How many times have you heard expressions such as: "If you understand me ", "If you understand what I am saying" this type of person, places on the other party, the responsibility of having understood them or not. Knowing how to communicate, making yourself understood can be a true art, then; How to be assertive when transmitting a message?
1. Consider the senses
Most people are more sensitive to some of their senses, being the most used, sight, touch and hearing. and to a lesser extent smell and taste. so use both a good speech and visual aids and sensory experiences to make yourself understood.
2. Don't compete with the environment
Do you remember those moments of tension, where the bell that indicated the end of the class sounded and the teacher continued with his lesson, there was a competition with a stronger environment than he, since no one would pay attention to him, if what he is going to transmit requires of attention, do not do it in a place with too much noise or visual distractions, remember about the senses.
3. Less is more
The other person will only remember the last or the most relevant thing that you have said, so why better not tell you the most relevant. and let the questions and answers expand on the information.
4. Analyze the other person's body language.
If your interlocutor is with his arms crossed, does not look at you when he speaks, yawns, the tips of his feet point the other way or he holds his chin with the palm of his hand, they are not paying attention, correct him or die in the speech.
5. Control the conversation
Make sure that you are understood, but do not place the responsibility for your explanation on others, do not ask if they have understood you, ask them if you have made yourself understood, ask if anyone has any questions, or ask them to explain what you just finished to tell them.
6. Prepare, don't improvise
Almost anyone can seem to be an expert in a subject, until: the questions come, they do not have to dominate 100% the subject they are going to talk about, but they must have been sufficiently informed and have the necessary material on hand to solve some doubts and remember not to improvise, maybe it will go unnoticed the first time, but it is easy to spot someone who always improvises.
7. Offer something in return
What you are about to transmit must have an intention, but not for you who is speaking, but for your interlocutor who is the one who receives the message, who will learn by paying attention to you, in which you can improve your life or make it more practical with your message, if the only thing you are interested in is being attended and not understood, perhaps that train left a long time ago.
Remember as the professionals prepare, the mediocre believe in improvisation.
Daniel García.
