Are you facing a period of job transition? Whether it's because you're about to start a new job, you've just quit one and have to start looking, or you're considering making a change of direction, this situation can make you feel insecure and nervous, especially if you don't tolerate uncertainty well. There are people who, within what fits, they take it well and take advantage of that period to dedicate more time to themselves, their family or simply to rest. But many other people, accustomed to a certain routine and stability, are lost and anguished, which affects you not only professionally but also on a personal level. If you are in one of those situations, perhaps these nine suggestions can help you:
1. Rethink your abilities. What are your priorities, needs and values right now? Your strengths and talents? You probably haven't thought about that in a long time, absorbed by your day-to-day obligations, and what better time than now. Consider from this information what you can improve and, above all, how these factors have influenced your current situation, for better or for worse?
2. Take care of yourself. These kinds of transitions affect us much more than we think, so you need to take care of yourself more than ever. Take time to do things that you like, that relax you and that fill you with energy. Take care of yourself physically by exercising or going to a spa or similar, socializing… Pamper yourself and let them pamper you, if you have the opportunity. That will make it more bearable. Do not forget to be patient with yourself, we tend to be very hard on ourselves in a situation of this type and we crush ourselves with reproaches. Things are as they are and you have done the best you can, forgive yourself and take care of yourself.
3. Analyze. What went wrong, or right? What could you have done better? What new options have been opened to you? What can you do about it? Learn from experience.
4. Focus on what you want, and not the other way around. In these times when you are in no man's land, without your usual routines, it is easy to start thinking negatively and focus on the "bad" that has happened. I know it's difficult, especially on certain occasions, but try to keep your eyes on the "prize" in the next step. As the saying goes "When one door closes, another opens." That you still don't know what you want? Go back to points 1 and 3 and start to ask yourself how you could take advantage of this situation. What would you like to do? And if you're very blocked, that's what coaches are for, among other things.
5. Find support. I mention this in practically all my articles, I know, but it is essential! Especially if your situation also affects your closest environment. It is time to stay more with your friends or to seek professional help and support, or join a group of optimistic people who help you pass this stage. And above all, avoid by all means people who, out of jealousy, envy, or whatever, try to sink or discourage you.
6. Quiet your head.It is easy that, in these circumstances, your fears and insecurities emerge and that little voice in your head starts to talk nonsense. If that happens to you, you need to reinforce the positive and inspiring messages. I know that there are many people who hate the concept of "optimism", you will see if you prefer to surround yourself with negative messages or positive messages. Take the test and see the difference. Don't confuse looking for inspiration, motivation and trying to look on the bright side with being crazy and living in the clouds, I'm not talking about that. I have my feet firmly on the ground and I assure you that I prefer to get up with a positive message than with victimisms and complaints. Do the test. Read inspiring phrases, watch videos or movies that encourage you and, above all, talk to entrepreneurs, their mentality and energy will rub off on you.
7. Take it as a goodbye period. If what you left has been an important part of you, it can be a hard time. You may even feel that part of your identity is disappearing, so accept that there will be a period of mourning, so to speak, of farewell. If you need you can even create a kind of ritual or celebration that helps you turn the page.
8. Forget about how things are supposed to be and accept how they really are. If you obey that everything has to be in a certain way you will suffer more. Things are as they are, a shame sometimes, but it is so. Accept it and try to show gratitude for the good in your life. When you look at what is good, things get better. A highly recommended exercise is to give thanks every day for three beautiful, pleasant or important things in your life. Or think about what you have achieved that day. When you have a child, as in my case, it's easy to find three (and if you don't have children too!).
9. Keep perspective. Or change it! Remember that in this life the only sure thing is change, stability is almost a matter of the imagination. Open your mind to other options and do not give more importance to the situation than it has. Remember, 6 months from now, will it seem so important to you? And two years from now? Keep perspective.
I do not claim that these suggestions are a panacea that cures everything, the fact is that you are going to have a hard time, it is normal. Accept those feelings and try some of my recommendations so that this bad time passes as soon as possible. Which one catches your attention the most? Is there one that you resist? Perhaps that is the one that best suits you to put into practice… What do you say?
