…. GOD said: "Let there be light", and there was light. GOD saw that the light was good, and He separated the light from the darkness. GOD called the light Day and the darkness Night. It was dusk and dawn: it was the first day.
…. GOD said: “Let us make man in our image and likeness. May he have authority over the fish in the sea, over the birds in the sky, over the animals of the field, the wild beasts and the reptiles that crawl on the ground. ".. And there was evening and there was morning: it was the sixth day.
The previous scriptures taken from the book of Genesis, show us once again that we are successful men and women, since from the beginning of our existence, GOD gave us the direction of the world and enough authority to control every living being that is moves over the earth. There is no doubt that all creation is the perfect event of the great power of the Most High. GOD was never wrong. Here began a story; a story that many of us already know.
From creation to the present day, no one has been able to give an exact answer about man's failures, GOD is perfect, but humans make mistakes every day . What can we do in the face of failure?
The following pages are based on fifteen principles aimed at improving our attitude towards failure and visualizing it as the closest opportunity to success, if you feel defeated and without the strength to continue, I am sure they will help you get ahead, remember that " the change is better if we really want to change ”. WR
Until now, I have not met anyone who says that it has been easy for them to achieve success, not even the stories of important men who have contributed greatly to humanity, they all went through difficult situations, however, they did not stop in the face of adversity, they kept going, all to give their effort and a little more….
I don't really expect to share the same thought, I deeply respect different ideologies and points of view, but experience has taught me that just the fact of wanting to reach the highest rung of the ladder of success unites all human beings in one same heart, in the same goal.
Perhaps, there are better ways or principles that take us to the top, for me, they are the ones that you are about to meet, do not stop, the opportunities come through the back door, take advantage of them, be a winner, hold on to your life and remember: “There is no time or place to succeed, what exists is the desire and the will to do so; the decision is yours, don't let failure decide for you ”. WR
I want to succeed . And you?..
Walter Alexander Romero.
WHAT IS FAILURE?
We all know failure, but how can it be defined, what it consists of, what are its characteristics; it is actually difficult to do so, as no one has explained a single definition to date, as is the case with other concepts.
In elementary school we are taught that matter, is everything that occupies a place in space and force, is the necessary capacity to carry out a job, they are definitions, clear, precise and concrete; in which a large number of scientists agreed, however, the word failure is a complex problem trying to give it a universal meaning.
For an optimistic person, it is the path to success, that is, the greater the number of times that one fails, so will be the probability of achievements; For a pessimistic human being, it may be (Failure), the possibility of not fighting for what you want, once you have failed.
Henry Ford said, "Failure is the opportunity to start over, only this time smarter." When Thomas A. Edison invented the carbon filament lamp or also known as the incandescent light bulb (1879), he made several attempts, some books consider it to be 2,000. Regardless of how many times you've tried, this is a great example of perseverance and constant work; When he tried his invention and it did not work, Edison said: "I have not been wrong, nor have I failed, the thing is that I have not tried enough."
Edison and Ford had something in common, an incomparable desire to succeed that exceeded the normal limits of what any human could do, that desire to which I refer is what makes us successful men and women. Just as these two men had their own conception of failure, each of us must see it from our own point of view, only oriented to generate and transmit a positive attitude. From my perspective, failure does not mean being defeated, much less having lost, it means reflecting on those things I did wrong and improving them the next time, - someone asked me once; when talking about the topic What if there is no next time? - honestly, I did not find the exact words to answer him, I just told him that"If there was no other time, try to transmit your experience to other people, so that the same thing does not happen to them"; And while writing this part of my book, I realized that I am trying to multiply an idea, a message that allows us to conceive defeat, as the weapon that will lead us to reach the highest point in our lives, make your mistakes, the opportunities to improve your personal quality and the mistakes of others the greatest teachings, err in your favor. How is this happening?
We are all exposed to make mistakes, and to point out the mistakes of our fellow men. When I say make mistakes in your favor, I mean to use mistakes as a strategy to achieve what we want in life; For example, if we undergo a school exam, to pass an academic degree, perhaps what we really want is to finish basic education successfully, if a study is not done prior to the exam, we know that a human being is at half his capacities I would not approve it. If this happens, what would be the mistake? Exact; the mistake is not having prepared for the test. If we use it to our advantage, we must do an analysis of conscience and accept that the fault is exclusively ours,which means that we will have to make a decrease in the fun time and an increase in the study time in this way we will be able to improve in the next exam.
When we already have a clear personal definition of what failure is, it should be mentioned that in our life, each day that passes we are less aware of what it means to live it, we have become authentic materialists, we live in a world where the most important thing is the things we can touch; money, cars, computers are for many the happiness they have sought for years, while others believe in building a more humane world, honoring the words of the greatest leader we have ever had "Love each other others like I love you ”, He knew what life really is and he was never afraid to be wrong, let's appropriate his words and conjugate the verb AMAR together .Do not be afraid to make mistakes, that from the worst mistakes the best experiences are born, the day you don't make a mistake worry, because surely you have done nothing that day; worry that maybe you are no longer here. If being wrong for you is failing, take it easy, it shows that you are a human being. YOU HAVE LIFE.
For that reason today I want to share with you, this thought of triumph, through the following principles.
WELCOME @ S.
PRINCIPLE 1 GOD.
In life, when we are faced with difficult situations, and we do not find any answer regarding what is happening, it is common to ask ourselves: Why me? What have I done to deserve this? Why has GOD forgotten me?. There is not the slightest doubt GOD, he does not forget us, what happens is that he has given us the facility to reason and decide for ourselves what we want to do, GOD teaches us through the mistakes we make, great lessons, it is the way He speaks to us.
Talking about GOD, as a fundamental principle, to achieve success is difficult in the sense that there is no single way of thinking, ultimately GOD, is not a specific religion, much less a vague and fruitless belief, GOD, is the the beginning and the end of all things, it is the supreme being that governs the world, it is the will and the duty to be, it is the opportunity to love your neighbor as yourself, GOD, it is the greatest proof of love than the world has received, because he gave his only son to be crucified, by virtue of saving humanity from sin.
GOD, it is so important in our lives that so far in this section I have mentioned it nine times and I am sure that no expert in writing would claim it from me.
It is important to remember that we have many reasons to include GOD in our plans, let Him guide your life. Do not ask him to believe in you, because he already does, the one who must believe is you.
When I was little, I asked a lot of questions related to things that were difficult for me to understand. On one occasion I asked my mother how could I prove if GOD existed? I will never forget the answer; She said: “Press your hands on your nose and your mouth for a few seconds, if nothing happens, GOD does not exist, if you feel that you are drowning and you cannot breathe, then ask Him for forgiveness for having doubted, because thanks to Him you have lifetime". From that day on when I hear a child ask the same question, I go back to mother's words and coincide with the infant's reflection. God exists.
If in any way you have verified the existence of the CREATOR, I ask that in any circumstance to which you expose yourself, ask yourself, do I want to? or should I? Imagine that at the moment of creation the great ARCHITECT asked himself these questions; So you think that GOD created us because He had to or because He wanted to; the answer is within each person. For today I can only say that duty “is to be obliged to… “, More wanting is born from the heart and good will.
- THE POWER OF PRAYER.
When we talk to GOD, some people expect an immediate response, generally if we are in trouble we decide to pray to ask for our well-being or other things. The true meaning of prayer is communication with the ALL-POWERFUL, to achieve inner peace, how many people live bitter and with problems of all kinds; Prayer allows us to meet the true human being that we carry inside and each one does it in their own way, there is no single way to pray.
Every time when it gets dark and you go to sleep, remember to give thanks for the day you had, bad or good, you already lived it and it only remains to reflect on what you failed and what you can correct for tomorrow, do the same before getting up and ask why that day, it is different from yesterday, if you don't, don't blame GOD for what happens to you, in the end you didn't ask him for anything, He may assume that you like to live as you live.
