When things do not go as we want we tend to adopt one of two positions, the first is that of victim, in which we could not and cannot do anything because what happened is outside our field of action; the second is the protagonist, in which we are responsible for what happened and therefore we have to do something to change the situation because after all we are the ones in control…
And if we are not, we have to be or else we run the risk of being weak and weak.
Although it is true that a priori the second option seems the best, it is also true that this position can be very exhausting and not very beneficial for us, and it can even become dangerous as far as our personal well-being is concerned because it keeps us from our true wisdom, the one that guides us without rational explanation to where we really should move and that also naturally leads us to take the next step.
What happens is that since now happiness has been imposed on us as a task to be carried out, and we have also been told that we are capable of achieving absolutely everything we set out to do, by not achieving it we automatically assume that there is something wrong with us and our instinct is going to be to fix it… As if we were a car to repair…
One of the latest trends in humanity is to confuse action with reaction; It is one thing to act, that is, to take the necessary actions to start something and quite another to react by trying to change the results we obtained.
We come into reaction when we decide to take control of the situation and start going round and round in our heads to see what we can change and how we have to do it. We think, we think, and we think, but we do not realize that we are thinking the same thing, only that in different ways, that is, we think something that we had already thought, but now looking for the positive side.
For example, if what we do not want comes to mind and we remember that this is not the correct way of thinking, we think about what we do want to attract him… we think the same, but the other way around…
We think, think and rethink how we can change things, but always using the same thoughts, and that is like trying to change the flavor of the food we fry by changing the food instead of changing the old and burned oil that we have been using.
Turning an issue over and over and over again not only stuns us, confuses us and exhausts us, but it feeds the false illusion of control that we have and I say illusion because it is not true that we can change things, at least not all and not always, the earlier we understand it, the sooner we can recover our well-being.
If you are wearing yourself out to achieve what you so desire, I bring you 3 very important points that will help you break with that pattern that is so harmful to you and that the only thing it is doing is robbing you of your tranquility and happiness:
- Not only was what you did the best you could do, but it was the only thing you could do depending on the level of consciousness you had at the time, perhaps if you had seen a better option you would not have taken it? great mind superior to us that is dedicated to sabotage us to make us suffer, on the contrary there is a force beyond our understanding that sustains us and helps us achieve what is according to our life purpose, so even if it is not the one you wanted, the result you got is the only one you could have gotten, no other, but also that was, is and will be the perfect result for you… Not because it is different from what you wanted, it is necessarily bad, don't you think? Sometimes calm is the most effective action we can have… Slicing our brains out and going out to do things that happen but from a state of despair will only make things worse because the belief of "no matter how hard I try, I will not succeed" will take hold in you and that is not true, what happens is that you are trying from a state mental and emotional in which nothing is possible… Let things settle and when you are calm the answers will appear, I assure you!
I know that many times I have told you that you are not your failures, and today I maintain it, but guess what… you are not your achievements either! You are much more than your results, and nothing, absolutely nothing out there is so worthwhile to wear yourself out to find it…
Always remember, the most important thing in the world is you and your life, do not suffer it, enjoy it!
An extra push
Yes, we should feed back, but not obsess or stay head butting to change things simply by believing that everything depends on us. It is a thousand times preferable to fall, get up and keep going than to stay thinking and analyzing why we fell and go back through the same hole believing that thinking differently, perhaps more positively this time we will not fall, but if we were to fall again, then we must look for the positive side of the fall…
Until next time!
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