East West? When I do it? What I do? How do i do it? What will happen if…? These are just some of the questions that torment thousands of entrepreneurs daily.
Aside from creating anguish and anxiety, not being able to make decisions postpones important projects that have the potential to propel us forward economically and to satisfy a great demand of people who are waiting for an answer to their problems.
Why is it so difficult for us to make decisions?
The problem of indecision is born in childhood. Many parents do not properly train their children to learn to make wise decisions. With the best intentions, they make decisions for their children and do not explain to them how the mental process that is necessary to know in order to analyze a situation and resolve it successfully works.
On the one hand, they fear that their children will make wrong decisions and hurt themselves, and, on the other hand, they consider that it is much more practical to make decisions for their children, since they have more experience.
What a mistake! Neither good nor bad experiences can be transferred. And we want our children to be prepared for life with a good amount of both up their sleeves. Sooner or later the day will come when parents will no longer be able to make decisions for them and will not have the appropriate skills to face the challenges of daily living.
We have to train our children to make decisions wisely. On the one hand, it is necessary to give them a good foundation of life principles, so that they can be guided by them. On the other hand, you have to take the time to allow them to make their own decisions.
It is important to give them the space to make mistakes. Instead of blaming them when they stumble, take the time to teach them where they went wrong and then talk to them about how to avoid a mistake next time. This way they will learn to make accurate decisions and will not be afraid of making mistakes when having to make them.
If you were not lucky enough to have parents who taught you how to make decisions and you are an undecided adult today, I want to teach you what are the three reasons for the lack of decision and what to do about it:
Top three reasons why we don't make decisions and what you can do about it
1. Fear of failure
One of the biggest obstacles for an entrepreneur is fear of failure. Every time an idea is born for a project, fear raises its ugly head and proposes a series of fatal outcomes that discourage it.
Suddenly the idea is no longer so bright and the entrepreneur is discouraged, if he continues to meditate on the possible bad results.
And right there is the key. There is no need to focus on possible defeat.
It is true that every business has its risk and it is important to educate yourself to learn how to measure it properly, but it can never be eliminated in its entirety.
So you have to prepare as well as possible and then take the step in faith, even if your knees are shaking.
It is important to understand that fear is a type of faith, but it is a crooked faith. Believe in bad results instead of considering a good outcome. This is how self-fulfilling prophecies happen. What one fears most is what will happen, since in the Bible it says: "What a man thinks, so is he." (Proverbs 23: 7).
2. Lack of ideas
Another reason why decisions are not made is for not knowing exactly what to do.
Because of the methods of education employed in most educational establishments, we are too used to complacently following the instructions of others rather than having initiative and motivation of our own.
Where did the creativity go?
The entrepreneurial spirit, which lies in every human being, falls asleep while the human mind is programmed to passively follow the agenda proposed by others. This process, over the years, leads to a loss of initiative and creativity in people.
The following observation is interesting:
Hallmark Cards, one of the best-known card-producing companies in the United States, conducted a survey in schools to use children's drawings on their cards.
When asking first graders if they wanted to participate in the project, everyone raised their hands. In two courses above it was only half the course and in fifth grade only about 3 students dared to raise their hands by asking the same question.
What happened in that couple of years?
Most of the children came to believe that their contribution would not be valuable. In their minds, the creativity needed to make a card was no longer within their reach.
The good news is that creativity is never lost! The human being is an innate creator, since we were made in the image of our Creator.
Our entrepreneurial spirit, which lies asleep in us, can be revived. It is a matter of feeding yourself with the correct information. This can come from books, courses or mentors that inspire us to dream again and reconnect with that creative engine that God put in each of us.
Every human being has a dream, he has ideas. The best way to dig them out of the far corners of our minds is to take quiet time away from the madding crowd and spend time with God and His Word. Thus we can give ourselves the opportunity to meditate on our purpose on earth and on what we want to have accomplished at the end of our lives.
3. Leave things for tomorrow
It is a bad habit. And it is a hoax. Leaving things for tomorrow leaves us with the idea that we are active, busy planning something, but in reality we are stagnant and not making progress.
To overcome this bad habit, you have to discipline yourself and force yourself out of your comfort zone. When the time comes to take action, you have to act!
Successful people are people who take action all the time. They are wrong? Yes, many times. But they move forward, instead of being stuck in a comfort zone that will keep them captive at a level that is below their capabilities.
