There is no human being who lives without problems. We all suffer situations that put us to the test and force us to give more and do things better. We can always take one of two ways: surrender and lose heart or take advantage of difficulties to overcome ourselves. Keep reading.
It is a proven fact that all conduct generates consequences. Every action generates a reaction and sometimes the consequences are unpredictable and even catastrophic for our goals and our emotional stability. From these situations, however, which we usually label as "problems", we can extract positive results.
I define a problem as any situation that is valued by us as limiting our needs, values or objectives, and that generates errors, failures and / or emotional distress. This definition involves mental and cultural aspects: cultural in that the evaluations we make of people, objects or situations as good or bad, are learned in the process of culturalization. And mental, because each person makes her own and particular interpretation of the facts, based on their values, beliefs and individual purposes.
This being the case, what happens for some is a problem, for others it may be just one more situation or even a challenge. It all depends on whether the person considers that he has sufficient, adequate and timely resources to successfully meet the demands that are presented. Oscar Pistorius, is a South African who was born disabled, without the infer part of his legs, and today he is a professional runner who amazes the world by running with special prosthetics.
Due to these evaluations we make, we can create linguistic classifications and say that humans have health, work, relationship, identity, or other problems that we choose to mention.
We must accept that in life there will be problems for some more and others less, because there will always be people or events that we will identify as interfering with our desires. If we assume that many times we will have problems, our best option may be to take advantage of them to learn from them and improve. Sai Baba, spiritual teacher from India, has said that rejoicing is a trap; that only affliction allows us to perceive the true and teaches us caution, circumspection, discernment, detachment and alertness. Carl Jung thought that the most difficult thing makes us move forward, because that which appears as pain or misery, generates a fruit that allows us to give meaning to life. Nietzsche, a German philosopher, considered that suffering was a necessary incentive, a contributing factor to the development and temper of personality.The existence of problems should not therefore discourage us, as they push us towards overcoming, because if I have noticed anything, it is that all true change seems to begin after a bad moment.
It is not my intention to promote suffering, but to help us discover the potential learning that is hidden in every problem, failure or loss and that makes us wiser and more effective, humble and confident, more accurate to choose and do. Analyzing ourselves based on our problems allows us to sow better seeds, obtain better fruits and overcome or control the tendency to live in obedience to impulses, whims or circumstances.
Let's think: What did I do? As I did? When and where? What did I achieve? What did I not achieve? What was missing or failed? What would you do differently if you had another chance? Is the problem house internal or external? This rectifying search, provides data, shows clues and opens new paths of knowledge. It is not a matter of blaming ourselves for failures, for ignorance and unconsciousness are perhaps the primary causes of the problems we face, and it is clear that ignoring is not the same as sinning. As Abraham Lincoln said: “If we could know first where we are and where we are going, we could better judge what to do and how to do things.
In summary, it has been expressed that a) It is impossible to live without problems, b) We are the ones who classify situations as problems, c) Each problem is an oyster that has as its hidden side, the pearl of learning. d) If we reflect on the problems and their legacy, we can improve.
Let us remember that with each effort the muscle becomes stronger, that with each loss we become more humble and that it is at night when you can appreciate the stars. Thanks for reading me.
