Have you ever been paralyzed by fear? Fear is one of the most limiting forces that exists. It prevents us from moving forward, restricts us, and confines us to an area that is much smaller than ours. When undertaking, it is very important to know how to deal specifically with the fear of failure. Learn with your children how to cope successfully. They will be ready to overcome it when they understand what is the origin of the fear of failure.
Have you ever been a prisoner of fear? He knew he had a chance to act, but he didn't, because, just at that moment of wanting to take the plunge, his knees started to shake and he stopped.
And the opportunity passed and he never saw it again.
It happens every day. Fear keeps us confined in an apparently safe place and does not allow us to act when we know we must.
There are many fears:
- Fear of death Fear of losing a loved one Fear of loneliness Fear of public speaking Fear of rejection Fear of suffering Fear of uncertainty Fear of scarcity.
However, the greatest fear when undertaking, is the fear of failure.
Many people seem to be conditioned to be afraid. They find it difficult to take a leap of faith to develop and launch a new product, offer a service at a higher price, or start a new business.
Who instills in us the fear of failure?
In order for you and your children to overcome the fear of failure, it is important to understand how it is carried out throughout their lives.
It begins at a very young age. Unknowingly, the society around us, most parents, and many educational establishments nurture fear of failure in children rather than lessen it.
What is the origin of fear of failure?
Our society commonly sanctions failure. Traditional methods of education are generally based on some evaluation system that measures the achievements of its students with a scale of scores or marks.
Since not all students can be outstanding in all disciplines, sooner or later they will have to face the sad reality that their performance in some area is average or insufficient.
It is sad because the results are interpreted in this way. The subliminal message of a bad grade is that the student did not meet the teacher's expectations. It becomes even worse when, in response to insufficient performance, the student is required to study the field in greater depth so that it is level with his course. (Which is utopian, since we all have different strengths and weaknesses.)
The problem with this approach is the frustration it causes in the student. Depending on the particular situation of each child, the experience of not performing satisfactorily is generally interpreted as a failure that could have been avoided, both by the parents and by the teachers.
The child's natural response is fear of failure and, after a time, lack of motivation and passivity towards learning.
It does not have to be this way.
How can we overcome the fear of failure in our lives and in that of our children?
It is simple. Failure should not be viewed as a negative.
Winston Churchill said: " Success is going from one failure to another without losing enthusiasm."
When a child discovers his weakness in some area of his education, the right attitude should be for parents to help him identify with his strengths. They can explain to you that it is good to discover your weaknesses, as that allows you to no longer waste time in an area where you will never excel.
As the saying goes: "Don't try to be a pear if you are an apple."
God gave us all talents and skills that we must develop and polish, as if they were rough diamonds. It is our responsibility as parents to discover and nurture these talents in our children, since that ability will be their contribution to society. The child must identify with what is, not with what is not.
This way you will have successful experiences instead of living one unsuccessful attempt after another and you will not be afraid when facing an important decision in your life tomorrow.
Fearful adults can also nullify the power of fear in their lives by changing their perception of themselves.
Focus on your strengths. Don't look left or right, trying to copy what others are doing. Focus on what's in front of your eyes. It is God's plan, exclusive and unique, for HIS life.
Develop the talents and abilities that your Creator has given you to leave your grain of sand in this world and stop focusing on what you cannot do, what you cannot have and what you are not.
When you understand who you are and learn to value, you will not be afraid of failure when it comes to undertaking. You will know perfectly what is your place and will have the audacity to claim it as yours under any adverse circumstance.
