and change”. That person at the right time to make that click, that indispensable release and change to grow at last, refuses to do so, withdraws or resigns. There is failure. It is this attitude that must be regretted and not the previous "failure" that poses a lesson and forces a positivist attitude. There is no use in resistance, resignation, protest or resignation. This supposes an illusion of external change and the truth is that in the face of failure we cannot expect the world to change; only we can change. Failure is ours, it is for us.It comes to all of us sometime in life. And when it does, we have to take advantage of it. Extract the juice that only we can extract. Because it is for us. Our failure contains everything we need for our evolution.
For this, it is essential to be encouraged to touch it, remove the black skin and feel its nourishing part. But first, you have to ask yourself if you really are committed to success. If one really rejects failure or identifies with it. Not all people who complain and lament their failure identify with success. Failure therefore must be studied, understood well and then reject the part of its substance that deserves to be discarded or modified. No other. Stick with the lesson, with the bitterness, with the pain. They are good companions, they will be your reliable guides. But to make the passes with them it is imperative to think responsibly, evaluate, distinguish and that our eyes are not clouded with illusions or mirages. You have to know that we are not and will not be a cork in the sea.That we are permanently deciding how to act. And we make decisions for various reasons. Sometimes acted out of a thirst for success. Other times we stop by laziness, lack of faith, lack of energy, or wrapped in negative energy.
At Aflorarte.com we develop techniques to enhance the action of floral energies, those remedies of the soul. Many people turning to the Bach set decide to take Gentian to combat the experience of failure, to avoid sadness, and to forget hopelessness.
To resort to Gentian is correct, but to aspire to generate amnesia for what it has felt is to aspire to loss. My recommendation is: Do not aspire to oblivion. Never discard what is yours or what was intended for you. It is worth having and retaining. Don't be afraid of the emotions it may bring. Emotions are made to be felt, Bach said, they are the thermostat of your life, the compass that will guide you well. Your spiritual advisers, your inner guides speak clearly to you through emotions, sensations, feelings, symptoms. Its language is worth learning. When you do, you will soon notice that silencing them is never a smart move.
The face of failure may be your loneliness today, a closed bank account, sleeping all morning because you have lost your job, disappointment if you were the victim of a scam. This is the face that has to be rejected and you should know that it is a temporary face that can be restored as the fallen face is restored with a good diet or with rest.
This thought will open the doors to the idea of future success. Aspire to excel, aspire to discover the gold nuggets that will appear with the study of their failure. An objective and responsible study that doesn't have much to do with remembering in a self-indulgent way. Therefore, do not be confused when resorting to essences, do not wait for them to help you forget. Use them as an aid to action, as positive impacts to thinking, expect the best help from them to think about your failure in a positivist way, from which future satisfactory scenarios emerge. If you work essences in a creative way, you will notice changes. There is a way to ask the flower for help, to make its energy convert its weaknesses into its future strengths.
That is in my opinion an intelligent posture that goes much further than any tranquilizer. When using essences, always aspire to learn the lesson you must learn and to develop the inner forces that you have.
Nietzcche said that you have to know what you want and know what you want.
Following my example, if you know that you aspire to a life as a couple and happy, your loneliness today may be a torment, but it is a blessing if it is the result of having interrupted a couple that would have made life impossible. And the balance of sadness, melancholy in failure should be the sensory stimuli that you deserve to keep as a pale reflection but always alert and ready to ignite, preventing you from falling into a similar error.
From our work with Gentian to overcome experiences of failure and obtain valuable lessons from them, we can affirm that failure is not a problem to be solved, it is a unique key that opens up to greatness. To implement this concept, one must reject the idea that failure means error or that something is wrong.
Failure is an indicator without turns: it clearly tells us one thing and that thing is that what we have been doing, just as we have been doing, does not work or does not give the result we expected. Sometimes it is a matter of reviewing our ambition. Sometimes it is a matter of modifying the means we have tried to achieve such an ambition. Failure can also reveal that we were reckless in evaluating or that we used the wrong criteria in evaluating. It often happens that what is failure for some is success for others. And this means that the parameters of one and the other are different and not the result itself. A chair manufacturer that sold 5,000 units in a month may feel failure while those 5,000 chairs can represent resounding success for another chair manufacturer.
Any conclusion we come to about failure is essentially a hypothesis and for the most part a reaction to the disillusionment, fear, and despair that accompanies the experience of failure. When we experience failure, we must remember that it is a matter of interpretation. We do not suffer for a given fact but for the reading we give to that fact. Before we can properly interpret the implications of failure, there is an even bigger issue to focus on and one that generally goes unnoticed.
On what parameters do we base ourselves to determine the experience as failure? Are we wide-minded enough to see the other sides of the story and recognize benefits that we also got? Have we met someone important that we would not otherwise have had the opportunity to meet? Have we found out something? Is this what I call failure, the smooth and flat record of something specific, or is it the predictable and necessary mark towards the next level of history?
