Tranquility, love, joy, joy are the agents that must surround our atmosphere. Instead, anger, hatred, revenge, among others, should even disappear from our lexicon. However, this is not the case. Daily events can make us jump from one emotion to another, not only easily, but with harmful effects on our bodily health, mental balance and spiritual peace.
The human being suffers from daily emotional changes at home, bus, school, office, stadium, restaurant, everywhere and at all times, 24 hours a day. It has been proven that even while we sleep, our affective states are impacted by agents of all kinds.
Emotions cannot be controlled. You cannot subdue what you feel or stop feeling, but you can manage them, that is, you can take charge of them, of the consequences that the behaviors produced by those emotions bring for you or for others.
When you intelligently manage your emotions, you use power and will effectively. Without that power, we are at the mercy of emotional debauchery and, consequently, of making big mistakes in life.
Will is the switch that allows you to activate the response and turn off the reaction: it is your decision to activate it or not. When the will is on, you are the master of your actions, that is, you respond. When the will is off, your actions are the masters of you, that is, you react.
When it operates, the will brings reason and conscience into operation to guide your thoughts, and through them, your actions.
You decide what is the response you will give to the event that upset you. And this does not mean that your feelings disappear, it is just that you are managing them intelligently.
When the will does not operate, you do not respond, you are only reacting. You simply let yourself be carried away by the impulse, by the outburst, by the sheer emotion, without measuring the consequences. There is no management, there is no emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is based on the will to give ourselves permission to understand others and manage our emotional processes in an assertive way and in a healthy impulse to continuous growth.
" The supreme happiness of life is knowing that you are loved for yourself or, more exactly, in spite of yourself." Victor Hugo.
