As I mentioned in another article, self-love has several components, and I talked about 5: self-concept, self-knowledge, self-image, self-confidence and self-acceptance. There are several more, but these are the 5 fundamental pillars on which self-esteem is based, and it is what you have to work to have a healthy self-love.
However, of all these, I consider self-concept to be the basis of self-love. I am convinced that if the self-concept is strong, it is highly unlikely that self-esteem will end up being damaged. In fact, all the strategies you can learn to raise self-esteem, to love yourself more, aim to improve your concept of yourself.
Self-concept refers to what you think of yourself, your opinion of who you are, and includes all the paradigms, beliefs, ideas and perceptions you have of yourself. And it includes not only the concepts of your way of being and your identity, but of your role in the world, your skills and how you can impact society. By definition, focusing on your beliefs and paradigms is subjective, sometimes based on something real, but sometimes not, it depends exclusively on what you think.
Self-concept is something that is created over time, with the course of life, and is almost always very changeable. This is an advantage, because whatever you think of yourself, you can modify it, it is not a universal law or something absolute; And if what you believe is something very negative, that is, you think that you are a person who is useless and that you are the worst, you can change this way of perceiving yourself. And also, a healthy self-concept can be injured if you have negative experiences that you do not know how to handle properly. Self-concept is not something static, nor does it define you, despite the relevant impact it has on your self-esteem, on your achievements, and in general, on your life. The self-concept is built and can be changed.
Why do we say that self-concept is the basis of self-love? Let's look at an example. If you believe that you are little, that it is useless, that you have no talents, that you have no value, that you do not have a role in the world, that nobody loves you, that you are not going to achieve what you set out to do, that you are a hindrance and that in everything you undertake you will fail, it is very difficult to promote this self-love.
But if you think that you are a special person, that you are full of talents, skills and abilities, that you can achieve what they propose if you have a good plan, that you can change and improve any defect, that you have a place In the world, you may not know it yet, that you have many skills that others do not possess, that your life is worth a lot just to exist, that you deserve good things, and that you have enormous potential to create an impact on society, be assured that it will be much easier for you to grow this self-love.
This is why I am convinced that self-esteem is based on a healthy self-concept. When you have positive beliefs about who you are and what you are capable of being and doing, it is more likely that you can see yourself objectively and value your potentials more, and in this way strengthen self-esteem and have better results in your life.
I invite you to take a look at the virtual book "Effective Strategies to Strengthen Self-esteem", where you will find many ways and considerations in the task of working for your self-esteem. Your life will not be the same after reading and applying what this book says.
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Guillermo Mendoza Velez
www.SaludMentalyEmocional.com
