"Deforming the identity of children and adolescents"
Parental Alienation is a process that consists of Programming the children to reveal themselves against one of the Parents. This process can occur consciously and unconsciously, normally it occurs when the alienating parent can be motivated by rage, revenge, jealousy, anger and also by seeking economic benefits.
Parental Alienation Syndrome is a form of Psychological Violence that seeks to punish one of the Parents, however the most punished are the children who, within the alienation process, lose their identity and will to make decisions, even limiting them to release their emotions and feelings naturally.
Although the Parental Alienation Syndrome is attributed to events related to the Parent-Child relationship, indirectly other silent actors also participate, including the Relatives of the Parents, Lawyers, Social Workers, Activists of Associations linked to family issues and Human Rights and even workers of Justice Institutions.
SAP is a Syndrome that in developed countries like Spain already has legal regulations that allow its prevention.
The need to Prevent it is because the Syndrome is repeated in the following generations, as a consequence of the fact that the children grow and develop in an environment that for them becomes something natural, so repeating it is simply the pattern of behavior learned as valid.
The programming of children to learn to hate and justify their feelings against one of the Parents, motivated by the feeling and reasoning of the other Parent, causes in children and adolescents a feeling of helplessness and frustration that at some point in their adult life it will be reflected and whose consequences will be inevitable for their proper personal development.
The development of children and adolescents in principle should be emotional and not rational, considering that the release of emotions in a natural way is the only one that strengthens the maturity of the individual.
It is difficult for a child or adolescent to understand rationally at this stage of life, the real problem or cause of distance between their Parents.
Regardless of the justifications or arguments you hear, at some stage after the events, the child or adolescent will feel guilty for what happened.
This feeling of guilt in children is not expressed freely, it is usually suffered in silence and emotions are released with other types of justifications. The critical case is that of adolescents who, given the lack of freedom to express their emotions, take refuge in the tendencies and habits of their age, which only delays the moment to express their annoyance at having been used as a prize or trophy to the winning Parent of the contest.
For their part, the alienating parents use many tricks to win the support of their children, from legal arguments to horror stories that facilitate the emotional imbalance of others; including mostly the pity factor, which for the children's purposes represents the simplest form of manipulation existing over time.
Alienating parents are often the result of an unfinished story that they could interpret based on a referential problem from their own childhood or adolescence and even from the childhood or adolescence of someone else, whose influence they use to release their own frustrations and repressed emotions by themselves.
Almost always in the detected cases of Parental Alienation Syndrome, there are interests of third parties or institutions related to the subject or the protagonists of the story.
In the other scenario, there is the parent affected by the rejection of the children, who undoubtedly has his own way of interpreting this event, he hardly attributes it to the Parental Alienation Syndrome, as it is an unknown issue, he usually attributes it to the simple revenge or billing for a specific event.
However, it is important to highlight that very often cases of Parental Alienation Syndrome are strengthened when the rejected parent has a passive profile, since rational logic indicates that it will not respond in the same way to attacks to which it is object. This undoubtedly gives peace of mind to the Alienating Parent and at the same time strengthens her to continue developing her strategy.
The story can get as complicated as one parent gets stronger and the other gets weaker; While this happens there are consequences of all kinds in the family and in their close environment; These consequences, in principle economic, legal, damage to reputation, social, academic and even spiritual, among others, are minimal considering the impact and emotional burden that is carried during the process; But even more critical is the impact and emotional burden that children will carry when releasing their emotions and discovering their true identity.
PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome) is one of the most common and silent ways to alter the psychological order of children and adolescents, therefore it is a form of psychological violence that must be prevented and avoided or, failing that, sanctioned.
