Life is an eternal search, however, as human beings we do not know what, since there are infinite answers to this question: "Who am I since I came to this world".
My name is Javier Cuello, author of this blog with which I do not seek to answer these questions in a definitive way, but to show what has worked for me and that it is one of the many ways to give meaning and identity to exist, is what I reiterate it has worked for me and I hope it will serve as an example or model.
In the first instance what I can tell you is that we never know that we are looking for a change, except for the discomfort with situations around us and the relationships with those around us, our lives present a series of ups and downs to which we respond in some way that we consider rationally correct and that are framed in three strategies: sentimental, mental (or thought) and visceral (or instinctive) and that at the time of being validated in front of our close circle of family and friends, they are not necessarily received in the way in that we would like and in other cases we are the ones who do not validate them (even when we act in an X or Y way) because we consider that we are being complacent and not ourselves (Authentic).
The results that we obtain from our performance in different planes of life do not meet our expectations and we enter a greater or lesser level of frustration, which also makes life to a greater or lesser extent uncomfortable or comfortable, depending on how it is done. we appreciate.
When I found myself in this moment of existential questioning, it became necessary to start the search for the answers to the questions that I already mentioned in advance "Who am I since I came to this world" and although it sounds very transcendental, we all ask ourselves these questions, sometimes We deny them and in others we try to drown them or hide them in habits that can become self-destructive (Vices and bad practices).
And these are not deep problems or insurmountable nature, they are the questions of facing the real achievements of our work with our previous expectations about who we should become, or what others want us to be, in what we imagined that when We would be growing in this or that way, but ignoring that human beings are insatiable and that the more we achieve the more we will want, which is not bad, it is our nature, but it is necessary to know how to channel, and it is in this channeling where The raison d'être of this blog arises, as a simplified and easily assimilated model called "Proyecto Yo".
Today our own creation has surpassed us: The Society.
Society, its complexity and demands are challenging and require more and more skills and knowledge to be able to feel that we are moderately competent in it, but at the same time it has become the new field of exploration, because it is so important, challenging and transcendent a social achievement as a journey to the depths of the cosmos, since it represents the conquest of fears and the journey aboard our own time machine, our being: Our "Project I" that of each one of us.
Once the purpose has been explained, I will go into detail about the “I” model, the composition of the word itself proposes the approach route:
The Y is constituted in the journey that we carry out every day in a straight line until we find ourselves at a point of division that marks the need to make decisions that we often consider inconsequential, but which rarely are, and even the very fact of postponing the making them is itself a decision.
Taking the path to the left or to the right is the decision, of which we must take into account will have consequences in our lives, whether these consequences are positive or negative and are these consequences the measure of our decision, because we always have to make the decision that is more convenient for us and that seeks not to harm those around us.
On the other hand, the "O" are the circles in which we are immersed thanks to our decisions, they can be anything, eg: a job, a relationship, a business, etc. Of which we must evaluate the profit margin they report to our lives.
In the event that the benefit is not beneficial for our life, it is necessary to break the circle and open a new route or "Y", making new decisions and addressing new circles. I have to clarify that although the scheme is simple, it implies many "recesses" typical of human nature and that they are the support of the subsequent deliveries of this Blog and that they intend to explain how to solve the different Traps and crossroads in decision-making and actions, The “How” of the Process.
Representation "The How" of the Process
The benefit of being aware of ourselves lies in being able to control and direct our lives the way we want to live it and not with the uncertainty of "Where the tide will take me", it is the difference between having a boat without oars and one with oars. Directing life to what you want and how you want it, is the benefit.
I hope, dear reader, that this model has illustrated you about the process of self-knowledge that is essential in today's society in order to be able to make sense of human relationships and how to turn daily work into a process of personal growth and development and from which I will provide extensive information in future writings, the result of research, discovery, articulation and application, of which I attest serve as a map of the territory to discover what our own lives are and from which this Blog is the fruit. From now on, only your firm decision to explore is necessary. Curiosity is the key.
