Have you stopped for a moment to think about the things / objectives that you want (or that you say you want) and that you have not achieved until now? There are two forms of self-sabotage closely related to whether or not you have the results you want:
- Believing you want something you don't really want, not being consistent with what you say you want.
The first I have mentioned several times, there are times when you think you want what society or those around you really tell you that you should want; And that creates an internal division that makes you confused because you think you want it but you don't do anything to get it, or you don't feel happy once you've got it. The solution to this situation is, of course, to clarify what you really want, taking into account your values, needs and priorities, without letting yourself be influenced by the environment.
On the other hand, there is the issue of being consistent with what you want. If you really want something, you have to behave consistently! You say you want to change jobs but you do nothing to find another. You say you want to be healthier but you don't exercise or eat healthier. You say you want to turn your life around but you keep doing exactly the same thing...
Being consistent with what you want means that everything you do is focused on achieving your goal. That is one of the reasons why it is recommended that once you decide to make a change that you make it public, it is a way of committing to yourself. But not only that, being consistent also includes controlling your body language and your internal messages, what you say to yourself.
Suppose you want to take more time for a personal project, to be with your family or whatever. Probably what you are thinking is "I would have to take more time to…", "But where am I going to get it from", "If you can't have everything". All this accompanied by sighs of resignation. Or, if it is some other project, it may come to your mind "It will have to be tried, I do not know if it will come out but well, for trying."
Do you recognize yourself So, of course, you're not going to get anywhere, you're sending mixed, incoherent messages to your brain. How are you going to be motivated?
Now imagine that what you say to yourself is "I'm going to do it, let's go there" with a very upright smile, do you see the difference? People who succeed and achieve their goals dedicate all their resources, mental and physical, to the task at hand. As Anthony Robbins says in his book Power Without Limits:
“ When my body and my words harmonize, I send unequivocal signals to my brain of what I intend. And my mind acts accordingly. "
Why do you think everyone who succeeds says that mindset is important? It is easy to think that if you knew the strategies they use, the tricks they have, you would achieve the same. But it's not like that, sometimes you repeat what someone else does but it doesn't work for you, why? Because their mentality is very different.
So if you see yourself starting with the apathy messages, try this…
- Substitute
"I should take some time…" by "I want to take more time for me" or "I will take more time for me" speaking confidently and with your head held high, no heartbreaking sighs or bent over as you say it. Design an action plan.
How much time do you want to take out? Where are you going to get it from? (You can always take time, do not kid yourself, it is a matter of priorities and to organize well). When are you going to start? What do you want to do in that time? Get going
In the end we always go back to the same point: take action. If you really want to change things and see results, be consistent, that your actions and thoughts match your words. Take action and stop making excuses and sighs.
