Take a moment to think about those people you know who are congruent. What characteristics are their own? How do you know they are congruent? What does it mean to be congruent to you?
Think of those people you know who are incongruous. What characterizes them? How do you identify the incongruity? What does it mean to be incongruous to you?
I understand the congruent person as one who lives according to their values. The opposite for me is that person who contradicts her thought with her action.
An example of congruence is given to me by those people who understand that health is their most precious asset, that money and property are of no use to them if they are not healthy enough to enjoy them, and then they do what is necessary to stay healthy. This can happen by identifying the keys to a healthy life and then adjusting your own habits to fit the ideal: taking care of what you eat, exercising regularly, improving your relationships, looking for a job that satisfies you emotionally.
Another example is given to me by people who understand that they are going to spend at least eight hours a day dedicated to their work and consider that it is worth it that this dedication compensates them beyond money. Perhaps they think of a good environment, ties of friendship, a sense of contribution, the possibility of expressing themselves creatively. If at 24 hours a day we take away eight hours of sleep, the eight hours of work amount to half the day (this without attending to travel or the time we are away from work but thinking about it). So some of the people who are aware of the time they are going to dedicate to work are congruent with this and do their best to establish a lifestyle that leads them to satisfy their principles.
At the other extreme are incongruous people: they think health is important but they smoke and eat toxic foods; They think that they owe their lives to their parents but they do not take care of them the least; They consider that what is important in the education of their children is not only the words but the example that they can give them and yet they argue angrily, get angry and hurt them.
When a person is congruent in thought and action, that is, when what he does goes in the direction of what he thinks, he begins to walk the path that leads him to achieve what he wants.
When a person actually contradicts what they think, they move away from what they want and buy all the numbers to feel frustrated.
Being congruent is not a weekend alternative, it is not about being congruent from time to time, being congruent is a lifestyle. Being congruent means being 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, doing what is most likely to take you where you want to go.
Congruence is not an attitude towards the gallery, it is rather a commitment to oneself.
In order to get from the situation in which one finds oneself, to the situation in which one would like to find oneself, it is necessary to take action.
It is action and not knowledge that will allow you to achieve what you want and what is important to you. It is not enough to store books and collect seminars, to get something different from what you are getting you have to do something different.
But it is not about doing anything… but rather about undertaking the set of actions that are most likely going to take you forward. Nor is it about doing them once and forgetting forever… but rather doing them regularly and systematically. It is about taking action on a massive and sustained basis and not stopping until the goal has been reached.
But taking action alone does not guarantee success. You could be doing the wrong action for a lifetime and not getting where you want to go. For this reason, it is important that you periodically evaluate whether or not you are approaching your goals. If so, continue in the effort, and if you do not approach, look for an alternative formula.
I propose an exercise:
Think of an area in your life where you are not being congruent. Maybe you don't do the sport that you know how well it would do for you, maybe you still put up with that heavy boss or maybe you spend many hours on trash TV and few hours on your growth as a person, you may gorge yourself on toxic food or maintain personal relationships that they wear you out. Once you have identified it, take a few minutes to think about all the price you are paying because of it, what it costs you emotionally, what it costs you in terms of health, what it costs you financially. Also think about the price that other people around you are paying. Then take your mind to the future and consider the consequences of staying as you are for years to come.
What will the price be if you don't change? What is this incongruity going to cost you if you keep clinging to it? What price are you going to make yours pay?
Also think about all that you are missing because of this incongruity. What could you have that you do not have? How different could everything be? What are you giving up to keep clinging to that incongruity? Now tell me, have you noticed how many times you have blinked during the last two minutes?
If you make the decision to change and take action, what will you gain? I invite you to make a relationship of how everything would be if you were congruent. What would you feel What would others think of you? Who would you serve as a model? What other things could you get? How would you impact your environment? If you just made that decision and followed it out of action, what would be the greatest short-term benefit? And long term? How would your future change?
Do yourself the favor of changing.
