How many times have you decided to do something and, when you were already decided, an unforeseen or last-minute obstacle appeared and you decided to quit? Surely you know what I mean (and if you do not, congratulations!). What happens when you really want to do something but an obstacle prevents you?
The truth? That you would not be so determined, because when you want something really, but really good as the children say, there is no obstacle that stops you. Or not?
It is inevitable in life that obstacles, inconveniences or unforeseen arise, it is so and nothing can be done. So the only thing that determines how much obstacles affect you is your attitude towards them. In general there are two types of predominant attitude, to see which one you identify with:
- Assume that if an obstacle has appeared on the road it is because that road is not for you and that it is better to abandon. Understand that obstacles are inevitable and, as María Tolmo says in her book "A Princess in the Mirror": "They are there to test your perseverance, your creativity and your ingenuity. ”
This is something that I have already spoken to several people, when an obstacle arises, why instead of thinking that it is a sign that you are on the wrong path, you do not interpret it as a final proof that you really want what you say you you want? The problem is that the vast majority of people choose the first option and give up on the first change. So there are not so many people who achieve their goals because they see each obstacle as a sign that this is not the way to go and they abandon. But you know what? That is just another excuse. Just like fear, shame or any "reason" you may have. We all make excuses, why deny it, but you have to be aware of it and not let it paralyze your life. Who wants something, costs something; things are not given away and if you surrender to the first obstacle there you will stay.
However, do you know what successful people have in common, who achieve what they want? Also in any field, they are not stopped by obstacles. Some consider them just another stone of the road, others a lesson to learn. Sometimes they are ignored, sometimes they are so imposing that you are temporarily detained, but you never consider abandoning because there is nothing stopping you and abandoning is not an option. Yes you can contemplate making changes, because it is essential to be flexible, but abandon at the first setback, nothing of that.
That is the attitude that takes you further. It is not difficult to understand, but to achieve. There are people who are innately persistent and there is nothing that resists them, but many others do not. So how do you achieve such an attitude?
One of the fundamental things is to be very clear about why you want to achieve your goal. As I always say it seems obvious, but many people have never really stopped to think about it. If you really want to achieve what you set out to do, you have to have a reason that drives you at all times, so that obstacles are, at most, a nuisance to get rid of in one way or another. Even if you have bad days, even if you sometimes have a thousand doubts and prefer not to get up. Those are the moments when you remind yourself that, as Scarlett O'Hara said:
"After all, tomorrow will be another day."
