I am sure you started reading this article somewhat excited, hoping that it will give you a few magic formulas to release stress. Or maybe you're waiting for me to talk about immersion baths, transcendental meditation, or incense sticks. Not so, and I have nothing against these techniques. But this time I want to talk to you about keys that you can modify because it is about your behavior and your thinking (this is the secret of personal and professional development). And these keys are probably familiar to you and you've heard them before. But, guess what… you surely know them but the difficult thing is not having the information, but putting it into practice… So review these keys, reflect on your behavior and your thinking, and get going to generate that change you are needing:
Don't take problems personally
A bomb to start with, I know. This is something that happens very often with certain types of people (and I say "certain type" because it is true that there are others who go around the world without worrying a bit or what they sometimes have to consider). But for others, there is not only concern but there is "treachery and intention." You feel identified? “Your boss gave you that task to do last Friday. Surely he thought that this way he could ruin your weekend and thus make him happier. ” Sounds logical? Could it be that this task arose because another previous one ended on Friday at that time? “One of your colleagues sold a product to a customer as if it were the best in the universe. Now it's up to you to explain to the client that this result is not so automatic. Surely your partner did it on purpose,to make your life more miserable ”. Really? Doesn't it sound like a novel? Could it be that your partner does not know how to explain the truth of the product to the customer? Could it be that you are only seeing the negative side of the product and you have a hard time reinforcing the positive with the customer? With this I am not justifying the behavior of anyone, I am just saying that it would be better for you to think that things "just are". Sometimes good, sometimes bad, but they have not been done on purpose, to bother you or make your life more difficult. If you can do something to change them, great. But stop thinking that the world is against you. Think about it…Really? Doesn't it sound like a novel? Could it be that your partner does not know how to explain the truth of the product to the customer? Could it be that you are only seeing the negative side of the product and you have a hard time reinforcing the positive with the customer? With this I am not justifying the behavior of anyone, I am just saying that it would be better for you to think that things "just are". Sometimes good, sometimes bad, but they have not been done on purpose, to bother you or make your life more difficult. If you can do something to change them, great. But stop thinking that the world is against you. Think about it…Really? Doesn't it sound like a novel? Could it be that your partner does not know how to explain the truth of the product to the customer? Could it be that you are only seeing the negative side of the product and you have a hard time reinforcing the positive with the customer? With this I am not justifying the behavior of anyone, I am just saying that it would be better for you to think that things "just are". Sometimes good, sometimes bad, but they have not been done on purpose, to bother you or make your life more difficult. If you can do something to change them, great. But stop thinking that the world is against you. Think about it…on purpose to bother you or make your life more difficult. If you can do something to change them, great. But stop thinking that the world is against you. Think about it…on purpose to bother you or make your life more difficult. If you can do something to change them, great. But stop thinking that the world is against you. Think about it…
Learn to give problems the place they deserve
Another bomb. Try to de-dramatize, take distance. Look, I'm going to tell you a personal anecdote. If you follow me for a while you will already know that before having this Coaching and Mentoring business, I worked 10 years in an IT Project Consultant. They were important projects, many times in renowned companies in the international market, and it happened once when "something stopped working" and the "catastrophe" arrived. I will not deny that it was important to solve it and that energy had to be put into bringing everything back to normal. The client company could lose money and had to be avoided. But why despair, get angry and, as it is said here, “tear your clothes”? If it is much better to concentrate, focus and resolve it. No drama, no crying, no pain.It's also not like we were implementing an artificial respirator system and it turned off… (you know, the ones that keep people alive when they're in a coma). Nor was it the wallstreet system that caused millions of dollars to be lost in a second and with them thousands of jobs. Attack problems with responsibility and focus, YES. Get desperate and go crazy, it's not worth it. In fact, people who fit artificial respirators surely need calm in order to solve a major problem. The drama never leads anywhere.not worth it. In fact, people who fit artificial respirators surely need calm in order to solve a major problem. The drama never leads anywhere.not worth it. In fact, people who fit artificial respirators surely need calm in order to solve a major problem. The drama never leads anywhere.
Remember and reinforce what you love about your work
I know it's hard to remember sometimes, especially when you're in trouble after problem. But what was it that you used to enjoy your job before you were "evicted by difficulties and stress"? (how much drama!) The good work environment? The possibilities of career development and new promotions? The money that you take home and that allows you to have that status for you and your family? Doing new things every day? The possibility of setting the course and not only doing what "others say"? Once you remember it, now reinforce it. If it is the good work climate, how long have you been not having lunch with your coworkers and they talk about something that is NOT work ?. If it is the possibility of developing your career, how about capitalizing on everything you are experiencing and "using" it for an upcoming promotion?If it is the money that allows you to take this train of life, how about remembering your last vacation on that exclusive and expensive beach, or even better, start planning next year? If it is setting the course, what actions can you take to modify the current situation that is so unfavorable? Now do it systematically. It is not enough to do it once, you must get into the habit of these things every week or every month, and in this way "reinforce" the good that your work offers you, beyond the problems of everyday life.You must get into the habit of these things every week or every month, and in this way "reinforce" the good that your work offers you, beyond the problems of day to day.You must get into the habit of these things every week or every month, and in this way "reinforce" the good that your work offers you, beyond the problems of day to day.
Now, if you have done this exercise and discover that there is no longer anything you enjoy about your work, your actions should be different (and I am not saying that you slam the door and leave). Next week I will share with you an article that will clarify a little for you if you are suffering and suffering a job that no longer pleases you, but you are afraid to change.
I hope you liked these keys. Well I'm actually sure you haven't enjoyed this article because it's quite honest and somewhat brutal. But I hope it has been useful to get you thinking and to decide what the next step to take is, so that the stress of your work does not become the only thing that you take away from there.
