Has it ever happened to you, after a lot of years, to meet the brainiac of your class and tell you that his life is a disaster?
Have you been to an alumni reunion? In general, it is not uncommon for us to find surprises. Like that partner, who in her student days, had an outstanding academic result, and now, after 20 or 25 years, we discover with amazement that she has not been successful in her life.
Surely we will leave the party commenting….. Look Fulanito, with how smart he was and how badly he has gone. In contrast, Menganito, who seemed silly, now has a company, a family and wonderful children.
For what is this? How can it be?
Well, precisely because Emotional Intelligence does not have a direct relationship with the academic result, and it does with Success in our personal, business, and work life.
The educational system prioritizes the acquisition of knowledge, being obedient and compliant, acquiring a series of qualities that were necessary for another century, that were necessary to nurture the factories of the last century with labor. Yes, that same century that ended 12 years ago.
Now, companies value other types of skills much more. They value more those people with Social Intelligence and Intrapersonal Intelligence. We are going to talk about the Social Skills most valued by companies when incorporating personnel to their templates.
The qualities that are most valued now, in many companies around the world, are:
• the ability to relate to circumstances, (not to be intimidated by problems, to see solutions, or to have a good disposition to seek them)
• the ability to work as a team, (the successful company is one that ensures that the different groups have a very good interaction)
• communication skills (where communicating is trying to understand first and then knowing how to transmit)
• flexibility (having an open mind, capable of adapting to new goals and new projects)
• empathy (the ability to put ourselves in the place of the other)
• the optimism
• confidence in oneself and in our abilities to grow, progress and face obstacles
• the ability to take on challenges and responsibilities (the opposite of fear of error, which paralyzes). Take risks responsibly
• commitment to the company
• the vocation of service
• the ability to make decisions, being proactive
• the entrepreneurial spirit
And if we are already talking about management personnel, there are other added skills that it is necessary to mention
• leadership capacity: (the old one doesn't work anymore: I order and command) A good leader is one who is able to make the people in charge want to do what the company needs)
• ability to motivate, to encourage your team to give the best of themselves
• ability to make thoughtful decisions but almost on the spot.
For this reason, if you yourself want to "forecast" what your life will be like in the future, start by analyzing whether you meet these social skills. "Self-knowledge" is one of the main tools for improving the human being.
