Is decision making an obstacle for you? It may not be a problem for some people, but for many others it is a cause of stress and insecurity, reaching a great impact personally and professionally. Is this your case?
Every time you have to make an especially important decision you don't know what to do. You go around and around the different possibilities, afraid of making a mistake and thinking about the worst that could happen. So you find yourself stuck, frustrated, out of energy and wanting to make up your mind, right? However, there you go, without being able to make a decision…
Why is it so difficult for you to make decisions? These are some of the possible causes:
- You believe that your decision is going to be permanent, forever. You want to make the best decision, the one that ensures you a perfect result (and that implies the ability to read the future). You are afraid of making mistakes. You are influenced by what other people think and they expect of you.
You realize? No wonder it's hard for you to make decisions, you have high expectations and pressures, and you also need to predict the future!
Here are some recommendations to help you make decisions:
- Be honest with yourself, you already know what to do. Yes, you already know. Another thing is that you want to do it. The number of reasons you have for doing something is inversely proportional to your desire to do it. In short, when you want to do something, you don't need reasons; If you give them to yourself it is because you are not very convinced. Changing your mind is possible! (In most cases). This is something I want you to always keep in mind, because the idea that our decisions are irrevocable generates, and rightly so, a lot of anxiety. Decisions do not have to be for life (as I said before, in most cases), and nothing happens if you change your mind later.The really important thing is not the decision itself, but the consequences, the repercussion. That means that any decision can be for the best if you know how to deal with the consequences. It is not a bad decision to make a mistake when choosing, but it is a bad decision to do nothing about it (apart from complaining).Don't be obsessed with making the best possible decision, aim to choose the option that involves greater personal or professional development. If, after a while, the chosen option no longer satisfies you, do not think that you made a mistake but that you need to continue growing, that said choice no longer contributes anything to your development.
So what's the easiest way to make a decision?
Start by listening to yourself and asking yourself what you really want to do. When the options to consider are similar, I use a method that seemed absurd at first but that I have used a lot:
Grab a coin (I'm not kidding, keep reading), promise yourself that you will do what the coin says. Flip the coin and see the result.
What did you feel when tossing the coin? What result did you want it to come out? And when the coin fell? How did you feel? Relieved, disappointed, excited? All this tells you what you want to know. And I assure you that it works, almost unintentionally you will find yourself thinking "make it expensive" or "nooo, I preferred the other" and thus you will realize what you really want. Really, try it, you are not leaving your future in the hands of a coin but you are listening to what you really feel.
Will these recommendations help you to always make the best decisions? No, nor is that its purpose either. Remember that nothing happens if you make mistakes, that you will learn, that you will improve…