Most people think that it is enough to ask GOD for something and He will grant it to us; previously mentioned that GOD allows us to decide and reason, therefore we must also do our part and not leave all the work to him, we always say: "GOD, help me find a job", but we do not go looking for it; "GOD, change my attitude", but we continue to cling to the past and pessimism; "GOD, help me get a raise," but we have done nothing to deserve it; "GOD, this… GOD, the other…." We spend it asking and asking, and our part what, and what corresponds to us to do as individual beings where it is; We completely forget that we must also contribute to achieve what we want, it is not only GOD's task. In general the answers to the problems are always close to us,you just have to look beyond the nose and we will find them. In conclusion you must know that GOD loves you and has a purpose for you, your job is to discover it.AHEAD!!!
PRINCIPLE 2 DEFINE YOUR PERSONAL MISSION AND VISION.
When we visit a company, either to buy an item or simply carry out a financial transaction, it is common that in some strategic place, we visualize a sign that bears the title: "Mission of company X" or "Vision of company Y". These writings firmly state what the organization is and wants to be. The same happens in our lives, with the only difference that we consider missions and circumstantial visions, that is, depending on the moment we live in and without any clear expectations.
From this point of view, your personal mission must be focused on the present, Who am I? Where am I? What do I think of myself? These are some of the questions that help us formulate something more concrete. and specific to the present situation. It is important to also mention the figure of self-concept, which is simply the opinion I have of myself and what I want others to think; this must be included in the mission.
The personal vision is the declaration of the future, the questions that will help us are: Who do I want to be? Where do I want to be? What should I think of myself? We often think about the future, making your vision will not only allow you think, if not recognize that you have to fight to achieve what you have proposed.
Surely you are wondering, what is really a mission and a personal vision, then I will give you a brief example of what they are like.
MY PERSONAL MISSION
“I am a human being capable of reasoning and defining what is best for me. I am aware of my way of acting and I try to improve every day, I know that I can achieve great goals in my life and above all I have confidence in myself ”.
MY PERSONAL VISION.
"I will be a successful person, in such a way that I can feel proud, I will contribute to the development of my country, as a good citizen, I will reach the top of the summit of triumph, I will face the problems that may arise and I will fight to be what I want to be ”.
There are different ways of writing them (mission and vision), everything will depend on what you want to achieve. However, it is essential to recognize in a special way all the attributes, abilities and gifts that we have received, for this reason before elaborating the mission and vision it is recommended that you take an inventory of your life, what in emotional terms you have, what is it? the good thing about me; The following chart will help you identify your skills and abilities. Do not forget that you have great virtues and from now on learn to use them, because that will take you to the last rung of the ladder of success.
| INTELLECTUAL AREA | EMOTIONAL AREA | WEAKNESSES | PRESENT | FUTURE | MISSION | VISION |
| The intellectual abilities that I have should be listed in this space, one by one; for example: if I am good at Mathematics, Logic, English, Computer Science among other competences where
Intelligence and learning are used frequently. |
Emotional competences are the qualities that we are able to show from our interior to the external environment, the ability to love, understand, listen, talk, empathy, etc. | Here are the aspects that we need to improve, previously known as defects. | Define my present situation in simple words.
How am I, what am I doing in my present, what are the actions to take to improve it. (Present) |
It defines where my life will be oriented in the future.
What actions will I take to improve or have a better future? |
Taking into account the previous tables, the personal mission is drawn up.
Who I am? |
Write the vision, taking into account the question What do I want to be? |
PRINCIPLE 3
DEFINE MY VALUES.
Human beings currently develop in an environment full of violence, uncertainty and inequality; We live in a world where "I" is given extreme importance , we are a mass of individuals willing to fight only for what interests us, regardless of whether another person may be affected; We have changed our feelings for material things, without realizing that what cannot be bought is what has the most value.
It is not strange nowadays, to see how parents mistreat their children, and how children mistreat their parents as well; In the same way, families divided between resentment and hatred, just for the simple fact of being different, groups of friends who were very close, today they are not, because someone opened their mouth to say something silly and damage the dignity of all; And what to say about courtship in these times, we no longer find couples willing to fight to preserve love, the passion to live and the desire to love. Perhaps we will never know why this lack of control between human beings is due, but I am certain that values are needed, principles that guide our behavior towards the achievement of common objectives and allow us to integrate ourselves as what we truly are; a group of brothers. From this context, I ask myself, what values do we have?How do we practice them? How do we transmit them? We all know how to identify the practice of a value, we know when it comes to justice, solidarity, respect, among others, but it is difficult to define what values are or are.
What are values?
From its etymology, the word valor comes from the Latin valor, valere, which means strength, health, to be strong; For this reason, when we refer to the appreciation or estimation of a person or thing, we generally say that it has a lot of value. In another sense, ethics and morals define values as a group of qualities that can be found in the world around us and that undoubtedly the practice of them makes our life and that of others more pleasant and harmonious.
Some important men in history, wrote teachings that help to reflect on life and values; Here are some words from Benjamin Franklin :
“The best thing you can give an enemy is forgiveness; to an adversary; tolerance; to a friend, ears; a son, a good example; to your father, I respect; to your mother, a behavior that makes her feel proud of you; to the neighbor, charity; and yourself, self-love. "
In short, values are a task of human beings, no other being that is not human can fully practice them, that is why the importance of cultivating them and defining a set of values that will guide our existence; Here it is important to mention that the family as the fundamental basis of society, must have a profound influence on the development of values, it is not only about being good people, but about contributing to create a better humanity.
PRINCIPLE 4 HOLD ON TO YOUR LIFE.
“Every time I have the opportunity to see myself in the mirror, I remember that I was made in the image and likeness of GOD, and that despite the differences I have with respect to other human beings, I am unique, whether ugly or beautiful, the important thing is to accept and love me as I am ”. WR
In recent years, I have tried to understand the meaning of my own words, I have succeeded in some times, but it has been more difficult for me to accept myself as I am; and love me in the attempt to be happy.
When I was a child, I was always the smallest of my classmates, who did not miss the opportunity to make fun of me; taking away the few coins that mom gave me, climbing a tree from which I could not get down or simply hanging myself in the windows of that school; It was the story that was repeated for many years, and I always lived thinking that I was a despicable being and that nobody wanted to be with me, because of my height; I only had two friends who defended me when others wanted to hit me or have fun for a moment. Thus the years passed and my great dream of that time was to be able to be so great to defend myself and not have to cry when they told me I was a girl. Until one day I get tired of all the humiliation and mistreatment; and I walked steadily towards school,willing to face the first one who trampled my dignity; and in the second recess of the normal class I ended up hanging from the blackboard and with one of my eyes inflamed; My sixth-year teacher asked what had happened, and with a shaking voice and enormous courage, I told her the names of those who had hit me, -just because I was small and could not defend myself- I will never forget that day when I asked the teacher not to punish the perpetrators, I don't know why I did it; but she said the most important words in my life and that helped me to accept myself, love me and cling to life. Today I want to share those words with you:and with a shaking voice and enormous courage, I told him the names of those who had hit me, -just because of the fact that I was small and could not defend myself- I will never forget that day when I asked the teacher not to punish the perpetrators, I don't know why I did it; but she said the most important words in my life and that helped me to accept myself, love me and cling to life. Today I want to share those words with you:and with a shaking voice and enormous courage, I told him the names of those who had hit me, -just because of the fact that I was small and could not defend myself- I will never forget that day when I asked the teacher not to punish the perpetrators, I don't know why I did it; but she said the most important words in my life and that helped me to accept myself, love me and cling to life. Today I want to share those words with you:
"… we are all different- said my teacher- but a man and a woman become so big, only if their heart and brain is big enough to accept themselves and accept others…"
Since that day, no one in the class has ever bothered me again and since then my life took a very big turn; and at the closing ceremony of the school year, the teacher announced the name of the student with the best grades in sixth grade; there was my name, the smallest of all had won one of the many battles that I would have to face during my life.
