By cultivating an optimal relationship with ourselves, we find what we are looking for inside, a way to cultivate that relationship is by making our life a magnificent project. How? Cultivating the 12 basic areas of life that are: Emotional Area, Couple Area, Economic Area, Professional Area, Family Area, Health Area, Social Area, Sexual Area, Ecological Area, Transcendence Area, Knowledge Area and Spiritual Area. By having satisfactory results in each of these areas we will start what I call the inner romance and stop looking outside for what we have inside.
You may be wondering right now yes, but what do I do to live this? How do I get this awareness. ' It's about cultivating the most important relationship in your life that is with yourself, maintaining an affair with yourself. First this and then you can experience it outside, with someone else.
And what is it like to cultivate this magnificent relationship with myself? Keep reading because here I explain how.
The 12 basic areas of life
Well, it is about enriching our life to the maximum, making it a satisfactory and interesting project and for this I propose what is called: The 12 areas of life that are:
1.- Emotional Area.
2.- Partner Area.
3.- Economic Area.
4.- Professional Area.
5.- Family Area.
6.- Health Area.
7.- Social Area.
8.- Sex Area.
9.- Relational Area.
10.- Area of Transcendence.
11.- Knowledge Area.
12.- Spiritual Area.
All human interests are contained in these areas, in such a way that by cultivating them all, our life will become a great project.
If some of the areas could be given more importance than the others, it would be the emotional area, since the importance of emotions is much, they are attributed with everything we do, the word emotion comes from the Greco-Latin roots e = go, movere = towards that is go towards, emotion is what moves us to act.
As for the couple area, note that it is only less than 10% of the entire set of areas, many people have given it supreme importance even as if it were the only or the main one and it is just one more of the life areas.
Romance with yourself will start from cultivating each of these areas to your complete satisfaction and notice that to your complete satisfaction, you are the parameter, nobody else.
Cultivating the 12 Areas:
To cultivate the 12 areas, I suggest giving each one a rating that can be 1 = Poor, 5 = Regular and 10 = Excellent, although you can also include nuances of 2,3,4,6,7,8 and 9. Yes the rating you put in the areas is less than 8 for example, so I suggest you set three goals in the area that has that rating this in order for that area to rise in rating and that is to your satisfaction. Eg: Yes, in your economic area you had a low rating because you are not satisfied with it, you can set a goal of increasing income, I suggest you put the exact amount you want to obtain, every when and the date you are going to obtain it. And so it proceeds with each of the areas with which you are not satisfied.Or if for example you get a low score in your emotional area or in your partner area, a good goal could be to resort to professional psychotherapeutic help to know what I am doing so that this area does not work, that is, to know what my repetitive patterns are. they do not help me have a satisfactory grade in those areas.
In order for these methods to be truly effective and make your life a work of art, read daily the goals that will help you to raise the scores of the deficient areas of life, preferably in the morning when you get up and at night before sleeping.
Perhaps you think that it is a lot of work to have optimal grades in the 12 areas, it can be, more, it is worth making your life a project to your satisfaction as this will build a super relationship with yourself, that is, the inner romance and then the Romance with someone external will come in addition and it will also be of high quality without conflicts or co-dependencies.
Psychotherapeutic work will give you the strength, clarity and consistency to achieve it.
