You look at your schedule and there is more to do than time to do it. In cases like this the solution is Internal. There is a program in your unconscious that manages to fill you with things that become unmanageable. The second thing: The stress that this generates for you, closes the intuitive centers of your brain in charge of creating solutions. The way is to change belief and unlock energy so that creative-intuition generates solutions, which expands your perception of time. I show you in 3 steps.
" Worrying is like being in a rocking chair, it keeps you moving, but it doesn't get you anywhere." Herb Cohen.
Being able to deliberately generate healthy emotions in times of pressure is key to increasing productivity and expanding your valuable time.
Social hypnosis has sold us the idea that without suffering there is no profit, since it is a paradigm focused on scarcity and competition. Therefore, suffer first, enjoy later.
Welcome to reality! According to scientific studies, the suffering and pressure the only thing that generates is the blocking of the brain's ability to create solutions quickly and effectively in harmony with a serene heart.
That of the serene heart is not a "poetic" reference; The HeartMath Research Institute has been investigating the impact of emotions on brain circuits for several years and has discovered that intelligent management of emotions generates brain-heart coherence, connecting you with the genius in your inside.
The Genie within is real, and I am not talking about Aladdin and his wonderful lamp. The genius in question is the intuitive-creative capacity to generate solutions that increase productivity, in a state of emotional and mental coherence.
When there is brain-heart coherence, the emotional and biological effect is instantaneous: low blood stress, the dopamine responsible for serenity goes up, the brain is bathed in soothing hormones, and the heart beats in harmony, all of which triples the performance of a person, compared to one who is under stress. Thinking to deliberately calm yourself is equivalent to practicing body-impact brain chemistry. It's like you put a sedative in your vein, but from your thoughts, isn't it great? Try it…
That's the big difference between being average and being great.
Certainly, there are many exceptionally intelligent people, but their imbalanced life and the stress they keep (from the focus of the competition and the prize at the end) makes them not perform 100% from satisfaction.
Satisfaction is crucial for your quality of life, remember the goal is you, work is only a means.
I invite you to discover that new you, calm, serene, alert, bright, cheerful and vibrant that is in you, leaving old paradigms of pressure in the past.
Pressing yourself away from taking you to the so-called "excellence" only takes you away from it.
"A whole life can change by a single wise decision"
Decide to change the way you view productivity, decide to be productive from satisfaction.
Choose to feel good and then produce and not the other way around (I am going to produce to give myself permission to feel good in the end, since I was "good" and did "my duty **").
DUTY **: "My daily quota of recriminations and anxiety for not doing everything perfect the first time without experience" sometimes we can really be our most voracious enemies, what do you think?
Strategy one: Appreciate your precious heart-brain pairing:
The most efficient creative managers when they work in harmony… and they are available to you 24/7, 365 and free!
What more can you ask?
"We do not see reality as it is, we see it as we are." Buddha
What reality are you seeing when you get stressed?
What other angle of reality can you choose to see to change your stress emotion?
When you review possible scenario scenarios, you do it to create solutions or to distress you.
Think about all the times that, being in pressure situations, you managed to create solutions. It was definitely because you focused on creating.
The most efficient people only spend 10% of their time thinking about the problem and 90% of the solution.
Tool 1:
1. Bring the tips of the fingers of both hands together.
2. Straighten your back, look up gently.
3. Place any more photos in hand that you have in the head position.
4. Ask yourself, I know what I don't want, what do I want?
• Putting the fingers together brings balance between the two cerebral hemispheres instantly (cerebral hemispheres are two main parts into which the brain is divided). That balance is necessary to be able to have interior space, to create the solutions you are looking for (and that are already created, only stored in the unconscious).
Straightening your back tells your brain that you have already found the solution, and that therefore the unconscious, where the solution is already created, has to pass it on to your conscious mind.
• Rolling your eyes up keeps you from focusing on distress. It is impossible to distress yourself by holding that position with your eyes. When your eyes look in this position, it is an indication for the brain to search for certain information that is related to creativity.
Taking a headshot takes your brain to alter a mental anchor and induce you to see things from a different angle. (A mental anchor is the link between an external stimulus and an emotion. Do you think what you feel when you see the coffee machine in the morning? That is an anchor.)
• The question focused on What do I want? Focus your mind on imagining solutions.
It is impossible to persistently imagine, without feeling what you imagine.
• The mind does not differentiate reality from imagination; When you vividly imagine something, your brain understands that this is what you want and therefore, synchronizes all the coincidences so that you live the experience that you imagine.
You do not believe me?
Do you remember when you bought your first car? Didn't you start seeing it everywhere? The mind makes you able to detect what you focus on. Its function is to maintain coherence between what you believe and the experiences you live.