Sometimes when we feel defeated and without the strength to continue the fight, it is important to remember that we must cling to life and find those good things in us that allow us to move forward, regardless of the differences between human beings.
4.1 ACCEPT YOURSELF AS YOU ARE.
When I check my email, I always find a message or a reflection that a friend or friend has sent me, the following is one of them, which helps us to recognize the differences, accepting in a positive way who we truly are:
First grade Teacher Debbie Moon's was discussing a painting of a family with her group of students. There was a boy in the painting whose hair was a different color from the rest of the family. One of the children in the group suggested that the boy in the painting was adopted and a fellow girl in the group told him:
"I know everything about adoptions because I am adopted."
" What does it mean to be adopted?" asked another child
" It means" , said the girl:
"That you grow in your mother's heart instead of growing in her womb . "
Life tends to teach us great lessons, learning from them is a commitment that we must assume responsibly, especially in the arduous task of being happy. Accepting yourself is not easy at all, but it is something simple, which is achieved by recognizing our defects and our virtues. What happens is that sometimes we do not want to accept that we have a certain ability or a certain defect; The important thing in the case is individual recognition, remember that " no one is as capable of knowing himself, as well as one who accepts himself as GOD created him." WR
When I was in the fourth year of university, in a class - I don't remember which one - the paradigm of resistance to change was discussed and one of my classmates (Astúl) told me in a low voice that people called everything crazy He who accepted sudden changes and believed in a better world, I kept thinking about those words; and feel free to write the following.
ACCEPT AS YOU ARE, EVEN WHEN OTHERS THINK YOU'RE CRAZY...
They say you're crazy… Why?
Because you love life and don't waste it…
Why do you give your love for nothing…
Or why don't you share the naive ideas of "social classes"
Maybe they call you crazy, because you don't use strange reanimators to always smile… Maybe because you carry with you the blessed philosophy of helping human beings…
Maybe they call you crazy for not following the orders that mom gave… Or because you behaved well at school…
You know what? I have come to think that they call you crazy because you think you change the world…. Wait!
Maybe I can help you !!!
I know you believe in GOD…
You try to improve the world you live in… and you also trust people… I know that sometimes you are pessimistic and foolish…
"DO NOT WORRY"
It is normal, remember that you are a human being…
I also know that you fail and give up very quickly, there is no doubt that you must learn from failure…
Yes… yes, I know, sometimes you talk to yourself and that makes you different,
But I still can't understand why they call you, crazy…
It will be because you do not like wars, injustice and poverty…
Or because they realized how afraid you are of loneliness…
Ah! I forgot, it may be that they call you crazy, because nobody shares your ideas and it is that only you can think of having an imaginary friend…
Or because you can't keep quiet….
Or why…….
And also because….
! I do not understand anything !
After all, I've said so many things about you and I can't find the answer to why they say you're crazy…
The doctor and your "friends" were wrong;
If for thinking differently and being who you are they call you crazy, They make a serious mistake…
"YOU ARE NOT CRAZY"
You are simply a human being, like everyone…
…YOU ARE SPECIAL...
Walter Alexander Romero.
4.2. LOVE WHAT YOU DO.
I've always heard some people say that they don't like their job, that they didn't prepare for it… that they hate being in that position… and then I wonder what they would like to do? Probably if they were doing something they have wanted all their lives, they would also be complaining; The core point in these cases is not that the work, or what is done is bad, but that a feeling of belonging has not been awakened, a feeling of authentic love for what is done.
Loving what one does means giving my best, enjoying what I do; my work, study; although sometimes we cannot do what we want, we must learn to love what we do.
Roberto Hernández, is one of the people I admire the most, he is a soccer coach, he has dedicated his whole life to children and young people, teaching how to play this sport; What little I know about soccer he taught me, I met him when I was eight years old, since then, we have been great friends. Every time I see him in training practices, I realize that he gives everything he knows, transmits the feeling of fighting for what one wants in life, not only in football; It is remarkable that enjoys what he does, once told me that success is relative, that should be enjoyed when that happens, because tomorrow perhaps no longer feel the same satisfaction yesterday, so does failure "learns today; forget about it tomorrow ”. Professor Roberto is different from all my friends, in the sense that he truly loves what he does.
When studying the history of great men such as Edison, Newton, Lincol, Galileo Galilei, among others, it is incredible how they fell in love with what they did, for that reason they were successful, although nothing was so easy, loving what one does is the key to get it right…. If you are in a situation where you do something that you do not like, you better start liking it, otherwise in a short time you will be sailing against the current in the sea of failures, nothing is easy; As the great psychologist Sigmund Freud said a few years ago:
"I have been a lucky man: nothing in life was easy for me." Let's take the example then, and fight to achieve our goals, loving what we do without measure.
4.3. TRUST IN YOU.
"He who does not trust himself can only prepare for one thing: FAILURE" WR
I was living one of the most difficult stages of my life, nothing was working out for me, no matter how hard I tried, I could not understand the mathematical problems raised by the professor at the university where I was studying, the bad grades and the failures that came and went like him. wind, they managed to depress me so much that I no longer wanted to continue - it is a normal situation in the student's life - It was then, when I received on my birthday, a very special gift; I remember that it was a yellow bag used to send mail, I opened it and found inside it a book called "The greatest miracle in the world" whose author is Og Mandino, at that moment I said to myself, why do I want more books anyway all this is no longer worth it; I read the first page and found an indication attached to it,This said that I had to read the book in a week and that inside the bag I would find the other indications, sincerely at first it took little importance, but as time passed I discovered interesting things inside the book, I wanted to finish reading it at once, however you had to follow the directions.
On the fourth day of reading I started to feel better, my attitude was changing, my confidence was increasing and I was believing in myself again; On the last day of reading I realized what the greatest miracle in the world was and this text so far has been one of the best books I have read. It was not very difficult to build up my courage and be the same again, I was taking an important step, I was trusting myself. Since those days when I feel bad I remember the content of the pages of the book and the words that the person who gave it to me told me: “Don't stop fighting for the things you want, even when others think you can't; remember that the future belongs to those who are crazy enough to believe in themselves.This is the thought that is written in my room, on a sign and every morning when I wake up I can see it and remember that no one better than me to believe in me.
The big question is how to trust me? First of all we must believe that we can, assume a positive attitude in everything we do, if we believe that we cannot, our brain is so powerful, that no matter how hard we try, we will never achieve to do what we want, the mind can be suggested and that is why we must think from all points of view that it is possible. Having already recognized our abilities, it is necessary to start believing and this means having a self-concept of ourselves, what I think of myself, how I see myself and how I want others to see me, when I die because I want my family and friends remember me; These and other questions help us reflect on our confidence.
Once you learn to trust yourself, you will be able to find yourself, that is, you will discover things that you have always had, but that you had never realized; Finding yourself is a deep journey towards your own feelings and way of thinking, but first you must trust the most important person in your life, that person who can trust you better than anyone, Do you know who he is? person is you.
Confidence in ourselves is very important to achieve success, there will always be people who will not believe, that does not matter, if you believe it is enough and there is enough to achieve everything you propose, go ahead BELIEVE IN YOU, listen to your heart.
4.4. LIVE LIFE WITH PASSION.
When you are attracted to a person, who is of the opposite sex and the nervous system fills with a swarm of small tremors, and you feel that you enjoy every moment with them, you think about them every second, and you always want to to see; I only think that you are in love or in love. In a few days I imagine that he will tell her how much he loves her and she will suppose that if she responds so soon, he will think it is easy. After a few months the dating relationship is inaugurated and they begin a passionate story for a long time; at this stage, he is kind and she is understanding, he is never late and she always wants to see him; for him the reason for his existence is her, for her there is no better man than him; and so they spend their lives loving each other, loving each other, until after all,They decide to join their lives in marriage and be more together than ever. And the expected day arrives, someone pronounces the most difficult words to fulfill, that I have ever heard:"… I declare you husband and wife, until death do you part." And everything is happiness; and the party begins; and happy boyfriends; and happy friends; and the first two months of marriage will be the happiest days of that couple in love.
