Although I have talked about achieving your goals and designing them well more than once, today I am going to give you another recommendation about the goals that you postpone and postpone and never disappear from your list. Those that every time you read them you think “this time, whatever”, and that you even start but leave them half finished and they are torturing you eternally. What to do in these cases?
First, make a list of all those goals, purposes or objectives that you always have in mind but that you never do (or that you start and leave halfway). Everything you can think of, both professionally and personally.
Then review the list carefully and decide:
1. Which ones do you want to eliminate completely. It's over to give them a thousand laps, you are not going to consider them anymore (read my example with the gyms below).
2. Which ones do you want to postpone indefinitely. Create a folder or other list with the title "someday / maybe" and put there the projects and goals that you would like to achieve but that you know you are not going to do right now.
3. Try to do this with at least 10% of the projects that you always put off.
What you get with this is to get things out of your head that rob you of energy, that worry or overwhelm you. Those projects that as soon as you read them you already think "buff, if I should be serious" and that make you feel terrible. With this simple exercise you will be able to park them and not rob you of more energy. Why? Because you postpone or eliminate them on purpose. Nothing to do with letting time go by making excuses and feeling bad. You consciously decide that you are simply going to leave it for later, or not. What I do not recommend is to continue postponing making decisions about those actions, decide to leave them for later or eliminate them completely, or do them, but do not leave them hanging…
A typical and real example: every year I propose to join a gym and this time, yes, go regularly. Every year or quarter I would think about it, get overwhelmed, sign up, try to go with a friend, who was on his way home, bring music, etc. Every time I stopped going after a while and started again. Until one day I said, it's over, I'm not going to consider going to a gym, I leave it, I have to assume that I don't like it and I don't want to, I'll find other ways to exercise. As soon as I made that decision, the release was immense and I have no longer worried about it. Try it yourself and tell me.
And another final trick, have you thought about the alternative of making a list of things NOT to do?…