Therefore: What will you have to focus on to live the solutions you want?
You can repeat the previous steps, imagine from the feeling and try the results.
Strategy two: Cleaning the system from the guilty virus:
"It is better to do something imperfectly, than nothing perfectly" Robert Schuller.
What is the problem with blissful guilt?
It has the same effect on your system as if you threw a piece of metal in your clothes washer. It blocks your entire nervous system, but you do not realize it, you only feel dissatisfaction and you do not know the origin, then you transfer that emotion to your daily activities and you no longer work the same.
The emotions that we have inside need to come out in the form of an experience. Just as a happy person needs to laugh, a person who feels guilty needs to suffer and places that emotion in his work by getting stressed.
Guilt is the other side of the coin of the belief that you are worth little for not being "perfect" which deep down is the deep-rooted childhood belief of being bad. (An unconscious conclusion saved for years that arises from the conflict between love and hatred for parents). That's it. That is the fault. I'm not talking about responsibility and empathy here, that's different.
How good to know the origin, right? That is what psychoanalysis is for, you do not have to spend years there. Just understanding how the belief was formed to deprogram it, as you see, it only takes minutes to do it.
The problem is that we have linked blame to compliance and performance, that trinomial is fatal.
Guilt builds nothing, it leaves you exhausted and with a feeling that no matter how much you do it is never enough.
One of the ways in which it manifests:
Example:
You set yourself an inordinate amount of objectives, which in the end, you cannot complete.
Secondary profit: You sow inaction to reap guilt, why is it a secondary profit? Because guilt as an emotional need needs to come out and for this it makes you create a scenario full of pressures, to be able to act in it and free yourself.
Why? I could tell you, like many Coaches, that you strive, fight, exhaust yourself and wear and apply "the will", none of this solves the underlying problem that is the belief that you should punish yourself for "not being perfect", (it is an unconscious childhood accord whereby having hated those whom we have loved, we feel bad and guilty, therefore deserving of eternal punishment).
Solution
1. Understand the emotional dynamics of early childhood love and hate: If you want something and don't get it, you become frustrated and hate. Simple. If you love someone and feel that they don't love you as you expect, you get frustrated, then you hate them. But then, you love him again and from that conflict the guilt that is saved arises. Simple, that's it. Once you understand that, your unconscious is released. Because you are thinking your emotion instead of acting it.
2. Accept your feelings, you have the right to feel all your feelings if that includes the darkest and you do not have to earn the right to success fighting, you deserve success for being you and if you strive for your goals it is because you have fun and it is satisfying to do so.
3. Break up your negative emotions, as soon as they arise tell them: Thank you but I no longer wish to continue feeling this way, today I am free, I choose to enjoy now.
4. Learn to accept that you deserve everything good and that you don't have to earn it.
5. See yourself as a valuable human being in your own existence, abandon the idea that you are only "someone" because of "successes", position or money. Living is already a success.
If you had a $ 5 million Security Vault, would you use it to store two two-cent nails?
Your body is the most perfect machine that exists, only the cells that make up your body are in greater numbers than the stars of the Milky Way. Your brain is a sophisticated system that has taken years to evolve to what it is today.
Do you think such a wonder will be made to house a wicked soul worthy of punishment?
Think about it for a while…
You are valuable here and now, you count, you are unique and important and what others think is inside their own heads, if they don't approve of you, the problem is in their heads, don't you think?
Strategy three: Build an altar in your honor:
"If we all did what we are capable of, we would be literally amazed." Emerson
The unconscious is 90% of the brain and is very impressionable, use that characteristic to your advantage:
1. Find photos of important or sacred characters you believe in.
2. Find a photo of yourself and put them in the same place so you can also adore yourself.
That message tells your unconscious that you are precious and valuable as an expression of the divinity of all that exists.
It's simple and fun, it breaks with your deepest and most unconscious beliefs about what is "sacred" and places you in a new powerful and appreciative place for existing.
What are you waiting to love you now?…
Here are some of the usual excuses for putting off self-love: I will love myself when...
Earn the next promotion in the company
Increase my market share
Lose weight to have the figure of fashion magazines (applicable to both women and men)
I crushed myself a lot with a lot of work done under pressure.
Someone do the homework of appreciating and recognizing me instead of myself.
Mention here your favorite excuse for not loving yourself now…
The moment of your love is now; Choose to love yourself now and you will see miracles appear everywhere.
The expansion of time is a consequence of this profound change in:
Beliefs
Vision of yourself
Pressure management
Managing your emotions
Genuine I appreciate for yourself.
When you are in balance you achieve more with less and better.
For your success.
