When we believe that we are in possession of the truth, we insist on wanting to be right above all else, and this can cause conflicts and deteriorate relationships.
Today we are going to talk about those occasions when we are sure of what we say, but the other one (s) insists on wanting to be right on a recurring basis. It is important that you know how to handle this situation, and that is why I am going to give you some guidelines so that you avoid conflict, so that your relationships do not suffer.
Self-analysis
The first step is self-analysis. Is there a possibility that I am the one who wants to be right, and I am not being reasonable?
This first step is very healthy. It is not just about humility, it is emotional intelligence, since there is always that possibility. Can you imagine realizing after you were the one who insisted on wanting to be right and the one that generated the conflict? Avoid feeling bad afterwards, doing this reflection before.
Respect for yourself in relationships
Sometimes, especially with certain people, we always give in. Until a day comes when the situation gets out of hand. Think that relationships must be balanced so that they work well, and when it is always the same that gives in, in the end they end up feeling resentful because you end up feeling that the other lacks respect, without thinking that you have consented.
The problem is that you start giving up out of courtesy, or to avoid conflicts, or even out of love for your partner or someone close to you. But that eventually ends up taking its toll. You must be consistent: if you do it for "real" love, you won't mind giving in. But if you do it for not generating conflicts, think that the other will end up getting used to it and that will make her want to always be right.
Restoring order in relationships
If you are already experiencing this situation, learn from your mistakes next time, but what to do now? The best thing for you will be to change things, it is not good for your relationship that the situation continues and that it causes you more and more disgust.
Think of the way to fix it that best suits your personality. You could talk to that person and explain what you feel, although without making him solely responsible, it would not be fair since you also have responsibility in this matter for having given up so many times. You could stop giving in and put up with the downpour in the hope that the other person will get used to your new "me" who is no longer willing to give in forever. Or think of other possibilities that best suit your way of being.
Personal relationships matter a lot to us, since the human being is mainly relational. Whenever you give in a second time to someone who tends to want to be right, think about how you will feel if the situation repeats into a habit. If you do not like what you see, remedy now to avoid conflicts in the future, being assertive when refuting and knowing how to end if you do not agree.
"What is important is not what destiny makes us, but what we make of it" Florence Nightingale.
