It is good to hear the criticisms that come to build and that really exist. It's wrong to let unhealthy criticism hurt you. It is your choice to let what others think affect your life.
The essence of authenticity is what you make of your life in whatever fields, based on the decisions you made; with the risks and consequences that these entail. The genuine must prevail. Whatever you want to be, others don't live for you.
Valeria Sabater leaves us a phrase: "People do things and you decide if they affect you or not" Things affect you only if you let them do it.
It is terrible to go through life living for others. It does not mean that you are a free and uncontrolled element, you have to respect the rules, abide by the rules, but your one-person decisions concern only you. You must be careful when your decisions or actions impact third parties, however you must avoid depriving yourself of living for yourself.
For example, what your parents say or think is important, you must listen to them, the decisions you make are in that close nucleus of family and friends, and they will always question you. Do not hesitate. In the end you will no longer be with your parents and your children will go to other nests, most likely not caring much what you say or think. So generally it is.
Aristotle himself wrote " There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing and be nobody"
If you are a respectful person, then say what you feel, dress how you feel good, practice the sport you like, and forget about third party criticism, work where you feel comfortable, avoid complexes and approach true inner freedom.
Do not allow others to steal your freedom, Jorge Bucay points out that " Freedom is being who I am, not who you expect me to be"
Do not always try to imitate others, you can look at the good examples, but the ideal is to add that touch of originality to the new. The authentic is always better. Don't be upset about not having a better car than your neighbor who works less than you; surely he does not think otherwise.
Feeling good about yourself is what matters most. It is really important. Make your own decisions and take your risks. Enjoy your achievements by your initiatives, take the mistakes and take ownership of your failures. They are also yours, to continue and improve.
Your magic is what you transmit, that others do not overshadow you, build an original version of your personality. Walk with your concern, don't carry the worry that comes from feeling what others say or think of you. It's too heavy. It exhausts, atrophies his self-esteem, weakens his spirit, stops his projections, frustrates his dreams, limits his actions, generates unpleasant sensations and discourages him.
Healthy criticism can build, the task is to sniff when it is done with good intention based on your improvement. There really are people who can see situations or circumstances that you do not perceive and try to help you. They urge you to correct on the basis of well-intentioned criticism.
Beware of that criticism that is related to envy with a mask of concern, which usually comes from people who are uncomfortable seeing you calm. People who have toxic attitudes and who only generate intrigues that do not improve anything.
Writer Dale Carnegie said; “Let's remember that unfair criticism is often praise in disguise. Let's remember that nobody kicks a dead dog. ”
We cannot believe that all the criticisms are bad, there will always be someone who wants to help you through it, or who wants you to modify some aspect of your life to improve yourself. You always have to listen to it, in any case, the decision to assume it will be absolutely yours.
Do not be overwhelmed to the extreme by what others question, it will be difficult for you to have them all in agreement. It will always have detractors. Harmful criticism can cut your wings, minimize your impact on professional and spiritual growth, overshadow your greatness, make you bitter and unhappy. You should not live for what others say or want. You will always be exposed to them, as much as to a cold.
His life is not a work of art or a book, which have already been completed and of which experts think, the difference between his life and his attitudes towards art is what, his life and his actions are in motion.
Avoid being a slave to criticism, and when you want to criticize someone or something, be careful not to harm. Let it be to build or for others to improve .
Reviews will not be pleasant, but they are necessary. Winston Churchill