After six months, they begin to notice the differences, he no longer carries chocolates or flowers as he used to when they were dating, she no longer waits for him as before and sometimes she does not want to see him, he forgets important dates, while she forgets serving dinner, he wears the best perfume to go to work, while she forgets her appearance and no longer even wears lipstick. After a year and a half of being together, their first child is born; and the fights continue; and the problems continue.
With the arrival of their second son, after three years of fights and mistreatment, they decide to separate; he will start his way accompanied by loneliness and she will begin to fight for two little ones who were never to blame for anything; he may not see her again; she doesn't want to know anything about love; while your children will have no one to call daddy. "There is no doubt, passion was needed here."
Probably you will live this situation, maybe you are already living it or maybe you already lived it, regardless of the above, nothing that is written in this story with unspoken characters is foreign to our days, billions of people know it, and so on. as in couples you need to be passionate; so in our lives we need to live life with passion, giving the best of each one, without thinking that tomorrow we will be here.
The passion for life is the fact of giving importance to everything we do, it is the fact of laughing, when necessary and crying when it is necessary to do it. " Let's not wait for the sun to rise to leave our house, cloudy days can also be good" WR and I cannot help expressing that in couples what keeps the flame of love alive is passion; and if the love we feel for a person is materialized in marriage; we are obliged to cultivate passion; not losing the details, doing things together, and always remembering that: "living life without passion is like believing that the moon is made of cheese." WR
If William Shekespeare had not been passionate, there would not be "Romeo and Juliet", much less "A Midsummer Night's Dream"; If Beethoven had not been passionate about what he did at 46, after progressively losing his hearing, he would have retired from music and lived in peace, but it was not like that; Completely deaf, he finished his most important work, including three symphonies in the last six years; If Agnes Gonxha Bojaxhiu (Mother Teresa of Calcutta) had not been passionate about serving her fellow men, now the world would lack a great example of goodness and love of neighbor. As you can see, passion is necessary in our life, let's assert what we do.
A teacher once told me that I could never be a professional, because my character was too impulsive, that I should learn to fight for myself, no matter what might happen to others. Now I realize that my teacher was wrong; I have been passionate about being someone and will always use my impulsive character to advocate for causes that are just. Finally, I believe that we must understand that: "human beings who do not include the ingredient of passion in the recipe for success will never achieve their ideals" WR
4.5. WHO WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE?
When you are a child, adults always insist on asking what do you want to be when you grow up ?, some answer firmly; "I want to be a doctor", "I am a lawyer", "I want to be a firefighter", "…. Police.", In short, a series of professionals mentioned; and someone always appears saying; "You must be like your dad" or "you must be like your mom." I don't mean to say that it is bad - to be like mom or dad - but we grow up with the illusion of being like another person and never like ourselves, we lack authenticity, we are influenced by artists, athletes, or celebrities; we never believe in what we are; and as time goes by the typical complex appears: the child wants to be big and when he is big he wants to be a boy again. After all this, we are already influenced by everyone, they have decided for us;We talk like the others, we support the same soccer team, we used to dress formal and we practice good manners, when we are in society, it seems easy, right ?; this is how we live and grow old, without knowing that we will die trying to imitate another person. I am not saying that you should not take up the good things and imitate them, of course you do, but let's be authentic as much as possible, be yourself.
In short, I want to remind you that holding on to life is; accept ourselves as we are, love what we do, trust ourselves, live life passionately and be authentic. Hold on to your life and start building your future. Good luck!!!
FOR YOU…
For you, who live life; as if nothing, for you who cry, for you who come home, sad, lonely and tired, for you, what do you think about tomorrow; for you, who do not believe in an illusion, who do not believe in your dreams; for you, who got tired of fighting, who gave everything and won nothing,
for you who conquered the highest place on the mountain of life….
For you, who have loved so much,
for you, I write these words that were also mine.
Today you can laugh, cry and love, because you have the greatest treasure…..
You have life….
Walter Alexander Romero.
PRINCIPLE 5 BUILD YOUR FUTURE.
The future, who doesn't like to think about the future; Incredible !!!, but there are people who do not think about it, they believe that it is wasting time and that the only thing that matters is the present; Maybe they are right, however they forget that the future begins when we live in the present. We all know that there is time, past, present and future; These three elements are very important for the success of our lives; the past helps us to correct mistakes, the present to improve our current condition and the future keeps alive the hope of believing that tomorrow will be better than yesterday; like it or not this helps us to live.
In reality the only time we have is the present, but the past and the future will always be there, either positively or negatively affecting our present or simply because we cannot remove them. It is common that most of us live worried about things that we do not even know will happen, that is why we must build our future, learning to live our present.
5.1 CAN YOU LIVE WITHOUT WORRYING?
We are always worried, it is difficult to live without worries, we cannot eliminate them, but we can fight them. Dale Carnegie, in his book "How to suppress worries and enjoy life", mentions that the secret to not being worried is to live busy, try to do activities that allow us to focus our energies and forget our worries; Many people in the world have managed to get out of big trouble, just by keeping busy.
There are times when I would like to be a child again, because they are always smiling; and if they cry, it's only time, then they laugh again. I have never seen a child worried about the economy or social problems; If we all lived like this, few people would die of stress.
Worries are bad company for our life, for this reason it is important that we try to avoid them. How? You know, keeping your mind busy is the best alternative.
5.2 LIVE YOUR MOMENT:
He bought the perfume that his wife had always wanted; and he waited for an opportunity, a special day to give it to him, but that date never came, five days later, he died in a traffic accident. A coffin in the center of the house, many people dressed in black, a sadness invaded the soul of that family, while a man cried and said: “my love here is the perfume you always wanted, I had bought it to give it to you in a special occasion, but I did not imagine that this would happen, forgive me ”.
Why do we always wait for a special day, why do we never live in the moment; why we never say "I love you". Now it may be that you are going through this and the only thing I can tell you is that you take advantage of the moment that life gives you, tomorrow may be too late. Tell that person you love them, wear those new shoes waiting for an opportunity; Go and apologize to who you offended that is not humiliating yourself, that is being great, but do it now. If we knew that the world was going to end in twenty-four hours, we would all say many things that we always felt and wanted to say; do not wait for the world to end, do it now, live your moment, as if it were the last.
5.3 PROJECT YOUR BEST QUALITIES.
When we meet a person, we always judge them by their appearance and never by what they feel and what they think, that happens because we do not know how to project our best qualities, we live limited, we are conservative of our own image, we hope to have confidence to be ourselves, and that person who at first annoyed us, ends up being our best friend, in some cases our partner.
The feelings of human beings are large and delicate, each one of us has his way of projecting them, the problem is that sometimes, we are afraid to show them, due to the naive paradigms of not giving importance to another human being.
Currently companies, little evaluate the intellectual capacity of the people they are going to hire, today everything is focused on feelings, introspection has won the battle for the intellect. We live in a truly emotional world.
5.4 DREAM, it's free...
The famous Spanish playwright and poet, Pedro Calderón de la Barca, wrote one of the most important philosophical dramas of the golden age of literature, which he called "Life is a dream."
and the central idea of this masterpiece is: "that all life is a dream / and dreams are dreams".
I don't know if life is a dream, but I do know that I like to dream, to live; He who does not dream is weak, because he believes he is incapable of making his own dreams come true. Who pays to dream? Dreaming is free, I don't see why some stop dreaming, just because a dream didn't come true.
Some time ago, I was discussing this topic with some friends, some said that dreaming was not very good; others said that it had to be done, but with a limit; The only thing I said was that I am a real dreamer. It was then that I returned home and sitting in front of some memories that I hold with special esteem, I wrote the following:
Dreams of yesterday...
If someone asked me what is a dream, what is an illusion and what is a hope; I would not know what to say, although at some time I have dreamed, I have been excited and still hope.
