There are many times when you are stuck, blocked and confused. It is not that you do not know how to make decisions or how to do things, nor is it a matter of fear, but simply that you do not know what to do.
You may have already fulfilled the goals and objectives that you had set for yourself, or you have adjusted to a situation and you realize that it no longer motivates you and you do not know which way to go next. It may also be that you have to make an important professional decision, that marks your path from now on and you are totally blocked.
This situation is very frequent and frustrating, because there is nothing worse than uncertainty; and, in general, it is because you are not clear on what you want. However, the experience with my clients tells me that, deep down, you do know it; you only need to dig a little to bring it to light. How can you do it? Aim:
1. Get away from where you are. Many times your situation, stress and the pressures of family and those around you are too strong to allow you to think clearly. As much as you try, you are not capable. It is normal, in those situations it is difficult to hear what you really want, so it is important that you take time for yourself (that utopia for so many people). Now is when you need it most, and I don't mean ten minutes, but all the time you need to think clearly away from your usual environment. So go on vacation even if it's only a couple of days or, if you can't go, take the weekend to yourself, totally isolated, to think. Go for a walk, take a relaxing bath, listen to music. What you need to let your thoughts flow without the daily pressures.
2. Reconsider your values and needs. Many times the reason for your stagnation is that you are not aware of your values and needs, or that they have changed and what previously filled you no longer does. When your life does not align with your values you feel unhappy and when your needs are not met as well. That is why it is important that you know them and it is one of the exercises that I provide to my clients. I have already mentioned before that my three main values are honesty, learning and growth. Being aware of that makes it easier for me to make decisions and know what I want. Also, if they were not present in my life, I would feel unsatisfied and incomplete.
3. Define success. Another critical step, making sure you live your life on your own terms, not the rules of others. It is easy to believe the idea of success that other people and media show you, but if it is not what you want, you will feel unhappy, sometimes after many years fighting for what you thought you wanted (until you achieve it and realize that doesn't make you happy). It is important that you define what success is for you, in all areas of your life. Success is usually associated with professional success, and for some people it is, but is it for you?
4. Choose what really matters to you. It is something that I mention in many articles, knowing how to prioritize, knowing how to choose what is really important in your life and dedicating your efforts and time to that. Something very important is also accepting that we don't have to do it and having everything at the same time. It is good that you want to enjoy life to the fullest and that you have many goals, dreams and objectives; But that does not mean that you have to do it all this year and that you end up stressed due to lack of time. Examine your list of goals and decide which ones you want and can do this year, and which ones can wait a little longer.There are things that if you postpone nothing happens. For example, I love to travel and there are many places that I would like to go, but there are some that are better to go now that I am young and others that I can go to later even if I get more tired and don't keep up. current. You can do anything you want, but be realistic based on the time and energy you have.
When you are clear about your values, needs, priorities and definition of success, things look differently, it costs you less to make decisions, it costs you less to find what you want, because you know yourself better, which is the main thing to live life according to your rules and to feel satisfied with your actions and decisions. What do you need to find out?
