Women have always been seen as an oppressed being, who has had to fight for a social place, although some have accepted that oppression out of comfort, insecurity or fear.What can women do to develop their self-esteem and live to the height of his great natural gifts? Keep reading.
The struggle that many women have been waging for centuries cannot be hidden or denied. In many places and times she has been pushed to a reduced space, to a lower position than that which corresponds to her by merits and abilities. However, in these postmodern times, their role has been intensified and valued so that women live their best moment in the construction of history.
In her book "Self-esteem for women", Doris Bersing analyzes the yesterday and today of women, their sufferings, potentialities and growth alternatives, from a really interesting angle. For the therapist, the time has come for women to rediscover their true role, explore their true identity, contact their personal power, become aware of their decisions, and overcome sociocultural patterns and stereotypes instilled by parents, institutions and influential people, who have served to enslave her and force her to live in devaluation and unworthiness.
Modern women live immersed in a dense network that began to be woven in childhood, through the reception of messages, rarely healthy, about what it means to be a woman. From then on, she faces adolescence, sociocultural ideological bombardment (including advertising), couple relationships, the need to keep herself "beautiful," marriage, children, daily work, social competence, menopause and old age, among other scenarios and challenges.
In this transit, the woman loses her self-esteem and adjusts to the innumerable demands of the environment, which devalue her self-esteem and tie her to the need for approval. In this way, she learns to please others, to "be good," to appease her true feelings, to pretend, to lie to herself, not to risk herself, to isolate herself or be confused, in a path that generally becomes foggy and prevents her from remembering her legitimate rights and see where you are really going. In the midst of that spider web, some women decide to act as suffering, others as neurotic, many in the super-independent style, but most of them, intuitively within themselves, know that they must make changes and review the matter, before the body responds self-destructively, with the typical Protestant mechanism of disease.
The path of change that the author proposes has nothing to do with confronting men, but with an internal and profound review in which each woman asks herself what she really needs or wants, what guidelines or patterns govern her decisions and actions, and if they are appropriate to the personal requirements and the current moment, and especially, if they are suitable to allow you to take the correct route and enchant the desired destination.
It is time to stop postponing, to resume, without looking for unnecessary conflicts or creating untimely chaos, but to order life, create a balance for a quality life, which is translated into achievements and well-being, in autonomy and integration, in respect and harmony, in decisions and risks taken with courage, in more pleasure and less pain, more authenticity and less "masks", more versatility and less rigidity, more present and less past, more acceptance and less guilt.
And it is that I share with Bersing, that the woman is multiple in essence and it may well be without reaching deep contradictions, sensual, tender, hard-working, bold, tenacious, competitive and in a thousand other ways integrated as possibilities.
How to do it? How to raise self-esteem and rescue self-esteem to get self-flagellating thoughts, emotions and behaviors from within? How do you break the disabling patterns of dependency, submission, or resentment? The answer is:
Starting by taking personal responsibility and accepting that everything that happens to us has to do with something that has been done or avoided doing;
Stop blaming yourself and others.
Exchanging destructive thoughts for others of self-confidence.
Accepting that there are new and better possibilities commensurate with their capabilities.
Assuming that change is a product of awareness, responsibility and will.
Monitoring thoughts, feelings, words and habits so as not to sabotage yourself.
Reviewing the social norms and values that are followed.
Rethinking what will be left and changed in current life.
Overcoming the complaint and acting creatively.
Challenging fear, with faith that the seed will bear fruit.
Forgiving and overcoming resentments.
Implementing a more human and spiritualized way of life.
All this, to be reborn to a dignified life, with an increasing margin of control over their world. Those are the work and the prize, as possibilities. The other thing is to stay where always, in the same fort and with the same soldiers. If that is the decision, then it should be made without remorse, without fuss or complaint. What I am, what I do and what I have, are largely the result of my personal decisions. If you want the world to change, change your own world first. Thanks for reading me. www.laexcelencia.com
