Even when you have traced your path to what you want to be and do in your future, you will not be able to avoid encountering stressful situations and difficult moments that threaten to stray from your route. Therefore, it is vitally important that you learn how to handle these situations and thus be able to conquer your goals.
When you are unmotivated, sad, angry or lazy, those emotions predispose you in a certain way towards the actions you are taking at that particular moment. On the other hand, when you feel confident and motivated, you will feel that a great energy invades you and that you can achieve anything you set your mind to. That is why it is so important to be attentive to your emotions and your moods so that you can intervene in them and modify them to obtain the best results from the actions you take.
So when you feel that depression and discouragement are invading you, use these simple techniques that will help you get out of the emotions that are restraining you faster:
- Take a few moments for free writing. Take a notebook and a pencil and write everything that is going through your mind in those moments. You must be on the lookout for your thoughts. This will allow you not only to vent and clarify the situation that is demotivating you, it will also give you an outline of thoughts so that you can change them consciously. Learn to accept the emotions that overwhelm you without resistance. Every emotion has a cause and involves learning. This will allow you to rescue the positive within the crisisand he will leave you a teaching that you can use tomorrow.Remember the happy moments of your life. Write when they have happened and what situation you were in, try to relive the feelings you had in those moments to help you combat negative emotions. Listen to that music that you like the most. Take a few moments to sing and dance to some tune. It is impressive how music has the power to change moods. Get in touch with those you love and trust the most, they are your containment group. If you want you can talk to them and ask them to give you their opinion or just give you some sympathy. Give yourself a taste that will lift your spirits. It can be anything from going to the hairdresser, going for a walk in a plaza,play with your kids or go see a movie. Take a moment to pamper yourself, raise your spirits and return to the path of your future. Make plans,write in detail what is holding you back or demotivating you, write possible solutions. This will help you realize what you need to keep going and who you can ask for help to do so. Get in touch with your dreams and personal goals. Remember why you are doing what you are doing and keep in mind the rewards you will receive when you reach your goals. Take time to relax. This can be as simple as taking a dip or listening to quiet music. Concentrate on your breathing and set your mind blank. Relax one by one all the muscles in your body. Express your love to those who are closest to your heart. A gesture of affection or a word of affection can greatly please the people you love most. The fact of loving a person does not mean that he must know it innately.It has to be expressed and demonstrated to grow.
And here you are, 10 simple strategies that you can follow whenever you feel that negative emotions are taking over your life. I know they will help you in the most difficult moments of your life. Remember that I am here to help you along the way to what you want to BE, DO and HAVE in your ideal future.
Here I want to share with you a Zen story, so that you can begin to know the GREAT value that you have, beginning to value you, because you are unique and unrepeatable in the world!
The value of things
“I come, master, because I feel so little that I don't have the strength to do anything. They tell me that I am useless, that I do nothing well, that I am clumsy and quite silly. How can I improve? What can I do to make them value me more? ”
The teacher, without looking at him, said:
-I'm sorry boy, I can't help you, I must solve my own problem first. Maybe later… - and pausing, he added: If you wanted to help me, I could solve this issue more quickly and then maybe I can help you.
"I… delighted, master," the young man hesitated but felt that he was once again devalued and his needs were postponed.
"Good," the teacher agreed.
He took off a ring that he had on the little finger of his left hand and gave it to the boy, he added - take the horse that is out there and ride to the market. I must sell this ring because I have to pay a debt. It is necessary that you obtain for him the largest possible sum, but do not accept less than a gold coin. Go now and return with that coin as fast as you can.
The young man took the ring and left.
As soon as he arrived, he began offering the ring to the merchants. They looked at him with some interest, until the young man said what he wanted for the ring.
When the young man mentioned the gold coin, some laughed, others turned his face away, and only one old man was kind enough to take the trouble to explain that a gold coin was very valuable to give in exchange for a ring. In an effort to help, someone offered him a silver coin and a copper pot, but the young man was instructed not to accept less than a gold coin, and he rejected the offer.
After offering his jewel to everyone who crossed the market -more than a hundred people- and dejected by his failure, he mounted his horse and returned.
How the young man wished he had that gold coin himself. He could then have given it to the teacher to release him from his concern and then receive his advice and help. Entered the room.
"Master," he said, "I'm sorry, you can't get what you asked for." Maybe I could get two or three silver coins, but I don't think I can fool anyone about the true value of the ring.
"How important what you said, young friend," replied the teacher, smiling. We ought to first know the true value of the ring. Reassemble and go to the jeweler. Who better than him to know it? Tell him you want to sell the ring and ask him how much he gives you for it. But no matter what he offers you, don't sell it to him. Come back here with my ring.
The young man rode again.
The jeweler examined the ring in the light of the lamp, looked at it with his magnifying glass, weighed it, and then said:
-Tell the master, boy, if he wants to sell it now, I can't give him more than 58 gold coins for his ring.
"58 coins?!" Exclaimed the young man.
"Yes," replied the jeweler, "I know that in time we could get about 70 coins for him, but I don't know… if the sale is urgent…"
The Young man ran excitedly to the teacher's house to tell him what had happened.
"Sit down," said the teacher after listening to him. You are like this ring: a jewel, valuable and unique. And as such, only an expert can truly evaluate you. What are you doing for life pretending that anyone discovers your true value?
And saying this, he put the ring back on the little finger of his left hand.
