Do you feel tied by others? 4 things you can do about it
One of the obstacles that my readers often tell me is that sometimes they feel tied down by the rest, to the point of neglecting their personal and professional life, not achieving their goals and all because they want to be in everything without actually being in anything.. Does it ring a bell?
One of the most frequent reasons is that belief that you are the pillar of everything and that without you things would not work. Of course, it is not a question of underestimating your role in your family or profession, but what have you achieved so far with that attitude? This is something very common in women, we are not going to deny it, but you have to be careful, that you do not become so obsessed with being for everything and for everyone and that one day you realize that you have not done anything really significant for you. And that only you can say. So what can you do about it?
1. Stop thinking that if you care about your things you are selfish.
I have mentioned this several times, wanting to achieve your goals, having dreams and desires and taking time for yourself is NOT being selfish. It is being a human being with interests, not a robot and you have every right in the world (and if someone has told you otherwise, to look for other companies). Quitting thinking like that is not easy, but every time you find yourself thinking that, remind yourself that you have the right to have time for yourself and that if you are not well, the ones that matter to you either and your profession also suffers. So taking time out for yourself benefits everyone, don't forget.
2. Stop thinking that if you don't do something the world ends and nobody will survive.
It is essential that you learn to delegate. If you are demanding and perfectionist it will cost you, why deny it, but think about the short and long-term benefit of doing it. It is impossible that you can do it all on your own, and if you can now, you will be assigning more and more obligations until you are totally exhausted and we do not want to get there either. It is better to stop things earlier, right? So start practicing delegating tasks that you don't like, are not good at, or that anyone else can do. Both personally and professionally. Tasks such as cleaning the house, accounting, shopping (ordering online for example can save you time), etc. For each person and situation it is different, so sit back and think where you are going to start delegating.
3. Determine if part of the problem is lack of organization.
It may be that you neglect yourself because you demand or demand too much of you or because you don't organize yourself well and think that you don't have time but in fact you do. They are two different things…
4. Stop wanting to be in everything because in the end you are in nothing.
You have to start being more selective and when you get involved in something do it well. This involves learning to say no and being very clear about what activities and commitments you really want to do and which ones bring you closer to your goals. A key question to always keep in mind is:
Does what I'm doing now bring me closer to my purpose / objective / dream (or whatever you have in mind)?
This can also be difficult, how do you know what to do and what not to do? The clearer you are about what you want to achieve, both personally and professionally, the easier it will be for you to decide what to accept and what to postpone or reject.
If you feel tied by the circumstances or people around you, do not forget that you are the one who lets yourself be tied. It is hard to hear but it is true, we all have our weaknesses and it is important to be aware of them and act accordingly. You cannot change people but you can do something different from what you do now and that only depends on you.
So tell me, what first step are you going to take to get closer to what you want? Tell me in the comments below (you know I can't answer them all, but I do read them one by one.
