How many times have you lost control of yourself when you are angry? Did you do or say something you regret in time?
I guess we all did. It is normal, and after all, we are human beings.
Each of us is faced with the problem of anger. The main difference between you and me is that, do you know how to get control of anger, instead of letting it control you?
It is not easy to gain control of your anger, especially when they are provoked in certain situations. However, if you are facing that situation, next time, you can try my 5 easy steps.
Step 1: Identify what bothers you
Start with identifying what upsets your feelings or emotions.
Calm down, get away from everything you are doing or the anger situation you are in, then take a deep breath and set your mind clear. Think, what brought you to this situation?
You need to know what is wrong in order to correct it. True?
Step 2: Use it as a stop sign
When you're done with step 1, you probably already know what made you mad. You may not have a clear, complete idea of it, but it's fine. At least you have "some" ideas.
Use it as a stop sign for your anger. You are upset that the little voices in your head are telling yourself the things that are causing you discomfort. This change causes a shock in your feelings, so it ends in anger.
Stop all these voices that speak within you, to be able to think independently and you will not be influenced by them or by the situation.
Step 3: Think positive things
It is important to think positive. You can counter your annoying thoughts, framing your mind, so you can have a positive message from yourself. Think of something nice that will make you feel better.
For example, "This feeling of anger is only temporary and I don't want to say or do something stupid that I will regret my actions later."
Put brakes on your feelings. Try to slow down and take it easy.
Step 4: Clarify your situation
Clarify the situation for yourself. Ask yourself, "What's really going on in this situation?"
Next, you may feel disappointed, but not enraged with the person you are creating.
Step 5: Think about constructive goals
Try to set more realistic goals for yourself, in regards to the situation that irritates you.
Ask yourself, "What are the alternative solutions I use to resolve this situation?"
Be specific as much as possible, and concrete.
"What can you do to change this situation?"
Make a list of the constructive options that you have in mind in order to achieve your goals.
Ask yourself, "What constructive actions can I take to achieve my goals?"
Finally, choose a constructive option to reach your goal and act quickly on it.
The 5 simple steps you just pointed out to me is exactly what I do when faced with angry situations. You can try to deal with those situations.
We all get angry sometimes, but the important thing is, "What can I do to overcome this situation?"
Get control of anger, instead of letting me control myself.
