We know that for women between 30 and 50 years old, one of the biggest obstacles is the reconciliation of work and family life. Jobs are increasingly demanding, and being late home and taking care of children, partner, leisure, housework… sometimes becomes an impossible mission.
Now, what should be your attitude to improve this situation? What is truly in your hand, as it usually happens in life, is not just trying to change what is happening. You can also choose how you live what is happening and how you make decisions based on that.
Today we are going to talk about what to do and where to be emotionally positioned to make the right decisions in a good balance.
What is the ideal formula for conciliation
I already mentioned in 3 Tips that will help you in reconciling work and family life, that unfortunately there is no magic formula that allows a reconciliation that fits all people, nor an ideal number of hours to dedicate to work, leisure, to the children, to the house…
Only you can know what would be the ideal balance for you, how to distribute your time to reconcile your work and family life, and for that it is essential that you be VERY honest with yourself.
Study how your current situation makes you feel
We have all had the feeling of spending too many hours at work, and that often creates a certain conscience for many women. If you want to know what to do to improve your balance, you first need to know:
- How you feel now, reflecting from the head and then from the heart. Write down both, how you would like to feel, allowing you to imagine your ideal situation. (Of course I'm not talking about you playing the lottery or marrying an Arab sheik…). Write it down - what you could do to feel the way you would like.
What to do to feel the way you would like regarding your settlement
You can approach it from two points of view. The first is what things can you change in your life. Perhaps you can afford a part-time job, or you could improve your time management to go out before work, or hire help at home, or make your partner understand the need to distribute tasks, etc.
The second point of view is to learn to assume what you are going to live at the moment, although being clear that you will not prolong the situation more than is strictly necessary if you dislike it. Is it really essential that you do it as you are doing? If the answer is yes, accept it. Acceptance is a difficult lesson to learn, but one that brings us closer to happiness. Of course I recommend that you combine the two points of view!
The real discomfort comes from not knowing what we really want. Decide how you want and you can make your reconciliation between your work and family life at this time, understanding that this does not have to mean resigning or ceasing to care about the other party. This way you will find the best way to experience conciliation, one that allows your balance.
"The life of man is his conception of life." Ludwig Feuerbach.
