We experience strenuous struggles every day between what we could have done and what we did not do
We long for not having taken advantage of that occasion, situation or moment by falling into inaction caused by the doubt between I do, I do not; but if I do it and then…; or if I don't and then…; sure better not do it because…; I don't really feel like it; I have this and the other to think about…; and an ocean of excuses more.
It is an exhausting experience that occurs very frequently in our day, in which our mind is activated in an excessive way and does not stop creating limitations, obstacles, judgment, criticism, toxic thoughts. Which takes us away from the present moment and what we really feel and want.
How to solve these situations?
Well creating your strategy of reality.
"A strategy of reality is the glue that holds all the pieces of our world together and that provides us with a map of life in which we can move with some peace of mind."
Robert Dills defines it as: "the sequence of mental tests and the internal criteria that each person applies to assess whether or not a specific experience or event is real or has actually happened."
The brain does not distinguish between a lived reality and an imagined one. The distinction between the two is very subtle and is due to the fact that, normally, the sensation that derives from something lived is, say, sharper or more precise than the one imagined.
The famous phrase 'if you can imagine it or dream it is that you can make it real' is actually quite true.
"It is possible, in fact, to configure your mind or rather to integrate that goal into your strategy of reality in a way that seems real, that fits your map."
So, by identifying how your attitude, behavior, action should be so that you can achieve that something, you can integrate it as part of your reality strategy. If it becomes part of your reality, your mind will automatically see it as something not only possible, but also achievable and will be able to identify the what and how to do it.
From there you can start asking yourself the right questions to get answers that are just as correct and get you closer to your goal.
These questions have the objective of creating a scale of criteria (values) on the rise, that is, that allow you to fragment everything that is in your mind in terms of wanting and not being able, wanting and not knowing, wanting and boycotting, even get to want-feel-act.
Fragmentation is essential because it allows you to give a correct dimension to your current situation, to identify and recognize the limits and beliefs that are in your mind, what you live as a problem or impediment, to visualize your goal and to be aware of the difference between how It makes you feel staying in the inaction and how you will feel acting and achieving your goal.
Therefore, we will start the fragmentation and integration process step by step in your reality strategy and we will do it this way:
- Current situation - identify 'where you are' and make a distinction with the situation you want to occur Reason for change - what pushes you to move from where you are to where you want to go? Blockages - what prevents you from getting where you would like? (thoughts, circumstances, outside influences, people, everything that feeds the 'I can't' in your mind)
- Sensations - identify the sensations associated with the blockage that is causing you not to move to get closer to your goal
- Sensations - identify in you and in your body how it makes you feel and, if you can be, identify in which part of your body you notice this or these sensations
Now for the best!
- Leverage - Keep in your interior and in your body these feelings related to your motivation and return to point 1 'your current situation'. Apply this new state and focus on the situation you want to occur (where you want to get to) Equivalence - With this new state, go back to the reason for the change (point 2) and observe and evaluate what moves you to want to reach that goal from your new state, in order to equalize your criteria Accompaniment - From here, review point 3, the blocks, beliefs, limitations that, until now, prevented you from taking action. Accompany these thoughts with your new state and see what changes and how you feel.
If you look closely, your journey has made you identify:
- Your behavior in the face of something you want and that your mind turns into a problem. Next step: think about the capacities you have to put into practice the identified behavior, first from a victim vision of mental limitations. Then you focus your mind on the beliefs that prevent you from reaching your goal or that make you create an attitude of boycott Identity (what you think it is or what you are) And finally you go on to communicate with something deeper, more important to you than what it tells you with exactly what you feel, the superior motivation that makes you overcome any kind of limitation (change of belief).
"Anchoring your feelings, thoughts and actions to your inner motivation makes the rest of pre-built ideas lose strength and make you see a different reality, consistent with what you really want."
In this way the mind calms down because, in addition, it will see as unnecessary to react automatically to defend your survival (with its 'do not do' to avoid drama or failure or whatever).
Your new reality strategy will have a new and very important piece on its map that is what you really want and that you know you can achieve.
There are countless practical tools to help you achieve goals.
Facing an objective is also important to identify the resources you have and / or the people who can help you achieve it; the time you need and / or what you mark to achieve it; the way you determine how you will know if you have succeeded.
In short, it remains to go the way with its pluses and minuses and it is in your hands.
Now you know that yes, you can!
