One of the most common, recurring and regrettable relationship problems today is infidelity.
We live in a society in which stress and hectic pace causes problems directly with our partner.
If we take into account that infidelity is the act of distancing ourselves either physically or mentally, with the purpose of filling affective or emotional and even sexual deficiencies, we must make direct reference to the fact that infidelity arises due to a process triggered by the lack of direct communication and full identification in the marital environment.
In this regard, a very common trend is the transfer of family problems to offices and work areas, because today, our society is totally stressed.
In recent studies, it has been proven that adult couples between 25-55 years of age spend an average of 4-5 hours a day, and that of that time, more than 50% are dedicated to attending to domestic or financial problems.
The feeling of abandonment or loneliness is on many occasions a determining factor for infidelity to arise, however, an interesting phenomenon also occurs within companies.
According to the British study "Couples", 68% of marital infidelities among couples aged 25-55 years occurs within the work environment, and contrary to what was thought, the relationship between men and women who commit infidelity is surprisingly even.
In Mexico, and especially in central cities such as the Federal District and the metropolitan area, there is such a hurried and stressful pace of life that many times we find marriages where the main problem is the lack of communication, understanding of basic needs and affective and a very interesting phenomenon, the devaluation between one and the other of the members of the couple.
Currently, there is a growing rate of divorce due to infidelity, and among the most interrelated human problems, according to the World Health Organization, the first place is precisely the cause "divorce - infidelity".
The human being is a complex organism, but certainly vulnerable, and one of those points is originated by the feeling of guilt, betrayal and infidelity.
In this regard there is a strange phenomenon. We can be unfaithful, but we cannot forgive our unfaithfulness.
Of course, this appellation is not a case attributable to everyone, however, it does determine many aspects of how we relate in society, and even more so as a couple.
The relationship between work activity, partner communication, and professional efficiency are increasingly related, that is why some companies (FEMSA, BIMBO, HP, SAMSUNG, TOYOTA, to name a few), have implemented within their training schemes and updating, some courses or trainings on proper family functioning, family leadership and even some therapies for executives and their partners.
This is a growing trend because in the last 20 years, the rate of family breakdown has increased dramatically, and according to many coaching experts and consultants from large corporations, they attribute the problem, in large part, to the lack of time dedicated to the family and the same family disintegration
How to detect infidelity.
Detecting symptoms of infidelity is very easy. You just have to be very honest about your current marriage situation.
One of the most recurrent symptoms is partial or total withdrawal, especially in the most intimate activities, such as talking about feelings or even ending sexual intimacy.
A second frequent symptom that indicates infidelity is the adoption of the habit of arriving home late with unrealistic excuses due to overwork, work or professional activities.
A third symptom and faithful indicator of infidelity is the excessive grooming of the couple for when they go out of the house, and the total impudence when they are next to the couple. And it is not only the fact that infidelity potentially exists, but in effect, it has reached a degree such that the person is no longer interested in the feelings of their partner and a communication link has been completely lost.
Divorce and infidelity
An interesting data from INEGI shows that 40% of divorces in Mexico have to do directly or indirectly with partner infidelity, and that the trend between couples is increasingly growing to allow (blind eyes) infidelity of one or both members.
Generally, a divorce because of infidelity is painful, however the direct consequences fall on the children, or on the constant struggles for material objects and patrimonial assets.
In this regard, it is very necessary to think about something before making the decision to divorce or simply allow infidelity to continue to deteriorate our space and emotional and family well-being.
A couple relationship must necessarily contain communication, affection and renewal.
Avoid infidelity
Today there is no recipe to avoid infidelity, however, a relationship based on lies or strenuous routines cannot be healthy.
The biggest causes of infidelity are always based on lies, that is why if there is communication in the couple and it is constantly renewed, with difficulty it will be necessary to supply deficiencies or resort to acts of infidelity.
Feelings and needs are also important to discover and talk about, because with this, agreements and affection are generated, and although the couple's relationship has broken down, the couple's communication can be reinvented.
Infidelity in women
Our society today is full of contrasts. And the myth that most men were unfaithful has ended. Equally, men and women turn to infidelity. That is why a social culture must be created so that this practice or alternative outside of marriage, stops being the false exit to our emotional, affective, communication and psychological deficiencies. And precisely according to psychologists, infidelity rarely corrects these problems.
Unfaithful women do not replace that loneliness and emptiness that the act of infidelity causes them.
How to forgive infidelity
The act of forgiving arises from deciding to forgive. Generally, this involves a long process and where self-exploration of emotions is needed.
Forgiving an infidelity is not easy, however it is often the first step in solving the problems that plague the marriage. It is necessary to consider a therapeutic help in this regard and to clarify things.
In Investigaciones Privadas México we are backed by 23 years of fully understanding issues such as marital infidelity, divorces due to infidelity and many issues arising from human relationships.