I remember when Mom would sing, so I could sleep and travel where no one could ever go. This is how my life passed between stories and music from that old radio that today is part of the museum of old things.
With a little bit of everything, time went and stopped; I remember the toy guitar they bought for me, that day I dreamed of making the world its own song; I greeted the strings and in a few moments that guitar, it was just a wood, without strings, without music, without anything… the dream was over.
I dreamed of being the driver of a bus and knowing the world; I dreamed of being a soldier, to fight against the supposed bad guys, but there were no reasons, everyone fought and no one knew why.
One day I dreamed of being a doctor, to cure all ills and take the occasional injection; I dreamed of being a clown, to avoid pain and smile at life, hold my grudges and endure suffering, while humans laugh…
Of all that I dreamed, nothing was, nor will it be, all I have are dreams, dreams of yesterday…
Today I don't know whether to dream or maybe it will stop me, because yesterday's dreams will not be the same as always; yesterday's are stories that I don't want to tell; Today's are from yesterday, which only confirms what I am now, a frustrated dreamer, who wants to continue, to live life and stop dreaming; and build me a world of happiness.
Because dreamers, there will always be…
Dreams will never end…
Even if life ends, when dreams die…
Walter Alexander Romero. (WR)
PRINCIPLE 6 POSITIVE ATTITUDE
I will never forget, on the morning of Wednesday June 2, 2004, I woke up to my mother's screams and crying, my grandfather had died; after living sick for many years. He who was more than a father to me, had left us and I must confess that it is difficult for me to accept that he is no longer with us. To all this was added a dating relationship on the verge of collapse; In those days I was more alone than ever, I thought that everything was over, however the family had to get ahead and resign themselves to losing their grandfather.
The days passed and I felt sad, but I had to change my attitude, and see the positive side of things; my grandfather never gave up on his illness, he fought as far as he could; and he lived longer than was believed. I was alive, with enough energy to continue, if I started to improve my attitude, I read motivational books, now I'm fine; But I admit that when you lose a valuable person in your life, it's hard to get over it.
The positive attitude is very important in human beings, many have achieved great things, just by acting positively, that is why we must remember that in everything we do we must look for the positive side, we only have to see beyond our own nose.WR When we have a positive attitude, we have fun doing anything, no matter how difficult it is; We smile and enjoy ourselves to the fullest.
Despite having assumed a positive attitude, I never imagined, that days after the death of my grandfather, my relationship of five years would end at the bottom of my memory box, love had given a low blow to my sincerest feelings; I felt the same again, I did not want to know anything about anyone, I became so depressed that I could not sleep for many days, although my family tried to cheer me up, it was difficult, it was a situation in which only GOD and I could do something.
Four months later, my attitude changed without realizing it, at night I cried alone and asked GOD for strength to continue; It was then that I relied on the effort that my mother made to get ahead, because I must say that I live with my uncles and grandparents, I call my aunt mom with good reason, but the one who conceived me in her womb was far away, in the land of dreams, fighting for my brothers and I to have a better future. She was the one who inspired me and I continued my life, sometimes sad and other times covering up the sadness with a smile.
Nine months later when I only had one string left on the guitar of life, I don't know how it happened, but I had to continue the music, life had to continue and GOD gave me another chance, a new smile came to me, he gave me back Life at the right time when I needed it, although this time passes, I will never forget August 15, 2005, because that day ended more than 365 days of melancholy, and unexpectedly I am the same as always, thanks to my attitude.
As I said, nothing is stronger than a positive mind, in my life I have overcome problems thanks to that, I hope you can achieve it too; Finally, I want you to read the anecdote that follows carefully, I don't know who is telling it, much less who Jamie is, but I liked it since I found it on the internet, it is a great example of a positive attitude: Little Jamie Scout, I was trying to get a part in a play at school. His mom told me that the boy had put his heart into it, yet she feared he would not be chosen. The day the parts of the play were handed out, I was at school. Jamie ran off bright-eyed, with pride and excitement.
"Guess what mommy," he shouted, "and said the words that will remain a lesson to me.
"I was not given a role in the play, but I have been chosen to applaud and cheer."
I call that POSITIVE ATTITUDE, don't wait any longer, as my sister Jennifer once told me, "If you can't get in through the door, learn to get in through the window, and if you can't jump over the wall, learn to build a door.". She read that thought only once and since then, she has based her life on those words. Positive attitude, that's the secret; "Good luck".
PRINCIPLE 7 CORRECT DECISIONS.
What is the most important decision you have made in your life? Have you ever wondered that; I hope so, since decisions greatly affect our lives; However, it must be admitted that sometimes we make the mistake of procrastination (delay in making decisions) and this can lead to failure.
There is no process, nor a norm or rule that tells us how to make a decision, everyone can do it in their own way, although some books indicate certain steps to follow, but it does not mean that it is the only way to do it. From this perspective, I personally consider five stages to make a decision, which are:
- EVALUATE PROPOSAL.
Regarding what I have to decide, what advantages and disadvantages will make that decision, how it will affect my life.
- CONVENIENCE ANALYSIS.
Having taken into account the advantages and disadvantages, a situational balance is made and based on that I can say whether or not it is convenient for me to make that decision.
- PROJECTION FOR THE FUTURE.
How I see myself in five years making this decision. Visualizing myself in what I want actually fits my goals.
- LOOK FOR ANOTHER POINT OF VIEW.
It is always important to know what someone else thinks about the decision we are about to make, just be careful who you trust to help us. Remember that there are three points of view; ours, someone else's and the right one, in the end the decision is yours, and what happens is your responsibility, not someone else's.
Henry Ford said: "If there really is a secret to achieve success, it is in the ability to understand the other person's point of view and be able to see things from both angles"
- TAKE THE DECISION.
If you are wrong, you will soon find out, take your time, reflect and try again; if the decision is correct you will also know it; Remember that the most important decision is to be happy.
PRINCIPLE 8 CONSTANT DISCIPLINE.
In my life I have not been very disciplined to say, the truth is that this word is difficult for me to understand because it goes beyond good behavior, it has a lot to do with compliance with rules and regulations, which personally I do not like. continue, not because they are bad, but because sometimes I think that things should be done in the best way and there are poorly designed processes to do them, for example; I do not agree with some methods that teachers use to teach in schools, I think it can be done in a better way, guiding teaching to strengthen people's feelings, and not only to develop students' intellectual capacity; that is why we have human beings with a high degree of intelligence, but without any knowledge of social sensitivity. All for following the rulesand principles dictated by the corresponding entities.
Discipline instructs a person in the fulfillment of what is correct, this is undoubtedly important for society, but it is not always good to be disciplined; understand well "IT IS NOT ALWAYS GOOD TO BE DISCIPLINED". When someone said these words, someone asked me if I was against discipline, I answered no, I am completely in favor of discipline and I applaud the fact that many people are disciplined, where I differ is that discipline allows us to live a philosophy that I call "Philosophy of the way it has always been done" and nothing can change that and there we are, forty years go by and some still believe that the old way of doing things is still in force.
I believe in discipline, that is why I consider that each person must establish their rules that can guide their life, their norms, what should and should not be done, we must not lock ourselves in a square, sometimes it will be our responsibility to submit to a discipline different from ours, if we believe that it is correct, go ahead, but if we believe that it can be done in a better way, it is worth fighting for what is correct.
The idea is not that you agree with me, but that you can strengthen your own discipline and keep it constant, that is good for success.
PRINCIPLE 9 BE BETTER EVERY DAY.
Until this moment of the day in which you live, what have you learned? What have you done to make this day the best? If you haven't learned anything and done nothing, you better start now. Being better every day includes learning, emotional growth, sharing experiences, reading a good book, among other things.
Being better every day implies being prepared to face whatever destiny may bring you, and it is important to know how to adapt to easy and difficult situations. some people are reluctant to change their attitude towards being better, resistance to change is normal to some extent We are all afraid of new things, but it can become a paradigm that is difficult to break, hence the importance of not resisting change, on the contrary to adapt as long as we know that it is correct.
