Life itself from birth is marked by expiration. It is made up of several stages, which all cannot live, but in short, it is a cycle. If our life is not forever, how much more could something else be. The phrase of the Argentine writer Julio Cortázar is encouraging for these cases when he said: "Nothing is lost if you have the courage to proclaim that everything is lost and you have to start over" in our constant process of evolution, closing a cycle could mean that another is about to open .
Closing cycles is not necessarily giving up or retiring. It is about understanding that we can change direction to go to better places to reach new and better goals. If you are in a comfort zone and consider that you must be there all your life because it feels good; do it. But if within that sumptuousness you feel dissatisfied, loosen the moorings and lift your anchors, it may be that a better port is waiting for you.
Studies show that approximately 80% of people work on something they don't like, mainly for two reasons: social conditioning and need. It's amazing how there are people who have such a hard time retiring. They cling to their job and deprive themselves of living longevity without these obligations, only in exchange for not abandoning the habit. Generally, individuals get used to situations and ways of life that, far from encouraging positive changes, make them captives of outdated models and consequences, most of the time dire.
We see extraordinary athletes and good sports coaches leaving great clubs because they understand that this stage is ending. There are entrepreneurs who manage to consolidate after renouncing the relationships of work dependencies that they once had. In this way they reach new goals and appropriate new and better conquests.
You do not necessarily set inflexible dates for your life project, academic project or commercial project. It is maturing stages and closing cycles. The important thing is how it progresses in all directions without stagnating to achieve the same results for years.
It is important to understand when you cannot continue in a toxic relationship, work or partner. Both could even be highly harmful, if not to generate peace of mind. In both cases, the fact of being calm and satisfied must prevail.
Each time a cycle is closed (unless it is to die), you can move to another space and resize your life, transform it and try new experiences. Holding on to things or situations that hurt you does not make sense, there is a universe of possibilities that demand to be reached. Of course, it requires sacrifice, risk, dare. You decide.
I wish politicians could always give an appropriate reading to the demonstrations of citizens, who on many occasions tell them - as if they did not know - that they have to close cycles. Facts and statistics show that most reach the end of their careers with truly regrettable results.
At some point in life there may be a break in your dynamics and in your rhythm of carrying it, either because you promote it or because of some supervening situation. The best thing would be for you to understand and accept it, detaching yourself from someone or some situation can sometimes represent a leap to success and closer to enjoying peace of mind. Don't be afraid, assess the circumstances and move on.
Understanding when a cycle closes is an absolutely individual choice, valued and analyzed by you and what you are, how you feel. You cannot go through your life from job to job if you are doing well in the one you have; enjoy it. It is not good to go from failure to failure in your relationships or with your family, but it is worse to stay to please others or to conform.
When the choice is yours, Jaime Lopera in his book The Big Fish Eats Slowly recommends “moving slowly in irreversible decisions”. If the decision surprises you from the inevitable, assume it, perhaps a brilliant opportunity is knocking on your door.
“Say to yourself no, they won't come back. But not because of pride or arrogance, but because you no longer fit in there in that place, in that heart, in that room, in that house, in that office, in that job. "
Paulo Coelho
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