Thomas Edison said that with each failure it became clear to him what not to repeat. At least a future delay was avoided. I learned a lot in failure. He recorded each failure well, studied it from left to right and from top to bottom. So a failure today allowed you to resolve future mistakes, even issues you hadn't yet come across. If, like me, you had many failures with your computer, you will know what I mean. Each failure leaves a mark and a learning of great utility for the future.
You never know how you are going to use that information again, but the truth is that the experience is valuable when a similar episode returns. And we feel brilliant and magnificent in solving it with comfort, speed and efficiency. When we refer to failure as a bad thing, we will inevitably tend to avoid it. The process can only lead us in one direction by taking a defensive posture. That is, we will choose to avoid evils instead of chasing goodness. We will choose out of fear and discard, and not out of anxiety or curiosity.
If our attitude takes the defensive form in endless war, or takes the avoidance process, we will survive, but we will rarely win.
Using it wisely, any failure serves to save time and energy. So take advantage of it, it is an advance, a reason for learning worthy of appreciation. Do not take it as something bad or serious. Avoid taking it tremendously because you will want many "failures" on your way to success where there is a lot of trial and error and also personal flexibility. Enjoy along the way, whatever this path may be.
Evaluate the story objectively, break free from the checkered thinking that generally accompanies the experience of failure. You will find in failure an experience that always works. You will even find failures to have fun with. Failure is a formative privilege. It allows to re-examine the vision that gave rise to the whole story. We can take a more objective look at all the actions, the intentions, the language, the advantages, the characters involved in the story. And the most curious thing about the case is that we would never take this analysis to such a profound and sincere level if it were not "thanks" to failure.
It is not by chance that Gentian is in the module to overcome uncertainty. This is because in the face of failure it is essential to guide the mind towards certainty instead of allowing it to navigate the dangerous seas of uncertainty.
If you learn to guide your mind, you will find that it will bring you accurate and useful data for you. At Aflorarte.com we use the energy of Gentian in times of failure in a way that allows us to detect the reasons behind the facade of failure and who are truly responsible for preventing someone from continuing with their plans and goals or just discovering their plans and goals real in contrast to what it claims to have.
The experience of failure can leave the person in a state of vulnerability and highly influential at the risk of making bad future decisions. Therefore, when resorting to essences it is important to learn to impact them with language. In this practice all Aflorarte works are focused. Flower essences contain energy and so also our thoughts contain energy. The success of the Aflorarte program is having detected the words, the idiomatic turns, the body language that resonate with a determined energetic state. Language allows us to "move" in the same experience, to adopt different perspectives. Language also allows us in some way to borrow roles and beliefs. These appeals are not to be dismissed.They generate incredible changes that can only be recognized once experienced. Then when one manages to see oneself from a different and novel perspective and begins to experience first-hand the wonderful feeling that appears when a useful perspective enters, a new world seems to open up with ideas, memories, unforeseen hopes. The energy of language successfully coupled with the energy of the flower form a magnificent marriage, a healthy barrier against any environment that may be influencing negatively. Many times family and friends do not understand the personal internal times to develop an experience of failure in a way that is profitable and even when they do not intend it, they become the first barriers to progress.Then when one manages to see oneself from a different and novel perspective and begins to experience first-hand the wonderful feeling that appears when a useful perspective enters, a new world seems to open up with ideas, memories, unforeseen hopes. The energy of language successfully coupled with the energy of the flower form a magnificent marriage, a healthy barrier against any environment that may be influencing negatively. Many times family and friends do not understand the personal internal times to develop an experience of failure in a way that is profitable and even when they do not intend it, they become the first barriers to progress.Then when one manages to see oneself from a different and novel perspective and begins to experience first-hand the wonderful feeling that appears when a useful perspective enters, a new world seems to open up with ideas, memories, unforeseen hopes. The energy of language successfully coupled with the energy of the flower form a magnificent marriage, a healthy barrier against any environment that may be influencing negatively. Many times family and friends do not understand the personal internal times to develop an experience of failure in a way that is profitable and even when they do not intend it, they become the first barriers to progress.
Finally, when dealing with the energies acting in the experience of failure, it is of crucial importance to know how to take full advantage of the Gentian impulse. A little like taking it as a remedy and vaccinating simultaneously. One must be immunized to some aspects of the experience. Using Gentian in its entirety ensures lasting success and sets up a positivist attitude. This must be taken into account especially in those cheating and cover-up cases of those who, for example, manage to recover from a failure but after a while "something" that they cannot explain or explain (and that comes in the form of forgetfulness or distractions), prompts them to make those fatal mistakes again. This "something" is an open energy negativity still.
It is not realistic to aspire to a life without problems or failures. Like food, failure is part of life and fundamental for growth, but the good assimilation of failure is another matter. It is not a matter of life and death but you will get the magnificent product of good energy management, or the emotional breakdown resulting from leaving energy issues to chance.
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