Some years ago, I read a book entitled "The Decalogue of the Successful Salesman" whose author is Mr. Ignacio Orrego Rojo and the following writing caught my attention:
You always have to put the batteries.
Every morning in Africa a gazelle wakes up, she knows she must outrun the slowest lion in the jungle or the lion will kill her…
Every morning in Africa a lion wakes up, He knows he must run faster than the slowest gazelle in the jungle or he will starve.
It doesn't matter if you are the lion or the gazelle, When the sun rises it is better that it is already running.
It is easy to interpret the above so it begins to change. There is capacity, there is intelligence, there is will. Do you want to live? So what are you waiting for? The message is clear "BE BETTER EVERY DAY" you decide how to do it.
PRINCIPLE 10 CHANGE YOUR ROUTINE.
From the beginning of my life, I had a certain inclination for art, music, the humor of the circus, they were my favorites. I remember that on one occasion they took me to a circus that had come to the city where we live. I don't remember the name of the circus, but it was very good; the function began with the acrobatics of some aerialists, continued with a magician, a contortionist and then they announced the number of clowns, who did not appear anywhere, however they continued to announce them, when suddenly they appeared from the audience and the whole The world was amazed, while waiting to see them on stage, they had entered through the back door and mingled with the people who attended to see the show. That's what I call breaking the routine.
Many times what we call routine and which is nothing more than doing the same thing every day usually affects our lives negatively, we get tired even of seeing ourselves in the mirror, walking on the same side, eating at the same time, going to the same place of always and we spend it making our life a syndrome of total boredom. That is why it is important to do something different every day that breaks the routine and makes us feel good, it can be anything from singing in the bathroom to jumping from a plane with a parachute, anything that helps make a difference during the day.
10.1 DEDICATE TIME TO YOUR FAMILY.
One of the things I like the most is always sharing a moment of the day with my family, talking about a topic, commenting on problems, telling a joke or just stopping by to share something to eat. And many times I have thought that not all of us have that opportunity, sometimes for reasons of distance, and others because we do not know the meaning of family.
When I go to church, it is common to see a scene where a mother or father are angry because their youngest child starts crying and they cannot hear the message; I think they should enjoy that moment because it only happens at that age of the little ones, there are parents who do not know how to enjoy the moments with their children, the first word they say, the first time they fall for trying to walk, the first toy, its first letters. All of this constitutes an important part of what it is to break with the routine; A friend told me that he was always with his family, that he had never been away, I only asked him when was the last time he woke up because his little son was crying during the night; and he replied that usually the one who woke up to reassure him was his wife.Immediately I told him that spending time with the family is a little more than being there physically, it is not enough that you have to know the problems and feelings of the family.
This issue of the family is a bit delicate, sometimes when I have talked about this, they have told me that I see things that way because I have no children or a wife. Actually, I do not think it is necessary to realize about the importance of the family, although it is true I have no experience, but it is what I think, being with your family makes you more sensitive, I can bet that there are children than ever They have told their parents that they love them, maybe it is what they expect from you so today is a good day to do it, don't you think?
To avoid stress problems it is better that we no longer follow the same routine, it will affect us and we will end up bitter old men and with a boredom department in the head. Some activities that I propose to break the routine are:
- Do something different every day. Do not take work home, free yourself. Spend time with your family. Do not walk in the same place. Have healthy fun. Talk to your friends about common topics.
Ah !! And don't forget when everyone thinks you're going to do the same as always, surprise them and do something extraordinary, in other words you can enter through the back door and appear where no one expects you… from now on you have a challenge, it will be easy for you If you have understood me, to if it CHANGES ROUTINE.
"Routine is like failure, we rarely dare to change it" WR
PRINCIPLE 11 HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS.
I am the oldest of three brothers, in my mind I always keep Mom's advice, she always insisted that I should communicate with people, talk a little more and be participatory; It took me a long time to understand this great secret of human relationships, today I believe that it is the fundamental basis to achieve success, because those who cannot relate to their peers must know that they are in retreat towards a world that no longer exists., (WR) we are not one on planet earth, there are billions of people with whom we can share pleasant moments, as long as we know how to relate as human beings that we are.
Some of the ways that I personally consider important in the pursuit of the right human relationships are:
- KNOW HOW TO LISTEN.
We always like to be listened to, but we never know how to listen, in the task of a good conversationalist, the secret of knowing how to listen must be known, because an excellent conversationalist is not precisely someone who can talk about various topics, but someone who has the ability to listen. different topics, showing an authentic interest in knowing what another person is going to say, since 80% of our knowledge is acquired when we listen.
- UNDERSTAND OTHERS.
We spend our lives trying to get our family, friends, neighbors or acquaintances to understand us, but we never make an attempt to understand them; For this reason, true communication does not occur when others understand us, but when we understand others, because regardless of what they say is their opinion and we must reasonably respect it.
- RESPECT THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS.
I remember that in one of my literature classes a colleague explained that Sancho Panza, the inseparable friend of Don Quixote de la Mancha, had not been more than a creation of Shekespeare's imagination, and nothing could be compared to reality, none of the that we were there, he said nothing, although deep down we knew that this work was written by Miguel de Cervantes; When the teacher corrected our colleague, he accepted the error, apologized and finished his presentation. I have no doubt that this was a show of respect for an opinion of others.
Not all human beings think the same, in this sense we must have a deep respect for the opinions of other people, even if we know that they are in error, the time will come to correct it.
- THE PROHIBITED TOPICS.
It is said that in a conversation one should not talk about politics or religion, since there could be dislikes due to the diversity of ideologies, however I do not agree with this, because I have seen people mature enough to talk about these issues and remain friends; What happens is that we always live separated by religion or politics, and I agree that we should not talk about this only when there is no maturity to deal with them.
- I AM ALWAYS RIGHT.
As intelligent as you may be, you should know that you do not know everything and that you will not always be right. Many people within human relationships, want to impose their opinion claiming that it is the most correct, this destroys good relationships, avoid it as many times as necessary.
- TREAT THE OTHERS AS YOU WANT THE OTHERS TREAT YOU.
Confucius already said it, many years ago "Treat others, as you want them to treat you", if you demand respect, give respect, if you want love, give love; help whoever you can and they will help you.
Perhaps I have not taken into account other important aspects to relate to others, but basically these six have helped me to strengthen my interpersonal relationships; without forgetting to add a smile every time we try to carry out the beautiful activity of communicating. Finally, let me share with you the words written by Charles Chaplin, in one of his poetic compositions.
LIFE IS A PLAY OF THEATER THAT DOES NOT ALLOW REHEARSALS…
That's why sing, laugh, dance, cry and live every moment of your life intensely…..
… Before the curtain goes down and the play ends without applause.
HEY HEY SMILE!
But do not hide behind that smile… show what you are without fear, there are people who dream of your smile just like me.
LIVES! TRY!
Life does not go through an attempt… LOVE!
Love above all, love everything and everyone… don't close your eyes to the dirt in the world, don't ignore hunger, forget the bomb, but first do something to fight it, even if you don't feel capable.
SEARCH!
Look for what is good in everything and everyone, do not make defects a distance and an approximation...
YOU ACCEPT!
Life, people, make them your reason for living...
UNDERSTANDS!
Understand people who think differently than you, do not disapprove, Eh! Look…
Look at your back, how many friends...
Have you already made someone happy today?
Or did you make someone suffer with your selfishness?
HEY! Do not run…
Why such a rush? just run inside you...
IT SOUNDS!
But don't harm anyone and don't turn your dream into a flight...
BELIEVE! WAIT!
There will always be a way out, a star will always shine.
CRY! FIGHT!
Do what you like, feel what is inside you...
HEARS!…
Listen to what other people have to say, it is important...
GOES UP!…
Make the obstacles steps...
For what you want to achieve… but don't forget those who failed to climb the ladder of life...
DISCOVER!
Discover what is good within you...
