Today many people feel frustrated because what they do does not fulfill them, because they believe that they have not found their vocation and desperately seek to find a job that gives them the satisfaction and fulfillment they need. Does it happen to you too?
This is a subject in which I love to help my clients and make them see options that they had not considered or that they did not dare to consider. So today, continuing with last week's article on the importance of thinking not about a job that fills you but about a life that fills you, I'm going to talk to you about how to design your ideal job (and I insist, with "ideal" I mean that it allows you to have a full life, which is not necessarily the same as a job that fulfills you.) In particular, I will give you three recommendations:
- The first thing you have to be clear about is what kind of life you want, to avoid focusing 100% on a job and realizing, over time, that you have abandoned what is truly important. You have to sit down and decide what a full and happy life would be like for you.There are no wrong answers and there are infinite variations. There is the case of the person whose main priority is their family and who wants a flexible job that does not take up too much time (to take your children to the doctor, to go see the school performance, etc). There is the case of the person who needs a job that she is passionate about because if not the rest of her life is affected (myself). There is the case of the person who loves to take courses and enjoy their free time, who wants a job that gives them economic stability to travel and do all the courses they want regardless of whether they like their job or not. And a long etcetera, as well as different combinations. Each person is different and has different needs and priorities.You have to be very clear about what you would really like to be able to sit down and plan how to achieve it. As you can see, the examples from before are very different and would be approached differently. Take into account your current situation. Something that is often overlooked is that what you want now will probably not match what you will want ten years from now, and you can go crazy trying to decide which job is going to make it possible for you to have a full life all your life. That is something we all fall for because it is what we have been taught. When you are a teenager you have to choose a career for life, do not think about changing it because then you will be irresponsible and you will show little seriousness and, of course, work the longer the better, or else you are not a good worker; and that the work pays well,If you're not wasting your time and you're a failure Or not? That is what Roman Krznaric (author of "How to find a satisfying job") defines as the work ethic, which has always been imposed on us and from which we must disengage. Why? Because there are a lot of unhappy people following those rules. I once read a phrase that stuck with me: “Your job is not a life sentence” and yet we act as if it were. But you know what, you are going to change over the years and your situation and priorities too. So why not modify your career path accordingly? It is the sensible thing to do if what you do does not satisfy you professionally or bring fulfillment to your life. But of course, freeing yourself from that work ethic that prevents you from leaving a well-paid or stable job or one that you have been in for years is hard.I know (remember that I left 11 years of scientific career to establish myself as a coach - a profession that many people neither knew nor know what it is.) So if you are in the process of redirecting your career, take into account your current situation and preferences to make sure you are satisfied. Turn a deaf ear. At this point you are already nervous, anguished and restless enough to also hear what you do not need to hear. If you spend the day hearing about the crisis you will not move because fatalism will invade you. And no, this is not being naive, it is not letting yourself be carried away by circumstances. If not, you will always find reasons to stay as you are. That on the one hand and, on the other, you better accept and get used to criticism and advice (in principle well-intentioned) from everyone.It's going to rain everywhere and you have to do like the frog in the story, the one that started to climb a tree and was the only one who didn't fall because she was deaf (the others had been falling down the road after hearing their " friends ”commenting that frogs cannot climb trees and that they are crazy and such and such). If this is your case, I can recommend "How to deal with the negativity of those around you" and "6 Tips to face the resistance of those around you".If this is your case, I can recommend "How to deal with the negativity of those around you" and "6 Tips to face the resistance of those around you".If this is your case, I can recommend "How to deal with the negativity of those around you" and "6 Tips to face the resistance of those around you".
Finding a job that fits your life is not always easy, but if you stop and think about these three things that I have mentioned, you will have a much better chance of doing it.
