Why do you keep doing nothing when things are not going well?
Has it ever happened to you that you know something is wrong or at least not as good as you would like, and yet you still do nothing?
Surely, it is totally normal, something that happens to us or has happened to all of us at one time or another but that does not benefit you at all. In fact, you probably often ask yourself "why if I know I have to change, I do nothing?"
Although the most useful thing in these cases is not asking "why" but "how can I do it", it is true that sometimes knowing why can open your eyes and change your attitude.
Normally, the most frequent reason is some kind of fear: of changes, failure, not being up to the task, etc. But there is another reason that is not usually taken into account and it is also important…
Nothing more and nothing less than your pride, the need to be right.
That is what makes you not want to give your arm to twist. And more if someone tells you, and more if that someone is not someone you consider to have to know more than you. An example is the case of Laura Roeder, who at the age of 23 was a millionaire and an expert in social networks, and many older people did not get the idea that someone so young could teach them, let alone pay them for it; and no longer pay him, but so young he would have gone further than they.
If you really want to get going and change things, it is important to have an open attitude and be willing to learn from people who are where you want to be, who have achieved what you want. This seems obvious but this is where pride comes in:
- With how young she is she will tell me what to do. For her it will work but I am different (that obsession with which we are different from everyone else and, although in many things yes, in many others I have not. I have spoken with many people who think that something happens only to them until I say no, that it has happened to almost all my clients and myself and they are surprised. The truth is that in many cases, a solution can be valid for many people, even if you have to adjust it a little). It is that in my country it is different.
There are a thousand excuses that make you refuse to do things that would turn your situation around and one of them is that pride of "it cannot be that this / this one who is younger, beautiful, ugly, from Spain, from Mongolia, with children, without children, tell me what works ". Does that attitude sound familiar to you?
If you add to that all the fears and insecurities, the only thing you are going to achieve is to continue as you are (and while, by the way, that person who "is not up to you" continues to advance).
What cannot be is that you know that you are going astray and remain the same. As Suzanne Evans says in her book “The way you do anythi ng is the way you do everything”: If you were driving and in a moment you would realize that you were wrong and going in the opposite direction, wouldn't you turn around immediately ? What sense would it make to go in the opposite direction knowing that you are not doing well? It would be ridiculous to do it just because you want to continue being right, right?
Well the same thing happens with your business, profession or any personal situation. There is no point in going in the wrong direction just because you insist on being right.
The solution? Write down the one that Suzanne Evans gives in her book: the Band-Aid method. You already know it, when you put a band aid you can remove it little by little so that it does not hurt you (or even let it fall by itself) or you can choose to give a quick pull, more painful yes, but you finish before.
And it is that change is painful, it always affects you in some way, that must be clear. But more clearly you have to want to do something when things are not as you want.
In short, why are you still how you are? Out of fear or pride. Solution: be willing to change direction when you are wrong and use the band-aid method, the sooner the better, even if it hurts the more it will be faster. What do you think?