Try above all to be people.
I'm going to try it too...
HEY! Your…
Now go in peace...
I must tell you that I LOVE YOU, simply because you exist….
Charles Spencer Chaplin.
In human relationships, friendship plays an important role, since it allows a more intimate affective treatment, this makes us reflect and think, what would we be willing to do for a friend or even for an enemy?
A story that perhaps few know, refers to two of the three tenors - Luciano Pavarotti, Placido Domingo and José Carreras, who moved the world by singing together. »Even those who have never visited Spain, know the rivalry between the Catalans and the Madrileños, since the Catalans fight for their autonomy in a Spain dominated by Madrid. Well, Placido Domingo is from Madrid and José Carreras is Catalan. For political reasons, in 1984, Carreras and Domingo became enemies.
Always in great demand in all parts of the world, both stated in their contracts that they would only appear in a certain show, if the opponent was not invited. In 1987, a much more implacable enemy appeared to Carreras than his rival Placido Domingo. He was surprised by a terrible diagnosis: Leukemia !!! His fight against cancer was very painful. He underwent several treatments in addition to the bone marrow auto-transplant, the change of blood that forced him to travel once a month to the United States.
In these conditions he was unable to work and despite owning a reasonable fortune, the high costs of travel and treatment weakened his finances. When he had no more financial conditions, he learned of the existence of a foundation in Madrid, whose sole purpose was to support the treatment of leukemics.
Thanks to the support of the "beautiful" foundation, Carreras overcame the disease and began to sing again. She again received the high honors she deserved, and tried to join the foundation. When reading its statutes, he discovered that the founder, greatest collaborator and president of the foundation, was Placido Domingo. Then he learned that he had created the entity, in principle, to attend to him and that he had remained anonymous so that he would not feel humiliated for accepting help from his "enemy."
“The most moving was the meeting of the two… surprising Placido in one of his presentations in Madrid, Carreras interrupted the event and humbly, kneeling at his feet, apologized and thanked him publicly. Placido helped him up and with a big hug they sealed the beginning of a great friendship.
In an interview with Placido Domingo, the journalist asked him why he had created the "beautiful" foundation at a time when, in addition to benefiting an "enemy," he had helped the only artist who could compete with him.
Placido Domingo's answer was short and definitive:
"Because you can't lose a voice like that…"
Without a doubt a great example of the gift of being people, we should remember this story when our enemies need us. Human relationships go beyond being kind to people, it is the fact of showing a sincere and affectionate interest in other human beings…
PRINCIPLE 12 BE A LEADER.
How are you? I know that maybe you don't know me, once I saved your life, I didn't expect you to thank me, I honestly did it with great pleasure, I speak in front of large crowds and I've never seen you there, maybe because you don't want to follow me? I really don't know, but my love for you is as great as GOD's own creation.
Friend, friend, I'm here, can you see me? Surely you can't, you lack the heart to achieve it, even if you don't believe it, I'm important in your life, not because of what I do for you every time you ask me for help, nor because of who I am, it's because of what you mean to me…
Do not suffer anymore, seek happiness within you, I will be with you always, until after the end of your life, always, I will always be with you… but now I need your help, let me influence your life, help me build a better humanity, a world where people can love each other and live in peace, a world full of love and happiness. Would you help me?…
I hope you can do it, that is my wish, for a long time. You should know that you are not alone in this, there are people who also have this desire, they can help you, please do not give up; To see your future you need to take a look at the past and begin to act in your present; Keep going, you have the courage to do it, because you have the gift of thinking and deciding for yourself, if you don't, you have done nothing today to try to live…
I have to go, not only do I address my words to you, there are other people to talk to, but first let me ask you: Do you know me? Do you know who I am? I guess you don't know, but I'll tell you; I was born in a place called Bethlehem, I am a carpenter, I lived in Nazareth and my name is JESUS.
Walter Alexander Romero.
It occurred to me that before writing about what a leader is, I could illustrate the way I imagine the greatest leader who has come to this earth speaks to us and we all know that I mean Jesus of Nazareth. There will never be another leader like him, he was born to serve, lived to serve and died so that our sins would be forgiven, that is to be a true leader, apart from all this he left us the legacy of his teachings that still live in our minds and hearts, A leader transcends time, he is always remembered, now he must be watching us after having beaten death and resurrecting he must look at us with his tender eyes, disappointed in the world we are building… we will have to reflect and follow the example of this great leader.
Theoretically, there are many definitions of leadership and leader, I am not going to mention them all, but I do like the way certain authors of administrative books define it:
"Leadership is influence, it is the art or process of influencing people so that they voluntarily and enthusiastically make an effort to fulfill group goals"
"Leader is the man who has the ability to get other people to do what they do not want to do and that they like"
I believe that leadership is the ability that men and women have to positively influence a work team or group of people; A leader is the person who exercises leadership and who awakens in others the desire to follow and imitate him. Some experts in the field wonder if a leader is born or made. I am not going to discuss this dilemma, but I can recognize a true leader from his way of acting and dealing with others.
Some characteristics that I consider a leader should have are the following:
- Loyalty to the team he leads. Team integrity. Differs from any person. He is a true servant. Respectful and responsible. Emotionally intelligent.
These characteristics are one of the many that a leader must have. History confirms that there have been great leaders. I can mention Margaret Thatcher, the first woman to hold the position of Prime Minister of Great Britain; likewise Mahatma Gandhi, “Perhaps his clothing said what his soul wanted to reflect The great wealth of the poor, His effort was supported by many to the point of achieving a triumph by way of peace, many value him as the man of civil resistance, but we think that the greatest value that can be given was his initiative to achieve freedom. full of the great English kingdom, a kingdom that was easily surpassed by the men of less resources, the wealthy class of that time, despised the poor from there civil resistance originates, from the poor to the rich without using weapons ”.
And so you can mention great leaders who have contributed to humanity, to be a leader you must have the desire to serve, for this reason the important leadership to achieve success in everything you propose.
Of thought...
The leader helps… the leader guides… the leader directs..
A leader does and does not say do…
The leader is faithful to his promise to help…
Build a world of peace.
It was born out of the need to serve others…
Live with the desire to be better every day…
And he dies for causes that are truly just.
Walter Alexander Romero.
PRINCIPLE 13 BUILD YOUR TEAM.
Isaac Newton said, "If I have seen further, it is because I have leaned on the shoulders of giants", this to refer to the work team that surrounded him, the people in whom it was important to place his trust and knowledge.
Like Newton, a leader must be part of a work team whose objectives and goals are in common, so that in this way they can integrate and support each other. To achieve this it is necessary to learn to work as a team and not as a group; In other words, although the goal has been achieved, people must strengthen their integration into it and not reach individual interests and withdraw; a true team always stays together.
A series of aspects must be taken into account to form a work team, among them the most important are:
- Know how to choose people Everyone wants to be with successful people Establish achievements and commitments Identify your strengths and weaknesses Team loyalty
It is not about discriminating against anyone, but knowing how to choose the people who will make up the team is very successful, for that reason it seems to me the most important of the criteria according to my particular way of thinking.
In October 2004, I attended a youth leaders camp, where we would be trained to run our own camps; At that time she was a member of a youth network or team in the eastern part of El Salvador, specifically in the area of Jiquilisco Bay and the Sierra Tecapa Chinameca. I remember that we camped in a place called “Laguna de Alegría” located in the Sierra Tecapa Chinameca, a wonderful natural landscape. The first day we began to be victims of the cold and of course the fog that every night that we were there appeared as a special guest, the next day all the attendees were divided into teams and a competition began through physical tests, speed mental and everything you can imagine;The fact is that in one of the many tests we carried out I fractured my left knee and could not stand or walk, I was immediately transferred to the nearest hospital located about forty minutes from the camp.
