The change scares us, it is normal because it takes us out of our 'comfort zone' and our minds fear losing control. But just because it happens to everyone does not mean that there is nothing we can do. It is our obligation to strive to overcome the fear of failure that prevents us from living the life we want and that we also deserve, whether in our personal life, work life or in entrepreneurship. Let's put an end to fear.
Change in personal life
There are countless important issues in our personal lives that can incline us to change, such as changing houses, cities, countries, living with someone, separating from someone, having a child, buying a house, dividing up an inheritance, and a long etcetera that, when we talk about important things, can have a great effect on our future.
The fear of failure is always the result of your lack of self-confidence, and it will have consequences regardless of the change. When you feel that fear, think about what led you to make that decision. If you are a sensible person, surely you studied the advantages and disadvantages and appreciated the effects that your decision could have on your life. If, despite your assessment, you were inclined to change, trust your own judgment! In life there is nothing safe, accept the risk.
Change in working life
Whether you are going to change your position within the company where you work or if you are going to make a change to another company, you will be wondering how you will fare in the new position, how you will do it, how you will be valued in the company in your new position. position etc. All these questions are normal, the problem is to live them from the fear of failure, because they limit you. And not only that, when we operate from fear we are depleted and therefore closer to failure by not developing our full potential.
As I already mentioned in my article "How to make a work decision that affects your family" you must demystify the fear of failure, we have been taught that failure is the worst thing in the world when it is actually part of the learning process. Also in working life, that fear of failure is the result of your lack of self-confidence, and it will have a harmful effect on your adaptation to the new position. When you feel that fear, connect with moments of success in previous positions, with congratulations from your superiors, with the satisfaction you felt when seeing a job well done or a timely delivery of something complicated, etc.
The shift towards entrepreneurship
When the change is towards entrepreneurship, the fear of failure is even greater. And the environment doesn't help. When I decided to leave my Manager position in a major multinational in which I had a very good salary and status, almost nobody understood it. And the people who love us think, which increases our fear due to the pressure they exert that, although it is never with bad intention, it does come to seriously harm us.
When you feel that the fear of failure haunts you, connect with the illusion that you feel for the new, with all the reasons that have pushed you to make the decision to lean towards entrepreneurship such as working in what you are passionate about, making your own decisions, not depend on anyone, have no income ceiling, decide your own schedule, and a long etcetera that you surely have in mind and that inclined you to make your decision.
When you have to make a change either in your personal life or in your work life, eliminate the fear of failure. Demystify it by accepting it as part of learning, and trusting yourself. When you accept the change in your personal life, at work or towards entrepreneurship, you have had to weigh the pros and cons of such a change, so trust your judgment and use your energy to prevent problems instead of wasting it in a absurd fear that does not give you anything but does take you away from your goal.
"Only when we stop fearing do we begin to live" Dorothy Thompson.
