The human being is full of fears, and the fear of failure is one of the most affecting self-esteem and leadership. But if when things do not go as expected, we understand that we have learned a new way of not doing it, there will be no failure, we will only have made "new learnings".
One of the things I usually ask my Coaching clients is "what do you understand by success". In this case I ask you, "what do you understand by failure". If you take time to answer this question, you will realize that we cannot call failure everything that does not come out the first time as we expected, it would be an exaggeration.
In today's article, we are going to see strategies so that you can overcome that fear of failure that sometimes lurks in your stomach.
Question your fear
What are you really afraid of? Until you know what the real reason for that fear of failure is, you cannot overcome it. Ask yourself what is the worst that could happen if you fail, since in most cases the most that could happen does not justify so much fear of failure.
Keep in mind that as I mentioned in my article "What to do when others insist on wanting to be right", the human being is relational and needs to feel accepted and loved. Ask yourself what your fear is made of, because nobody will reject you if you try something and it doesn't come out the first time, the world will not sink under your feet. If you are clear that you prefer to risk to get there, it does not matter what others think.
Fear is overcome by putting you into action
Fear has a paralyzing effect that prevents us from acting. And as the Chinese proverb says, "The greatest failure is never having tried." Instead of allowing fear to paralyze you, act immediately, dare. It will be the only way that you will have the option of achieving success (whatever success is for you).
Sometimes it will help you to lean on someone, other times it will help you to relax, but you always have to think that you can, that fear is just a trick that plays on your mind, and that you have to make your decisions based on your intuition. Block your negative thoughts so they don't limit you.
Learn from those who have already achieved success
Do you know what the money gurus say? That no one has become rich without being ruined before. And do you know what they recommend? That if you are going to start a business or invest your money, it is better that you crash as soon as possible and having invested an amount not too high. That is how assumed they are that you cannot reach financial success without having known the supposed “failure” first.
And this is not just for financial issues; learn from those who have previously achieved what you are pursuing now, whatever its nature. And be very clear that if they had been paralyzed by fear of failure, they would never have achieved success (whatever it is that everyone understands by success).
One of the biggest problems that we Westerners have is the null capacity for frustration. If you want to succeed:
- learn to live with things that do not come to you first, allow the opinion of others to demoralize you, always present your "why", your motivation to want to arrive
This will make your fear of failure disappear.
"Only one thing makes an impossible dream: the fear of failure." Paulo Coelho.
