Internal dialogue is one of the most powerful ways to raise self-esteem and form a healthy self-concept. One is always in dialogue with oneself, even if we are not aware of this, and many times this dialogue guides our actions, our behaviors and even our emotions. Many times we cannot hear ourselves because we are deep in thoughts, plans, events and concerns about everyday things, and we are not aware of what we say to ourselves.
Internal dialogue is simply what one speaks to oneself, either in thoughts or audibly. It is a direct reflection of the self-concept, and is complemented by it; that is, when the concept of oneself is healthy, what we say to ourselves is also more benign and favorable; and in turn, when we say positive things to ourselves, our self-concept improves.
It is not clear whether internal dialogue can be classified as positive or negative, since it is difficult to assign value judgments. What is true is that there are certain dialogues that fill us with energy and enthusiasm, and others break us down, make us feel bad and even suffer for them. The important thing is not if the dialogue is good or bad, but what it reflects on you, if it contributes to your life, if it helps you build a healthier self-concept and if it strengthens you to fulfill your dreams and your life project.
For example, if you tell yourself all the time that people do not love you, that you are worthless, that you will not be able to achieve your goals or that you are a hindrance, because these statements will make you suffer a lot, you will become devalued and do not contribute anything to you in your happiness. In addition, a frustrating internal dialogue conditions your mind, creates paradigms of yourself that decrease your performance and functionality, as well as your results, and this influences the way you make decisions.
This is why favorable internal dialogue has enormous benefits. We will call it "positive" because of the implications and impact it has on your life, not a value judgment. If your internal dialogue is full of optimistic, objective, benign and stimulating affirmations, this will definitely have an impact on your achievements and on your happiness and personal fulfillment. You will have a better perception of yourself and things. You will live more calmly and with more confidence in yourself and in others.
Self-affirmations are a powerful way to stimulate positive internal dialogue. It refers to words, phrases or sayings about ourselves that modify our way of feeling and thinking. They can be mental, or read. They have numerous advantages: they give you lots of encouragement, they remind you of key aspects of your self-concept, they help you to believe more in yourself, they give you strength to confront frustrating paradigms, they remind you of your goals, they improve your performance, they help you face problems with a better attitude, motivate you to keep going, among other things.
Self-affirmations are powerful as long as they are objective and real, describing certain but benign things. They are not equivalent to self-deception, nor should they be exaggerated. They must have a basis in reality, but implicitly have a favorable, optimistic and positive attitude. This is why positive affirmations also have to do with self-knowledge.
Internal dialogue is something that has been forged since your childhood, and it is changing. You also have the potential to improve it, you can create a more benign dialogue if you are not satisfied with the one you are having. Most very successful people, they repeat positive things to themselves, they are motivated by affirmations, they always mention to themselves all the talents they have, and also, when they have a weakness, they tell themselves that they can overcome it..
For all these reasons, working on internal dialogue with powerful positive self-affirmations will have a very important impact on your happiness, your relationships and the achievement of your personal achievements.
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I wish you the greatest blessings.
Guillermo Mendoza Vélez www.SaludMentalyEmocional.com
