If you are a manager, a subordinate, a housewife, a parent, a university professor, a teacher, an athlete, a student, a professional, an accountant, an entrepreneur… It doesn't matter what role in your life you focus on, to play it well and be happy you need to be Emotionally Smart.
Every day, the term Emotional Intelligence is heard more frequently. Especially due to its greater importance for healthy mental health. We can be very smart, get high rates in conventional Intelligence Tests… and still… Being a lonely, isolated, sad, gray person... On the other hand, we may not be smart enough to solve complex equations, but possess the social skills necessary for the healthy development of our lives.
Do you want to know if you lack Emotional Intelligence?
Start by self-analyzing your behavior, your responses, in the following situations:
1. Always want to be right and have the last word in discussions, meetings, decisions.
2. Always find a culprit for everything, or point out that it was due to external circumstances, obviously, never your responsibility.
3. Live in the role of victim of everything that happens and of all people. The bad always haunts you.
4. Always use excuses for not being responsible for our lack of success or taking responsibility for our lives.
5. Be excessively pessimistic, just see the clouds, forgetting that the sun is still there.
6. Being susceptible, intolerant, offended and angry too easily.
7. Live in mistrust, see signs of plots everywhere.
If you recognize and accept that you have problems with any of these seven points, you will have taken a giant step. One of the pillars of Emotional Intelligence is self-knowledge. Recognizing our mistakes, our weaknesses, is the beginning to success.
Conventional intelligence can hardly be improved, however, Emotional Intelligence can be worked to increase our levels day by day. These seven points are nothing more than behaviors, ways of responding to circumstances. Once we change our point of view, we change our distinction from the facts, our emotions change and thus, our reactions also change. When we assume that people do things without a clear sense of hurting ourselves, we stop seeing plots, we stop feeling threatened, and that's when we change our attitude towards others. We change that behavior of distrusting everything and everyone.
The most important thing you must learn today is that if you assume the role of Protagonist of your life, leaving aside: guilty, excuses, victimisms, plots and taking responsibility for designing a present to your liking, you will have managed to increase your Emotional Intelligence. The step towards happiness.
