I remember when I decided to start my coaching business, still in Canada, and the different responses I received. The people there congratulated me and encouraged me a lot. In Spain, on the other hand, they told me that if I was crazy, to think about it more times, etc. Obviously I am very happy to have started it far from here because there is no doubt that if those around you support you, things are easier or, if not easier, you take them differently and do not lose motivation or let them insecurity and fear stop you.
That is one of the reasons why I always recommend that you surround yourself with positive people who support and encourage you in hard times and celebrate with you all your achievements, however small they may be at the beginning. However, sometimes it is not so easy (when it is!), And you would not be the first case if you are surrounded by negative people, energetic vampires who, with good intentions (sometimes), instead of helping you sink you. Does it ring a bell?
If that's your situation, here are some things you can consider:
Don't try to convince or change them. I already mentioned this in my article on how to overcome the resistance of others, that you do not have to spend energy trying to change others or convince them of your idea, because that will make you have doubts and feel more insecure. On the other hand, it is their life and their mentality, and it is not up to you to change it (even if you are wanting it). Also if they start to see that things are going well for you, they will want to learn from you and they will change themselves:)
Consider it one more test on your way. This enchanted me when I read it in the book "The Secrets of the Millionaire Mind" by Harv T. Ekker. As he says:
" Like steel hardens in fire, if you can remain true to your values while others around you are full of doubt and even words of condemnation, you will grow faster and stronger."
Imagine how you will feel when you manage to carry out your project despite the negativity of your environment. Invincible!
If you can, stay away from those people a little or go to other companies that are more beneficial for your personal development and motivation. Surely you find an association, group or online forum of entrepreneurs or people with the same interests as you, who can provide you with the support and motivation you need. Don't stand around waiting for things or people to change on their own, go looking for people with the mindset you want or hire a coach who supports you and helps you stay focused and lively.
Do not discuss your plans, dreams or goals with negative people so there is no room for criticism. Or if they ask you how it goes, respond succinctly "well, thanks" and change the subject.
In summary, although it is not the ideal situation everything depends on your attitude, as always. In the worst case, you will have to consider more drastic measures. As one client told me, "sometimes you have to drop ballast." Or do you want to be with someone who disdains what you do and makes a difference to everything?