When we got to the hospital they did all the tests and they immobilized my leg completely, it was the first time something like this had happened to me, I was scared. The director of the institution that sponsored the activity and at the same time the general coordinator of the youth network, asked me if I wanted to go home, in the end that I could no longer do any activity that involved movement; To which I replied that no, I had come to a camp and I was not going to return home without it having finished, thanks to my stubbornness and my arguments they let me stay.
When we returned to the camp, it seemed that no one was waiting for me and when the members of my team could see me with my immobile leg and some crutches that a lady very kindly lent me, they began to shout my name continuously and I was in each of the activities that they They did, since they carried me everywhere on a stretcher, it was the first time that I felt supported by a group of people that I barely had known for hours. They showed that we were a team and it does not matter if we have to carry someone else's weight, the important thing is that we were all able to finish the camp and on the day of dismissal all the teams approached me to wish me a speedy recovery, while I he thought about what he had learned from everyone. I will never forget this experience.
As I have told you before, being part of a team guarantees success in many areas of our life, so join the cause, form your team and start playing, in the end if you win everyone will have won and if they lose, you have to go back to start.
PRINCIPLE 14 MANAGE TIME.
I do not know the origin of these words that I will mention, because they were sent to me by a friend to my email address, it is one of those emails that you have to send to a number of people to bring you luck, the truth is I do not believe in that at all, but what the writing says is an absolute truth, I hope you like it and can reflect on the value of time:
If you want to know the value of a year, ask a student who has failed in final exams...
To find out the value of a month, ask a mother who gave birth prematurely...
To find out the value of a week, ask the editor of a magazine...
To know the value of an hour, ask a couple in love impatiently waiting for their date...
To know the value of a minute, ask someone who just missed their train, plane or bus...
To find out the value of a second, consult someone who has just survived an accident...
To find out the value of a thousandth of a second, ask someone who just won a medal at the Olympics...
Time waits for no one. Enjoy each of the moments that are granted to you, because it is unrepeatable… share it with a loved one and it will be even more precious...
Only time fills men's souls with longing, only time heals the wound left by a love, only time takes care of oblivion, only time makes us fall in love again, only time will give us reason, only time will help us feel older, only time will tell us what we come to the world for; So I wonder why I have not used my time? WR
Making the most of time is everyone's responsibility, some say that time cannot be managed, what is managed is oneself, however, that is why there is freedom, because I can say that I am against those words. Time can be managed and some of the activities that I propose for this are:
- Scheduling of activities Carry out activities in the stipulated time Make the most of free time Leave spaces for unforeseen events.
And always make this phrase resonate … ”Time is the course of our life; being born, growing up and dying, but above all living making the most of time ”WR
PRINCIPLE 15 COMMITMENT TO SUCCESS.
In one of the many wars that have occurred in the world, there was a general who locked the prisoners, in a dark room, where the eyes could hardly be seen, when they happened to shine from the reflection of the light. Every year this general gave his prisoners the opportunity to be free again and ordered to open a door that could be seen in the distance, whoever had the courage to go through the door and survive what was on the other side would be free. For years, few men dared walk through the gate, but they never returned; so you had to think it through to perform such a feat. Until there was a day when the general asked: Who would dare to cross that door? Nobody said anything, it seemed that the prisoners were resigned to die… in that dark dungeon and so it was, one after another they died,with the doubt of knowing what would have happened when crossing the door….
Many of us are locked in a dungeon similar to the one in this story and when the door opens we are afraid to cross, human beings fear the unknown and we prefer to die without trying to get out of the prison we are in.
I imagine you are wondering what was after that door, do you want to know? As well. There was nothing, there was no battalion waiting for someone to come out, to shoot them, there was nothing but the precious freedom, the way home and many of the prisoners died without knowing it…
Now, make a commitment to yourself, a commitment to success, commit yourself to succeed, to correct and learn from your mistakes, to fight for your ideals, just because a dream does not come true does not mean that you should no longer sleep to dream, (WR) On the contrary, you must have more dreams, just try to daydream. Jump in the pool, but learn to swim first; enjoy your success, but learn to fail first; love others, but first love yourself…
I know you can look further and stop to reflect, you are committed to success, when the door opens, remember that after that door is the way home… freedom…
A STORY…
AND MOM SAID: "I WANT TO SUCCEED"
My parents fell in love and decided to join their lives; As a result of that decision, I was born. Then my sister came, but things were bad, Dad and Mom would not be together again, because the problems were already bigger than the love they felt and they chose to separate…
Since then, mother began the struggle to get ahead, with a three-year-old boy and a newborn, fortunately my grandparents and maternal uncles did not leave her alone and since the day of separation they have taken care of us as if we were their children.
My mother went to the capital in search of a better life for her and us; but it was not enough; As the years went by, love knocked on my mother's door again and my younger brother was born.
I remember that my mother always said that she dreamed of seeing our lives fulfilled, but in a poor country in which we live it is very difficult to achieve it, so a little after my younger brother turned three years old, she undertook a trip to the country of dreams and opportunities, a journey in which we would not see her again so soon. Thanks to my aunt - the youngest of five siblings - who was there, Mom found the perfect support and she's been in that country for a long time; as people who live on another continent say "it has been a long time in America." And we don't know when he will return.
Mom's life after the separation was not the same, and she was able to overcome all the difficulties of life, for that reason I consider her a woman with a fervent desire to improve herself, bigger than the world; but that is another story that one day I will be able to tell; For today I want you to allow me to pay tribute to the woman who without thinking about it has given everything to be who I am now. To my mother who undoubtedly gave me the greatest example to develop the idea of “I WANT TO SUCCEED”.
COME HOME MOM...
You looked at me and told me; you will be great…
And asleep I dreamed of being someone…
And you fought without stopping, And how many times I fell in the attempt to walk, you lifted me up, consoling my life, consoling my being…
You taught me to walk…
And even though dad wasn't there…
I was happy with you.
You told me that life was special and to learn from time…
You advised me to be, in your arms I dreamed; but one day you left for no reason…
Many years have passed and I finally managed to understand that it was my fault, since then I have not seen you again.
Thank you, is what I can say…
Thank you, for your caresses, for lifting me up from my failures, like when I was a child, thank you for restoring my inspiration, among other things, thank you for being a mother.
Today for you I am, what I am…
I have achieved my dreams
I have reached very high and when I remember you, that's when I miss you the most…
Today I have nothing more to give you…
Only one I love you and the words that my heart dictates…
I'm already big…
I'm already someone… look at me;
And come home mom.
Walter Alexander Romero.
A FEW FINAL WORDS...
Today that you allow me to say, what I was always afraid to tell, either because of my shyness or because of the simple fact of not wanting to take out of the closet of old things, my memories that were important only to me…
Today I share some of what I have learned; something from me, and something from others…
Today that I can blast myself from my past, live in the present and think about my future, today I can say that I am better than ever… because I allow myself to write what I think and take responsibility for every delusional, chimerical, and whimsical phrase, which stops discontent of many, they are not more than words….
And for the soothing or relief of others, they are more than a comfort…
While the many, with their discontent and the others, with their soothing, discuss how to use these words; for me it is the result of the obstacles that I have had to tolerate all these years. And somehow accept that I do not need anything to be crazy, it is enough for me to believe in my instinct as a dreamer or a perfect illusionist, to find the answer to my real problems… that go beyond what you could think and lock yourself in the present, crying out for a better future, under the debt of my most intimate emotions…
I will never know, if you agreed or not, but I can no longer retract what I have written, I cannot look back, and neither can you; That is why I ask you to find happiness, do not look for it in the superficial of things, but within yourself. If you fail, try again, don't give up, life is too short to waste…
I see the stars in the sky, whenever GOD happens to paint a night with a full moon and an endless number of them; although I know that I will never be able to reach one, I have the firm conviction, to look as far as I can, to keep alive the hope of being able to touch them and illuminate my path towards what I want to achieve in my life…
Look towards the sky, from wherever you are, look as far as the eyes of the soul allow you and try to reach a star, that is your goal, it is your path, it is success…
YOU CAN SUCCEED!
God bless you.
Walter Alexander Romero.
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