Has it ever happened to you that doubt and fear have paralyzed you in making work decisions that affected your family? Because it is one thing to decide something that only affects me, and quite another to make a decision that implies a change, when it will affect my loved ones.
Today we will see what our greatest fears are in decision-making, and how to act when doubt prevents us from making them.
The most frequent fears regarding these decisions
The most important decisions that refer to the world of work are usually: request or accept a promotion, change of position, change of company, undertake, return to work, and ask for a leave of absence.
In any of these cases, the fears are repeated:
- fear of failure, fear of success, fear of repentance, fear of economic impact
Fear to fail
The capitalist system in which we live is very competitive, and this makes failure look like 'the worst' that can happen to you. However, it is by erring as we learn, that the human being grows and develops by means of error from childhood. Dedramatize failure, understanding that it is the only way to advance in life, and think about what you will contribute to your family if it goes well, and that you can always rectify if you do not succeed the first time.
Fear of success
Among women with professional responsibilities, and I speak to you with conviction since all my clients are, this is probably the greatest fear we suffer. It is an unconscious fear that is difficult for us to recognize, but that if you think about it makes sense, since motherhood is associated with the concern of spending so much time in our working life that this prevents us from being with our family as much as we want. Even for those who do not have children it can be a problem because they feel they do not have time for themselves or their partners.
Fear of regret
Well yes dear friend, there will always be the possibility that you will not get it right the first time. Still, with the passage of time it hurts more to regret not having tried it than not having been successful. Because if you do not succeed, you have already proven that you dare, and you can always make the decision to change again, while if you do not even try, you will feel frustration the rest of your life.
Fear of economic impact
This fear accompanies us in all the changes, because culturally they have educated us seeking security. But times have changed, and job security has ceased to exist. Those jobs that were for life no longer exist, not even working for the State. Who assures you that if you don't move your position is insured? Whenever possible and especially when your decision is to undertake, try to temporarily combine your old position with your entrepreneurship, until you have enough income to ask for a reduction in working hours, and finally take the definitive leap when your income allows you to survive.
When our work decision affects our family, it is inevitable to have greater fears than when it only affects ourselves. Be aware of this and discuss it with your partner so that your decision-making has more points of view and also out of respect for that person. But keep in mind that the final decision has to be yours alone, after objectively weighing pros and cons. And don't forget that if you are happy, your family will be much better than if you are frustrated because you never dared to change.
"Never let doubt paralyze your actions. Always make all the decisions you need to make, even without having the security or certainty that you are deciding correctly. ” Paulo Coelho.
